What do you think is the most common cause of divorce?

I agree I think people should learn to love themself before they try to love anyone else. If your unhappy you need to fix that before you bring anyone else into the picture.

Accorind to what I know, there are a number of reasons as to why people get divorced. Among all causes, communication may be the biggest causeof divorce. There are communication problems between the couple. This can be a problem which was already there before marriage and the couple failed to put their expectations in front of each other. It is a good idea to discuss feelings about various aspects which are important, but most of the time husband and wives cannot achieve this. Pre marital issues are also brought up after marriage and this leads to further tension between the partners. Communication is really important between the partners if people want to keep a good relationship all the time.

Yeah I have to agree with you as what you stated seem to be he most common cause of divorce. But I do know most of the divorce cases ending in divorce coz' of physical and mental abuse by the other partner....

I have always thought the biggest cause of divorce was money. I am sure there are lots of reasons. The relationship does not mature, people grow apart, negative outside influences begin to take control, mental health issues or substance abuse problems, infidelity... Relationships are hard and both people have to be very committed to making it all work. You have to change with the times and hopefully change together. You have to uphold your end of the responsibilities and you have to keep the love strong. I totally agree, you need to give everything you have to the relationship. You really can't hold back and you can't expect your partner to make it all work for you. If you sit back and hope someone else will do it, the result is usually not a positive one. I actually told my husband the day we got married that I have no expectations of him. I married him for love and I will not put that kind of pressure on him. We have been happily married for 5 years and have two wonderful kids, and are going strong

My friend, I think that Lack of communication and unwillingness to compromise, I feel,unwillingness to compromise, I feel, probably going to get a lot of mention. When people stray from a marriage for flings I feel that there is a strain in the closeness/intimacy that couple feel for each other. If they would talk openly with one another about what bothers them, what attracts them to their mate, they can gain an understanding about their relationship. There will have to be a compromise here and there to satisfy both people. If you are truly interested in what your spouse wants wants emotionally, physically, spiritually- then you should COMMUNICATE. 2)Abuse is the most common cause of divorce. In my situation my husband physically and verbally abused me. No matter how hard I tried to work things out with him he kept pushing me away and disrespecting me. I loved my husband very much and a part of me still does but I can't be with him if he's going to continue hurting me. Abusive men usually don't change their ways. LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT!!!!

In my own idea, It's because they don't love each other and they want a space for their selves. Being committed for each other might get into lots of problem. Maybe they can't take it anymore. And in the other side, maybe they found someone else.

I feel the most common cause for divorce is lack of understanding offcourse there are exceptions. As I saw the other reply which said self satisfaction solves most of the problem. The immediete effect of marriage is to expect a lot. Especially girls expect a lot from guys. This makes things worse as girls expect boys to change themselves completely and this makes boys think entirely in a different angle and they tend to change which they are not before marriage. This makes things even worse. There are some cases where both will change for others and this makes things worser. I feel the best approach to resolve marriage problems is to be patient. I feel impatience may be new life but patience is what makes life. :)

A marriage fails when the expectations are too much, the two persons involved do not seriously try to make the relationship work & are not understanding enough. Any relationship is always a give & take kind of a thing. If none of them believe in making some compromise, the matter gets worse.

I think the most common cause is coming into the relationship with the wrong expectations. Love is a verb meaning it is an action word meaning you cant say you love someone unless you show it and when you dont show your love but you expect the person to keep on giving, both parties are frustrated because the are not getting what they want. Misunderstandings also cause divorce most especially if the are not resolve apriopriately

I'm not really sure..but in my own opinion, I think that would be having a third party, or maybe when both of them are too busy working that they don't have time to spend time together. And maybe vices? I haven't been married yet, and so far, my parents' relationship is going strong.

I think people fail to realise that marriage needs ongoing adjustments and compromise. Nothing stays the same and people certainly don't. Lots of my friends have said of their husbands/wives "they are not the same woman/man I married" well of course not, people evolve, mature etc. I don't think people realise that they are going to have to keep working so they continue to 'know' their partner. We are fed images of romantic love from a young age, but little information about long lasting love which is more about friendship and respect.

The most common cause of divorce is not getting to know someone well enough to begin with. After that I think that probably a lack of dedication is the next leading cause. There is much narcissism in the world today.

Maybe it is because thier age and education because i got some information that a secret to a happy message is simply to find a younger and smarter wife.If a husband is at least five years older than his wife but has less education, they will enjoy a longer message. Believe it or not.

I think it's because the man wants to stay as he is. he wants to be able to spend time with his friend, do his hobbies, hang out, play computer games...just like when he wasn't married. While the woman can't do any of that anymore cause of the many chores and children to take care of. These arguments come up a lot in all maarriages.

I think for the most part, it's got something to do with trust. I'm not really a pro in this topic, but that's what I guess mostly..