Friends that overwhelm you

I think I would withdraw a bit. It's just emotionally difficult to be around someone who is always in distress. I mean, obviously if one of my friends had a problem I'd be supportive, but a constant string of problems is draining. I guess it would depend if the problems were of their own making or just bad luck. If they were creating problems then I'd probably withdraw a bit and spend time with other friends.

I even have family members that I feel that way about. I almost never hear from any of them for that reason and for the reason that they keep making stupid choices and cannot figure out why their life is a mess.

natnickeep no I would nt quit being friends just because my friend had some troubles. she was there for me when I had troubles. anyway you can react one of two ways to stress,you can let it destroy your peace of mind, or you can decide not to let it upset you at all. You are not the one having the problems so why stress it,if you can help in some way do so, other wise just be their friend, its in bad times that we find out who our real friends are. real' friends do not run when we have troubles.

I once had a friend ,however we nerver talk to each other when something bad happened to us . After that i have the view that ,we need friend but even the best friend we have to keep a certain distance,that't not means that we dont believe our friend ,but everyone need a space to live their one life.so if your friend isn't up to your hope ,don't be angry ,you are not him ,and he is not you ,that is so simple

Hi Natnick, I have a friend in college who (I believe) thinks that I'm one of her best friends. Well I genuinely like her, she's really nice, well educated and fun to be with, but whenever we're together she has the tendency to make sure everybody knows that she is an important person. I am exactly the opposite because as much as possible I want to be anonymous, and I don't want people staring at me much less giving me unnecessary attention. I sometimes feel embarrassed when she starts making scenes that make everyone turn their heads towards her direction and eventually get annoyed at her. She now lives in another country but still we manage to get in touch. At times I felt that I'm not as good as she thinks I am as friend to her because of how I felt when she's in one of her "moods", but now that I haven't seen her for more than 2 years I somehow miss her.