Have you ever learnt not to rely on a friend?

I have learned this a long time ago. I have never had a true friend anyway. They always did me wrong. I have two true friends now though but I do not rely on them. I rely on myself only.

Long distance friends are hard to have, trust me I know. But you shouldnt get yourself discouraged over non response. It sounds to me like you dont trust your friend anymore and feel like she was using you. Maybe your friend is going through some relationship problems were she is not allowed to get in contact with you. I wouldnt give up just yet.

Yes, I have. At some point or another you say "Well they know where I live, I have not moved." They move to be acquaintances, not your friends, and you wish them well, but you wish them away from your business.

I have a friend who is very close to me, but i do not rely on here when I have a problem or I need something . We are constant textmate, but I don't rely on her. I am much older so I expect myself to solve my problems on my own. Of course there are sometimes I ask for advice about fashion but I solve my problems like personal ones on my own. She don't have to call to me on the phone , come to me personally to just prove she is at my back. She can be a friend without doing it. I solve problems on my own I learn it even before. And I don't share some of my personal problems with her, you have to keep your personal problems a secret sometimes.

Well sounds like only you felt like you wanted to be friend but she really is not your friend, she just wanted to have you as a back up for her rainy days and does not care about you. Only if you have money and probably will not even pay you back for that matter. You can't buy friends so stop trying and in fact end that contact.

It does hurt to come to that conclusion. Sometimes friends separate, or grow apart. Make sure in the future to not give her that money that she desires, because you don't need that in your life! Don't give up on her friendship, but don't wait around for her. Make her wait for you for once to see if she truly values your relationship. All the best.

Once our neighbours had marriage of their sister being performed and their scooter got repaired. Then my husband gave his scooter for few days to them as they have to run to many places and without scooter it is inconvenient for them. Later, one day our scooter got repaired, we had to go to office and my neighbour was waiting for his wife to come. My husband said, 'give your scooter for two minutes, I will go to the nearest mechanic shop and bring the mechanic along with me'. He refused to give. These sorts of experiences I had many in my life. 'Do not count on any one' is the lesson I got from all these experiences.

Yeah, that happens a lot. Once you see the pattern of some friends you learn not to depend on things and that way it will not bother you so much. Just keep doing what feels right for you. Just remember it is better to give than receive.

could she be broke and embarrassed to see you because of it? granted if that's the case,she should have just said so not to leave you in the dark,but some people are just that way.

It does seem like your friend is only buddy buddy when she wants something. We have had friends like that before.

I don't know if I am just bitter or what. But it has been my practice in life to trust my own self, not on a friend or friends who usually turns you down when you most need their help. I usually try to do the very best I can and if it fails, I tend to ask help also. Those true friends really come to the rescue but others wont give even their shadow. I even tell my bestfriend not to trust me but to trust herself only. But whenever she asks help from me, I have provided more than to turn her down. I do turn her doen at times to teach her that not at all times I am there to help her. I teach her to exhaust all possible resources she has first before coming to me. I don't want to teach her or push her to be a parasite. Good day.

years ago i had that problem,but now i have a better selection of friends,so i don't have that problem anymore

I learned years ago, that you cannot depend on others for our happiness, because we will always be dissappointed. Now a days, people don't want to be relied on, including myself. I get a little nervous when people seem to attach themselves to me, and make me feel I have to be there for them everytime they want me to be there. If someone is calling me all the time, e-mailing me all the time, and gets upset if I can't be with them as much as they want, I end up distancing myself from those people. However, in your case, it seems that your friend only wants to be with you when you can do something for her...like lend her money, or spend time with her when no one else wants to. If I were you, and she didn't answer my several text messages, or phone calls, I would stop doing it. It is possible that she isn't really the friend that you thought her to be. I had a friend that I used to call every so often, like once a month, just to keep in touch with her. When she started not returning my calls, I stopped calling her. She still e-mails me, but that is the only contact I have with her, and that's fine with me. If she doesn't respect our friendship enough to return a call once a month, then I don't need that kind of friend.

In my opinion, it is a difficult task for most people to keep a long-distance relationship. I haven't met such friends before. Usually, if you think that it is unnecessary to continue the relationship between you and your friend, then you'd better pay any attention to such a relationship any more. Of course, it is difficult to make a true friend in such a so called society. If you have no friends who are worth trusting, then don't rely on them or you will get hurt from these friendship. Happy myLotting!

I've learned to rely on no one but myself. "Friends" like that we don't need.

I rarely loan money to anyone. My family has a rule that we don't lend money to each other unless it's a dire emergency--that means your children or grandchildren haven't anything to eat or something like that, the brink of disaster. Likewise, I don't loan money to friends, generally. There are a couple of friends that I would because I have done so before and I got paid back almost immediately, before they even went to the grocery store or paid most of their bills. Those are the kind of friends I will lend to.

Yes, i always push myself to the limit before seeking any assistance from a friend. It's not pride but i am just being considerate with people. They have their own needs to attend to but in cases of emergencies-- i don't think twice to aks for help from family members first then frommy friends. I do provide suppport and help when needed. I am willing to help too. I know the feeling of people in need but is ashamed to say so.

Many Times. "Its good to forgive, best to forget"... please apply this policy when you get hurt from your near or close ones. so that you can move forward happily.

Yes I did. That's because I have learned to classify friends. There are friends whom you can treat as BFF or best friends forever, these are the ones who in thick or thin, is with you and will still be with you even you do or don't have money. They are the ones who would rather give than take. There are friends whom you can call close friends, they are close to your heart because in one way or another, they have shown you genuine friendship though they may not be physically available at all times. There are friends whom you can label as good friends, because they have good influence on you and guided/helped/inspired you to become a good person. Though you may also see them a few times, may not be able to attend to you some times. And there are friends I called superficial friends like the one in your story. This kind of friend acknowledges you when they are in need but doesn't give much importance to you and your friendship. These are the ones who have no intention of nourishing your friendship and just see you like anybody else in the world. You know what, a few good friends are better than having many bad ones.

yes..sad to say when you thought she's a good friend of yours,when she's only using you..i also had a friend who borrows money from me n not paying it back n borrows my jewelry then she pawn it..it hurts specially when your treating her well..so we should not trust easily specially to those who makes friend w/ u w/ purpose..