Relationship help?

Aww well atleast you want to be there for him! I kinda have this problem, i care about people and want to help them and if they wont tell me whats wrong then i also get very upset and annoyied! I think what you need to think is that its their problem. If he doesnt want to tell you then just try your hardest to just stay happy! He will tell you when he is ready, and surely if it was that bad he would tell you straight away? Think of a list of things that cheer you up or will calm you down, and do them whenever you feel yourself getting upset! I think its a female thing so you are definatly not alone! We have a maternal nature and when someone has a problem,or is hurting we want to help them and make them feel good again! Like a baby. If a baby is crying we want to find out whats wrong and make them feel better! Good Luck! Hope you manage to stay strong for him!

I will have to tell you first that your heart is poor to think you aren't strong enough to help your partner, however the solution to every problem is to first realize the one we cause and then fish out on how to solve it. but am thinking you might be having a prejudice mind against your partner wish you must first take care of, or perhaps you should ask yourself if you truly love him. because no matter how you try you will definitely not be there.happy lotting

I hat to say this but it sounds to m like he I trying to make you feel guilty for his pain. It is not your fault if he cant be cheered up. You can only do so much. Tell him you love him and you will listen but you cant fix his problem. AND you cant make him feel better if he doesn't want to feel better.

I have all the patience in the world for someone who is upset and at least gives me a bit of a clue as to what is bothering them. It is very difficult to feel deep sympathy when you don't know what in the heck is wrong. I'd have a problem with that I think and especially if it were a boyfriend who is supposed to trust me enough to confide in me. I mean if he did not want to go into detail...that's fine but something. Someones bad mood will no doubt rub off on me and bring me down too....it's contagious just as a smile is. If someone were not willing to talk to me and was not comforted in the least by my presence then I would not get angry or depressed but I'd probably make myself scarce for a while. Sometimes when someone is upset they need a little space and time alone before they are ready to open up. If that is the case with your boyfriend then It probably is not a good idea to let him know that his mood is rubbing off on you. Instead, give him a hug and say that you are going to give him some space and when he is ready to talk then you will be there for him. Then maybe go to the store, library or just another room and do something else for a while. Hop on here and vent.

It's okay to be emotional it's our nature as women. When it comes to someone who needs our comfort though and expect us to let them feel better try to control your emotions and force yourself to say "It's going to be alright". When someone is in need of encouragement you give it, or try to...especially if you love that person. Just think how does he make you feel better whenever you're upset? Does he cry with you too or does he make you feel better? How does he make you feel better? Maybe you should do the same thing he's doing to you. Try harder to be strong for him...either force yourself or fake it? Take care...hope it works.

I'm in the same situation right now. My boyfriend has lots of problems, and I try to support him as best as I can. I do a good job most of the time, but sometimes I just can't help losing it when the pressure becomes too much. After all, I have my own needs, and I can't just think of his needs all the time, although of course I focus more on his needs right now because he has bigger problems. All I can say is be calm and understanding. If you support him all the way, chances are he would respond to it eventually. Don't give up easily. Good luck!