Does anyone else enjoy being single?
@rockandrolldad (66)
United States
November 1, 2009 12:27pm CST
Having been single for a couple of years now, I have found that I actually enjoy being single. In fact, I enjoy it so much that I wonder whether I even would want marriage again someday. I was even in a debate the other day of whether if I met an incredible woman, whether I would give up my single life or not. And at this point,it is kinda hard to say whether I would or not. So, now I wonder does anyone else feel the same way that I do about being single?
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
2 Nov 09
Hi solared: that's the best part of finding the perfect wife or husband that is supposed to stay with you for the rest of your lives but in the mid time there are some nice things about being single as i mentioned, well that depends of the persons, i must admit that some people prefers to find their companion as fast as they can, in my case i wait for love no matter what it takes it until it arrives and before that i'm enjoying being single and free. Lol. Xd
@MJAL08 (275)
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1 Nov 09
I do! haha.. Being single means you have more time for your family, friends, job or studies. When your single, you don't belong to anybody. You can be available and not negotiable. i know there are ups and downs like valentines but there many ways to be happy on valentines day instead of holding hands in the mall.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
I also love being single yesterday our relatives visit us when my cousin husband's ask me where is my boyfriend I said I don't have a boyfriend and he keeps on telling me that he going to find me one. Honestly I'm not interested to be in the relationship because it is very complicated and I'm still enjoy my freedom at least no one going dictate me. It seems that my mother want a grandkids now because all of her siblings have a grandchildren and she is jealous to them. I'm only 26 yrs. old and marriage is very far to my mind so far.
@rockandrolldad (66)
• United States
1 Nov 09
Fiazio, I definitely agree with you on that. I was actually in a relationship/friendship with a woman for three plus years recently. And we were talking about maybe getting married. We had discussions about it and I was uncertain about it. Finally after a barrage of insults by her because I said that we should take things slow, we ended up not talking. It has been a couple of months now since we last talked. But to make a long story short, I am happy that we are not talking. And I am relieved because of all the pressure that was starting to build up just thinking about marriage. Just the thought of marriage was kinda bringing me down.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
1 Nov 09
I am in absolute love with this idea that i am single. No questions to be answered, no heartaches, no depending on someone, no fear of getting cheated. Yeah, it is cool to single I think.
If you have good friends to hang out with, and if you can keep yourself pretty much occupied, you won't feel lonely either.
So I am enjoying my status as "Single".
@rockandrolldad (66)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I definitely hear ya on that one, bodhisatya. The one word I truly don't like is the word why. And being free from the emotional turmoil that happens at times in a relationship is an added bonus. And having a network of friend does help. But honestly, though, sometimes the loneliness does creep in. But as I have gotten older even that isn't so bad when it does happen. Mylot helps a lot as it helps occupy my time and my mind ... LOL LOL Thanks for your thoughts and views on the subject. Cheers to being single for a long time.
@rodsdman (145)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I too enjoy the single life. Having not been maried before I have no basis for comparison, but how can it be better. I work for myself too, so I am totaly free. I get up when I want, eat what and when I want. Watch what I want, and I only clean the house when it seems dirty to me. My mother would like me to feel otherwise, as I'm sure she would like some grandkids some day, but it would take a special woman to change my mind, and since I'm not looking its not likely.
Being single is great as long as you have friends to keep you comapny on occasion and have the money to live on your own. If you have to have a room mate that can be just as bad as marriage, without the benifits. ;)
@rockandrolldad (66)
• United States
1 Nov 09
rodsdman, thanks for sharing your perspective. I mean I have an appreciation for those that have made their marriage work. My mom and dad has been together for almost 45 years now and it hasn't always been easy. But, for me, it would take an absolutely incredible person for me to ever think about it seriously again. The one observation that I have made about marriage is there most always is a power struggle that happens that lasts for near three or four years and then couples just kinda fall into their own little role. However, it is the ones that the roles are never defined that struggle moreso than others.
@paleorainy (630)
• Italy
1 Nov 09
I LOVE being single!! I'm FREE!!
I have not been married but I have been in a very bad relationships and now it's so good, I'm free to do what I want without having to justify myself with him, without his complaints and his threatening. I am not bound to be 'his', I'm just 'mine'.
I'm just so FREEEEE......
@rockandrolldad (66)
• United States
2 Nov 09
paleorainy ... Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Oh, I totally agree with what you said about the concept of being bound to another. I do wonder why people look at other people as possessions. I think that that may be the downfall to a lot of relationships. How can someone born free belong to another? The same goes for pets I suppose. How can a living, breathing creature belong to anyone? They are just rhetorical thoughts.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Oh if your being single makes you breathe better in life then stay there for a while before jumping into a relationship. I think when one relationship has hurt you that bad returning to it immediately is not the cure. Just let the wounds heal in time and you will just realize that you need to move on with life. Love yourself first and when that empty space are all filled up then its time you share that love with someone or somebody.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
I enjoy being single.I love my life and my freedom.I get to do the things I want without anyone controlling my every move.I am not thinking of settling down.I am not worried of that so-called biological clock.I would rather have fun and take care of myself.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I like certain aspects of being single, such as having my freedom and not having to answer to anyone, but I miss having someone special in my life.
@MJAL08 (275)
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20 Nov 09
I for one enjoy being single. I have nothing to worry about like, is he still faithful and all that sort of thing. You see im a green eyed moster when it comes to my partner. SO its much better that i don't have one because in that way, i don't get to hold him in the neck and demand so much. Also, i don't have to spend to much time on texting, chatting or even meeting up. No hassle. I can do anything i want. Being a single rocks.
@marcelinka (113)
• Chile
1 Nov 09
well i have never been married... but i`m single and i am only 28 years old (ok,ok.. 33!!!)... i live with my baby girl... and her father lives in another country and they have no comunication... the question is when people ask me if i`d like to have a boyfriend i say no... i`d not like to give to my baby another father we can see so many bad things on tv about stepfathers... that really scares me... i know we can not live been scare, but i`d not forget myself if something bad happends to my baby...
@rockandrolldad (66)
• United States
1 Nov 09
I was 35 before I got married so there is still time for you marcelinka. LOL LOL Thanks for adding your thoughts on the subject. As far as dating someone, I decided a long time ago that I would be very selective on who I would date. I would not ever put my son in a situation where he could end up getting hurt. So I am very peculiar about the people that I let in his life. My friend, there is a big difference between being scared and being selective. And I had rather make a mistake for safety any day. I hope you have a great day.
@dibbee_1988 (29)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I'm 21 years old already,no boyfriend since birth.I totally have enjoyed my life being single.Now I can say that I'm just waiting for someone to come along,for MR. RIGHT I guess.I'm willing to wait though.There's really nothing wrong in being single.No hastle,no pain,and above all,you can have all the freedom that you want!
@akashvermabba (158)
• India
8 Nov 09
yup every one have its own life
and every one enjoy the life lots
@annenica1986 (28)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
I enjoy being single because I can do what I want without having to answer to anyone other than myself... it's not because I'm stubborn or I'm too proud, it's just that I don't want to be restrained by a single person and miss out on what I have planned to do in my life (yeah, you're life long plans might poof out into thin air if you end your single life abruptly). Maybe someday, I would be ready to give up my single life (and lifestyle)... but now, naaah~ maybe when I get a bit older (around 30ish).
@gloamglozer (1289)
• Australia
2 Nov 09
I've never really been in a serious relationship so I don't really know if being single is better than being married or in a relationship. I have heard however, from friends that it can be very much a burden and money drainer. Personally, I wouldn't want to get married until later in life because I want to do things and experience the world before I settle down and get all serious with a relationship.
@sonuherenz (258)
• India
2 Nov 09
Hi rock and roll dad ....?????? im confused ru single or are you a dad...????
I love being single for now...Im enjoying my best days of my life and i dont want to wast it....and i want to get married too...we get only one life span..so i would love to enjoy every aspects of life....may that be good or bad, easy or difficult, i would like to try it onces....i dont think i would get this life back....
Live Life...is my policy
Take Care
@ravich (242)
• India
2 Nov 09
hi friend i too like to be single...but i should be all the allowances..like tv system...hich are the most important and a cooking requirements....i like to cook but not for many..just simply for time pass and can spend the whole day watching movies ...just i require is to have entertainment.....plesent mind no one to ask me any thing...my room and my self as if the complete world is mine..and feel irritated when any one stay long..not friends........i enjoy this a lot
@EdTv00 (298)
• United States
2 Nov 09
I have to agree with you. Simply because I have always been sort of a loner. But I enjoy being around people who share my same interest, especially a cool girl that digs what i dig. No matter what anyone says, I still don't believe any of us likes being alone all the time. Cheer buddy.