what should I do?
By yinmuhua
@yinmuhua (13)
China
November 4, 2009 2:54am CST
I now have to rely on unemployment at home,wife of salary,I'm a man,so,I'm in trouble, what should I do?
7 responses
@SouravRC (247)
• India
5 Nov 09
Don't feel so sad. I don't know why people feel so bad when they are in a situation when woman earn the bread for the home rather than the man. Why, is this not the era of Equality? Equal society? then why always a man has to earn bread for his family and if not then why people look at him indifferently? If this is a world of equality then we should not follow the ancient rule that a man has to earn bread for his family and he cannot rely on his wife's money!
As far as your problem is concerned, don't give up. there's still jobs, try to do something. If you are not finding any job then start a small time business. Do something get yourself busy and get rid of depression.
@tambrerocks (123)
• United States
5 Nov 09
Nothing wrong in having your wife be the bread winner for awhile. Look for a job and be the best husband and father, if that is the case, that you can be and keep your life happy no matter what.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
This time of financial crisis, it is a practical way for both partners to have job. I myself, doesn't even rely on my offline joa as a financial analyst. I still continue to look for other income opportunities in order to feed myself. If I were you, you will look for a job in order to help your wife. Try to accept what is available.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
4 Nov 09
Don't give up. BE a supportive husband to your wife who's right now earning for a living. Lessen the stress at home-- do whatever help you can to organize things at home, if you can prepare or cook food for the family it will be great. If you can cook and sell food in your area why not? think of anything that you can do to earn while at home. It will be hard but as you go along with it you will be fine. Continue searching for a job too or sending your application around. One day you will be surprise for receiving a job interview call. Goodluck you can do it. It's a challenge that you can fully handle!
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
4 Nov 09
hi their yin! i know how you feel rigth now co'z i'd experience that to before, you need to regroup yourself, assess your skills and then post your resume based on your skills to online job search engines and also do the old fashion way of searching a job, try also apply in call centers even you are overage they will hire you, be a free lance agent in insurance or sales, while waiting for interview, like msfrancisco advise help your wife to lessen the stress at your home...
@Apple3Cranberry (678)
• United States
5 Nov 09
When you say you rely on unemployment now, this means you are on Social Security, right? If you are disabled and cannot work then this is tough, because you might feel guilty that you're not working any more. Maybe you need this break to talk with a therapist and you guys can talk about what you could do in the future for work. A lot of people are on disability or unemployment. Search on the internet for support group forums for people who are on unemployment insurance. Then you won't feel as alone, and will know others are going through the same thing.
@charmz1005 (679)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
I don't understand the first line, are you unemployed now? If that's the case, look for a job even if it's just a part time or have small salary, the important thing is your helping on the budget, or try earning through online but it takes a lot of time, patience and effort.