Are you angry if your partner forgot your birthday?

To be honest with you sasalove, even I forget my own birthday. We dont celebrate birthdays, not because we dont feel that the person isnt special, just that its normally something to be celebrated with family here, and for the moment we are not the entire familie reunited. My husband has forgotten my birthday once. I didnt remind him of it, yet he felt really bad in the end for not remembering and took me out to dinner. I didnt feel it or see it has a bad thing... I did get a bit upset but not upset enough to end the relationship. If it was a correct decision for you though to end the relationship and it worked for both sides then its all allright. However, birthdays for me are somewhat overrated. Thats like reminding yourself that you should only remember people on the day they are born, but you always have to show their love, respect and happy that they are here in this world all the time. Not just a birthday.

First of all I'm not one that gets crazy about my birthday. I don't like alot of attention thrown on me. I love to do it to others though. I guess I would be upset not angry. However, for a person to forget they have to be not in love with you anymore. I could never forget my boyfriends birthday and he wouldn't forget mine. I don't know if I would remind him. I think if he was to forget I would wait to see how long till he realized he forgot my birthday. If and when he questioned me and said I'm so sorry for forgetting your birthday then I would probably say its no big deal its just another birthday. If he still loved me he would surprise me with dinner out and a beautiful gift. If he didn't do anything after the fact of realizing he forgot then I would begin to think he didn't care. Especially if I went all out for his birthday two months ago.

Yes, I would be angry, or perhaps hurt would be a better word. The person who you are romantically involved with should always remember your birthday. It shows that they care about you and is a good time to remind you how much they care about you. If they forget your birthday then how could they possibly care that much. Before I married my husband I had a boyfriend who we had broken up and gotten back together over a 2 year period. He had planned a trup to Las Vegas when we were broken up, it happened to be during the week of my birthday. We got back together about a month and a half before my birthday, but since he already had the plans to go and everything was paid for he still went, which I really couldn't say anything about, but on my birthday he did not even call me. I was so upset that he was obviously having so much fun that he totally forgot about me on my birthday. I got really drunk that night and made out with someone else. We broke up about a week after he got back for good this time.

I don't give anyone a chance to forget my birthday. My dad calls me a spoiled little brat every year (not affectionatly I'm afraid) a good month before my birthday people start hearing hints about the fact that I'm going to be a year older soon. I keep the reminders going and even a month after my birthday I remind people that I just had a birthday. Why do I do this? Haha, because I was the child my father purposely looked over for birthdays as a child. There are 7 of us and I'm the oldest so he really should never have forgotten me... we also share the shame birth month! Any guy that I've ever dated didn't really seem to mind that I do this... they probably find it helpful! Lol

So far my husband never forgot my birthday. But then, I tend to remind him in regular intervalls in the weeks before my birthday! I think if he would forget it I would be a little upset. It's not about the gift, but life shouldn't take over so much that you forget such a special day of a loved one.

I would be disappointed that my boyfriend forgot my birthday, of course. But you had mentioned that he had always remembered it before. Before going off the handle, perhaps a heart to heart conversation could have solved the problem. Maybe he's been under stress at his job or has too many things going on in his mind at once. I'm sure that he did not intentionally forget your birthday and probably felt like a heel when he had to be reminded. Everyone likes to feel special on their birthday and we expect the people closest to us to remember and give a card, gift or both. A simple "Happy Birthday" is even acceptable depending on who it is. If this was the first time he forgot, I would have cut him some slack and like I said before, talk to him about it. Most likely the reason didn't have anything to do with you as a girlfriend.

I seldom celebrate my birthday so far. Perhaps it's because of my parents' influence on me. They were born in a hard time and had to work very hard to support four kids. At that time, they couldn't even feed themselves, let alone celebrated their birthday. Every time I hear my parents telling those hardships, I feel very sad and make up my mind to save every penny that I do not necessarily have to spend. Until now, I'm always in this habit though I have a decent and well-paid job now. For me, celebration of birthday is always something that costs a lot of money. I know many young people celebrating birthday, and even their parents help them prepare everything. But I don't like it. Well, I'm a little away from your topic. Since I'm not crazy about birthday, I don't really mind if my partner forgot my birthday. Maybe your boyfriend forgot your birthday only because he did have some other things to deal with at that time. Such things do happen now and then. We can't ask a person to remember a certain date forever. If he did great in other things concerning you, that's good. Well, it's useless to say such things now since you've broken up. It's just my thoughts. Take care!

I would not be angry but I certainly would not apreciate it [ I have all my friends and family birthday,important dates and all that in a reminder book] well I can not remember every thing, but I remember my childrens birthdays, my mum, my dad,and some of my aunties, my sisters, all the people that are close to my heart. I was surprise this year by the fact that my ex partner [ after 20 years of living together] forgot my birthday![ we separated in good terms] but I just wonder today was I important to him? in any way? I remember his birthday in fact we met the night before his birthday and I can never forget that!. And by the way my ex husband [ the father of my children] whom I was married for 16/2 years does not remember my birthday and none of his children as well so this means he did not care? Im really confuse now.

When I was younger folk it was more important..The attention! The stuff! The beauties of acquisition and the boons you can put on the folks who don't contribute to that acquisition..But anymore, at 57, when folks apologize for missing my birthday I shrug it off and tell them 'The important thing to me is that I didn't miss it.'..I get a lot of quirky smiles for that one.. In truth, its far more important to me to remember the birthdays of the folks who are important to me. And as I've said in discussions (not here) 'Celebrating a person's birthday is celebrating their life..and you can do that any day(s) of the year! So why limit yourself to just one?'..Enjoy!

Hi Sasalove! Well, in my case, I would be very angry if my boyfriend would forget my birthday! He would so pay!!!!!! I remind him sometimes, but, he should have automatic calendar! Being together for five years, I shouldn't have to remind him! I always been a birthday! I always think that is the best part of the year, its a day to celebrate yourself! Not your age! Well have a nice day! Take care!

No problem for me. Because birthday mean that we are getting older and until now I still a jobless man. It's looks so stupid for me if i still celebrate my birthday or waiting somebody to say "happy birthday for". Sorry i don't mean to make an offense to you. It's just what i think.

That all depends. If I have met such a bad situation, my reaction would depend on the reason why my girlfriend forget it. In fact, I haven't met such a situation before. Yes, birthday is really one of the most important occasion in our life. But it is just a part of our whole life. Obviously, it doesn't mean that she does not pay any attention to me. If she really forget it someday, I will forgive the thing. You see, understanding is the most important thing in our life. If we really love each other, birthday is not the key of the relationship. Happy myLotting!

I don't get angry because really don't have the right to, since it's me the one who forgets birthdays (one year I even forgot about MINE!!!) and goes on facebook just to check them... I don't mind he forgets, but I think he would mind more than me and feel really sorry if he did, that'd make me feel bad. I think I care more to the daily attentions I get, if my needs are ignored, more than my borthday is ignored. I think I look more at the bigger picture than the details.

I think it's doesn't matter for my boy friend to forget my birthday.In fact, it won't happen ,because i will remind of him ,and at the same time he will ask my wish,then he will give me some gift.But i must tell you i know how busy he is ,and i know he loves me very much,so i don't worried anything.In my mind ,i won't judge anything just base on one thing ,so if my boyfriend forget something he has promised i will angry ,then if he send me a apologize,i will forgive him.

my hubby is the sort that remember any date months before LOL!! he was trying to make plans for our coming 1st Wedding anniversary (23 Nov) last week. i think i'm quite lucky in this, as he's the sort who will go all out for any type of celebration, and will plan ahead to suprise me (although i alwuz found out before the actual day keke)

Actually I don't care more about my birthday, I always treat that day as my usual days...so if my partner forget my birthday, I will not feel angry or crazy...but I will remind my wife that why she doesn't remember my birthday or ask her that the day if have some special meaning to us just like a joke...of course, if you all can remember some special day (wedding day, birthday, first date day etc) for each other, I believe this can make your relationship more steady...thanks and happy mylotting

My husband has never for gotten my birthday or any other special days. He has a good memory in remembering things like that. Even all my kids birthdays he remembers well to. I wouldn't get angry if he for got but I would just ask him do you remember what today is? And I am sure he would remember it.

Maybe i will choose conplain but not angry because i treat it as he is too busy or he have sth really important or he will say happy birthday later.If all that haven't come true ,i'll try to talk to him what i am thinking about and ask him for replay but not angry.Angry sense too useless and maybe ruining the good mood of myself.

I don't know if I am just lucky but my husband never forgets any special occasion even if we fought before the day... he still never forgets. Can you believe that he remembers even our 'monthsaries' (we celebrate our wedding day every month)! I am so proud of him because I know it's not that easy.

I'd get upset and might hold it over their head for awhile in half-serious, half-joking way. But no, I wouldn't lose my temper.