If you thought another woman wanted your partner
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
26 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I don't know if is me being a pessimist or just a realist but I would do nothing. If I am the " One" he wants and needs , No one can change that. And if I am not,and this woman is his Dream, there is Nothing I can do about it. It is all up to him and his True feelings.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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2 Jan 10
I think you are right that if a person wants to go off with another person they will do it anyway no matter what happens.If someone wanted my partner or he wanted another person i would shake the persons hand and say i wish you luck as you will be needing that,lol.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jan 10
If I really love a guy ,I want him to be happy with or without me. So if this other person makes himhappy then I would just bow out.
@meapas (2436)
• India
27 Oct 09
Share and spare what you like. This is what your elders had taught you isn't it?. Make life more funnier from your side atleast.
@pikachu01 (39)
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29 Oct 09
i wouldn't be moved nor be insecure if that happen because i know my partner will not find anybody like me even if he replaces me with tons of other women
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Of course I will be worried because she can cause our marriage to be broken. Although it is needed that you have a trust on your partner,you still have to guard him or her on that woman. It is your partner's conscience if he or she will do it. God Knows if he will do it or not. Even if your partner will promise to you that will never happen, you still have to be aware for your relationship.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
29 Oct 09
I could seriously say my partner would not be interested in anyone else. So I wouldn't worry about another women. She would not have a chance with him because its just not in his "makeup" to cheat. Girls could try and try and he won't break that is one I'm sure of. Not to mention with all the diseases out there that alone would make him run in the opposite direction.
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Jealousy is not the best way to react to such situation. I think if you have any doubts about your relationship with your husband, you should talk them over. You should not worry about other women wanting your husband. It should be flattering to you knowing your husband is that popular. Its another thing if he acts on that. The same goes for you, if other men want you. It does not mean you are available or he is available.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I don't worry about my boy friend being interested in another woman. We are so totally dedicated to each other that the thought of straying has never entered either of our minds.
I figure that if my partner was interested in another woman, then he could jolly well go to her, but my parting words would be "don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out" and the second thing would be "don't expect to come back, I play second fiddle to NO ONE!". If they stray once, they will do it again. (Yes, I take no prisoners and cut no slack. I was cheated on by a man that I adored and he dumped me for a woman that had a house and two cars. He called me a few years ago wanting to come back (after he had dumped me and married the woman three months later) that he had made a big mistake. I agreed he had made a big mistake, dumping me in the first place, and no I wasn't interested in being second fiddle.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Hi, Jugs!
A few times, women have actually told me they want to take my husband away from me. I think it's flattering for us both. He laughs at it, and I tell them to try. I'm really grateful to be so secure in our relationship that I know there's no way it could happen!
@celticeagle (166912)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Oct 09
I am not with anyone right now but when I was I trusted him and knew her. She was a drinker and messed up. My ex and her used to be together so I knew there was baggage. She would put him in some weird situations and he never took advantage of what was offered him. Not too many men like him around. Aside from that bit of history I figure I am the one any significant other of mine comes home to. If it ever happened we would be threw. Period. I always make it clear from the onset how it would go down. Life is too short and there is no reason to have to watch a man and not trust him. He is either with you or he tells you that it is to begin with him and then you chose if you want to live that way or not.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Hey jugs! I have that problem right now in fact! There is a woman that has
been calling my boyfriend lately on his cell phone! I have caught bits and
pieces of their conversations and when I question him about it he says that
they are "just friends"! I already know that he is a liar and a cheat so
I know that I can't believe a damn word that he says! He has told me some
really stupid unbelievable story about her "problems" that she is having
and how he is "trying to help her"! He is full of sh1t! I have about had
enough of his lies and am about ready to kick his lying azz out for good!
I know him well enough to know that he wouldn't tell me the truth and this
beotch is calling him every day! She called him at 12:45am last weekend!
She has no idea that he lives with me! Of course she doesn't know because
he doesn't want her to! I am just about done with him!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Oct 09
I was in a situation years ago when a girl was plotting to take my boyfriend away from me and she did not succeed but I was concerned he may choose her over me. These days as a married and more mature woman and I can safely say that I trust my husband one hundred per cent because, in thirteen years of marriage he has never given me any reason to doubt his loyalty. While we have trust we have everything. If trust ever disappears I don’t know if love alone would be enough.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I don't really gets some of your points here. Because I don't know if you a woman or man. As I read your discussion it pointed out in a man partner. You ask something right?
You don't tell any situation here, my friend. But I guess your point is that when a partner seeing another woman that is prettier than you or a woman partner? In that situation, my friend. No man shall be seeing a pretty woman said he like her but 100% sure that he is intimately admire that woman...this is natural for men. This is a kind or admiration and or appreciation in the parts of the person they look goods and beautiful...
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
28 Oct 09
I would be up in that girl! My husband and both have been through cheating spouses and friends. I know that he would not go out on me. There is always the fear because you have experienced this heartbreak in the past, but nothing from what my husband has indicated.
@publiccement (4)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Dont DO ANYTHING
Don't DONT DONT, You will now psychologically look for, For that, that will hurt you!
Until you have concrete evidence, anything you will do will just mess things up!
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I would tell her his good and bad habits and then tell her go ahead and try. No, he would not be interested in a woman whose morals were so loose that she would try to take another woman's husband because, he would reason, if she would cheat in a relationship, she would cheat in financial matters too. Worse yet, if she would try to encourage him to cheat, that would sully his good name. He read Shakespeare in his formative years and knows this passage read by the villain Iago in Othello Act 3, scene 3, 155–161:
Good name in man and woman, dear my lord,
Is the immediate jewel of their souls.
Who steals my purse steals trash; 'tis something, nothing;
'Twas mine, 'tis his, and has been slave to thousands;
But he that filches from me my good name
Robs me of that which not enriches him,
And makes me poor indeed.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
27 Oct 09
If I were in your shoes I would be worried definitely. What is more important is how much my partner is also interested on that person. If it is a slight interest, I would try to ignore it. If it is a bigger interest, then it is a matter of concern. I will talk to my partner.If I have children I will try my best to save the marriage.I will certainly make him understand that he will have lose me if he continues to show more interest on the new woman.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
27 Oct 09
My husband would not be interested in said woman, but I am a very jealous person and have a tendency to worry so I would most likely still worry.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Oct 09
We have faced that situation and I just shine that on, if he chooses he can leave
I don't want someone who doesn't want me or wants someone else more. I just will not play that game even if it does boost my Hubby's ego.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Hi jugsjugs! I would honestly say that i would not be concerned or really care. If he wants the other woman then he would find a way to be with her, and if he wants to stay with me then he will have no interest in the other woman. At one time i thought i had control over this very thing, but i learned the hard way that it is not my decision, it falls on his shoulders. All i can do is live with the decision he has made, and if he chooses the other woman, then i did not need him in the first place. Life is to precious to waste on someone who does not want to be with the partner they chose.
@doormouse (4599)
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27 Oct 09
i know my man wouldn't go with anyone else,so i wouldn't be worried at all,my ex husband on the other hand was the complete opposite