Do you think married life is better than bachelor life?

@sagnik42 (3592)
India
October 26, 2009 4:57am CST
I am a bachelor but my friend is getting married next week. So an hour ago we were having this discussion about which life is better. I was teasing him by saying don't get married and the poor fellow took it all seriously. He started giving me the pros and cons of bachelor and married life and I was bombarded with half an hour of non stop lecture. By the time he finished I was almost reduced to tears.
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@Zenstrive (237)
• Indonesia
26 Oct 09
Of course married life is better. You have two heads to share problems, four hands to do work in the house, four ears to communicate to neighbours, and two hearts to take care of each other!
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@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
27 Oct 09
Zenstrive, one thing you forgot to mention, two individuals to create problems.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
27 Oct 09
I think both of the two status have their advantages and disadvantages. For bachelor life, you can have the maxium freedom ,but sometimes you may feel lonely. For married life, you can have the partner, but you lost your freedom. Therefore, whatever status you chose, just enjoy the moment.
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• Philippines
27 Oct 09
i think married life is the happiest life you'll ever experience! :) it's your family that makes it the happiest day in you life. Your husbie/wifey, your adorable children. And i think being a married person shows your capability of taking responsibilities. a big responsibility to face. and bachelor life, well, it's cool you do whatever you want, no limitations, just yourself. that's cool, but in the long run, you'll feel it's tiring. and somehow, makes you feel alone. why? yes, you do have your parents that you call your family. but, they are not entitled to stay forever with you. and your friends, they have they're own life. and someday, they will also get married and start a family. and then you're alone. very lonely. but sometimes time will come, and love will knock on you and it just happens, you're not expecting it so destiny make the move for your future. :)
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
27 Oct 09
While reading your response I felt like it was poetry. It was music to the ears (although I did not read it aloud). Thank you for such a wonderful response. I hope love will indeed knock my door someday.
@JAG2009 (266)
• India
26 Oct 09
Poor you! Can I give you a very boring response and say: There's good and bad in everything. There are two sides to every coin. The grass is always greener on the other side. Enough?... or shall I go on? Ok, just kidding, Sagnik. I do believe, though, that life - whether married or not, can be pleasant or not - depending on how you choose to live it. There is no rule that says either condition is the best. I'd say that choice is one that you have to make for yourself. Does that answer your question or have I merely given you more food for thought?
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
27 Oct 09
You surely have given me a lot to chew on for a long time. I am not sure I can digest it though.
• India
27 Oct 09
It is cilly to take the matter seriously.the life style of both is different and both are enjoyable only.why people think that they will lose all their enjoyments after getting married?Why they dont think in positive way that they can live more happily and have new life after getting married?Making a new relationship is a starting for our new life.There are many ways that we can enjoy by our married life with our loving spouse and we can enjoy with our friends like before after our marriage also.there is no need to worry that you will lose ur enjoyments after getting married.Please think in a positive way.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
27 Oct 09
No thanks, I like the negative way better.The more, the merrier, isn't it?
• Bangladesh
27 Oct 09
i think married life is better than bachelor life
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
28 Oct 09
Can you give any reason for that?
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
hahaha... I think, being married is better, basing on my experience. You will be obliged to set your goals and priorities. Before I got married, I wasn't able to manage my life well, particularly my finances. And I was not motivated to strive hard (work), I'm too relax. I never ask for anything more than what I had. =)
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Oct 09
With marriage loneliness goes. I heard that many times in my youth. There are indeed pros and cons but if you want companionship and a shared life then there's nothing better than a good wife. I never married but I would still like to do it and the reason is haveing someone there for you.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
You should be hapyy with your friend because this is the best time in his life and you as a friend should support him. And regarding your question, in my own opinion it is much better to have a family than to be single. Yes single life is free from responsibilities but are you still happy being bachelor when you are old and no one was on your side? Of course not. Having a family makes life complete.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
I am a female and I am not really sure what it is the male. Some guys do not want to get married yet for the reason that they are not ready for a serious commitment or any responsibilities. This was my husband's words before. But when we got married I haven't heard any regrets from him. Much is that he was thankful to be married. For he was able to have someone who could always be with him in his ups and downs. Someone to share with his fears, happiness, hurts, sorrows and accomplishments. He already have some reason to work for he knows where his effort would go. We have a daughter now that gives him much happiness and erases all his tireness everytime she smile and call him daddy.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
27 Oct 09
You have rightly pointed out what we are afraid of. Actually, we feel superior to women and as a result think of them as a burden on our shoulders. But once they get married they realize that they need women more than women need them. Guys, am I right?
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
27 Oct 09
For me, bachelor life is really a better choice for me. Singleness is great because you are completely independent, and you have the freedom to be a little selfish sometimes. For example, if you want to stay out late with your friends or take a weekend getaway on a whim, no one will be bothered if you don't come home that night. You get to date around, if you're into that sort of thing, and experience the variety of meeting different types of people in that way. You can decorate your apartment however you want without worrying that someone won't like your choice of sofa. If you are living a bachelor life, the world is yours and you don't have anyone's feelings to consider, but your own. Of course, if you don't want to get married, you have to put up with the loneliness.
• United States
27 Oct 09
I think being married is better for you, but being a bachelor is more fun. having a wife will keep you out of trouble and keep you grounded. also you get to do share the happy things in life with someone you care about and someone who cares for you. The onlhy bad thing is that you have to maintain the relationship. this can be tedious and annoying at times but its worth it. Being a bachelor is fun because you can do wat you want when you want, without anyone hassling you. You can spend more time with the bros too and not worry about gettin home late or your wife gettin mad.
• India
27 Oct 09
married life is better than bachelor life. if your partner is support you. if your partner i support you than your problems will be solve easily.
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Hi Sagnik! I think there will always come a point in someone's life when you would long to come home and find someone waiting for you. When you would be sick and not be afraid at all because you know someone would care for you - when you are afraid but not alone...
• India
26 Oct 09
You do know the ‘dilli ka laddoo’ saying don’t you…enjoy your bachelor days as long as it lasts but marriage has its own charms too. Actually, as we move in life, our priorities and view points change…so while bachelorhood feels wonderful in early youth, you will certainly want to be married by mid-30s. Though I must say that after 12 years of marriage and endless tiffs, sometimes both my husband and me agree that we should not have married…and the next moment, we are chatting like best friends! Marriage is a wonderful journey which two people share in their path of life.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
26 Oct 09
i would have to say being married i see what my friends goes through with dating and all it makes me glad i am married but my wife is the real reason i am glad i am married
@abee1020 (116)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
it depends. My two cousins are getting married this year *with different partners of course*.. and it shocked me ,I don't thnk they are ready for that because of their young ages.. but then, they're obliged to do so.. *and I think you already know why* I'm not against their marriage but are they ready for it?!.Love is not enough to make the marriage work..married life means more responsibilities, lesser freedom.. If you're ready(financially, physically, emotionally, socially)/responsible enough to handle a family and you already found the "one" who you think youre gonna spend your life with.. then married life is good.. If not then better be a bachelor.. free, no responsibilities! it takes time.. live life the way you always wanted.. whether you're married or not. things happen when the less you expect it.. so be prepared.. haha *kidding*
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
26 Oct 09
It's really a matter of preference. Some guys (or even girls) are made for single-blessedness, these people value their independence so much they're not willing to give it up for marriage. So married life for them will be like living in a cage. Guys who go into marriage are the ones who are family oriented, the kind of guy who feels that the best life there is for a man is to share it with the one he loves, be tied with her by the matrimony of marriage, and build a family. Marriage, if it works out well, will be like heaven for him.
@vincyk (198)
• China
26 Oct 09
For most of person maybe the answer is yes but not means everybody.In my opinions to be married is better than bachelor life.Now you think to be a bachelor is funny because you are young and you donot wanna a wife to bother you or sth.But when you are getting older maybe you will feel lonely and boring.I think many men do not want to get into the marriage is because they do not want to give responsibility to the whole family and considered it as a burden but when you are old,this actually is a tresure of your life.So when you are young ,just go to find a good wife who is loving you and married with her.Wish you good luck~
• China
26 Oct 09
Hi,congradulations to your friend! Of course,married life is better than bachelor life,at least,there is smiling face when he open eyes,there is delicious breakfast when he get up,there is medicine when he was ill...,but you ,my friend,what do you have now?