should i tell my boyfriend

Some things should be kept strictly to yourself. I am a big fan of trust, but there are simply some things that your partner should know and others that they should not know. If you feel that it is important for you to help out I would do it. Your boyfriend should understand this sort of thing as well, and if he is confident of your relationship then there should really be nothing to worry about for him. I know that guys rarely think this way, but guys usually have a moment in which they realize how stupid they were at certain times and with certain events. So perhaps this can be one of them. Don't tell!

This is not a real problem.Just ask yourself some honest questions and you will find your answer.Does your old boyfriend really loves you or is he just looking for a fling?how much do you love your old boyfriend?(2)Does your new boyfriend really loves you?Do you love your new boyfriend? I am sure that you know the answer to these questions.So be honest with yourself and the problem is solved.One piece of advice,please do not get caught up in daydreaming stick to reality.You can't go wrong.

My philosophy on relationships is to be honest, totally honest, as this creates trust. If a partner cannot accept my truth, then I feel that the relationship is on the wrong foot. I would try and get her to accept truth but I would not stop saying it. If she tried to tell me that I could not speak to anybody else, even if it was an ex., I would tell her that I would not ignore anybody. If she threatened to finish it, then so be it. I would not be controlled by anybody else, and I would not try and control my partner either. We feel what we feel. We interact with others they way we interact with other. If we tried to change ourselves and "obey" our partners wishes, then we would be living a lie. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that everybody should be this way. It is just the way I am and I found it works and I have a strong relationship. We may not always agree, but there are not threats or attempts to forcing each other to change. - Derek

I don't know, this is a hard situation, but I think honest is very important in a relationship, if you really care about your boyfriend, maybe you should tell him about his, trust is very important, if you don't tell him, and one day he find this himself, that must be terrible, just stand in his shoes and think about it, maybe you will find the answer.

Well if there is any honesty really in your relationship then telling would prove to him you love him and he will not worry about communication with anyone. Also telling him can help you make up your mind which is true love and which is just lust. Many issues come into play when old love comes back to find out if feelings are mutual. This can cause pain and even break ups but some of the break ups can result in finding your way to the one you love even back to the one that was broke up from. By telling him there is some confusion with your feelings because of this maybe he will give you time to sort them out but jealousy may come and the longer you take to figure out if you are totally in love with him or your ex might cause problems down the road if not explained in full after your choice and your confusion explained as to why you felt confused as well as what unconfused you.

Yes,you should tell him and if he know other people is loving you,he will decide to marry you right now.If he leave you because of this problem,it is not bad,because it mean he don't love you actually.good luck to both of you.

Yes, you should tell him otherwise this will continue pricking your conscience like a thorn. You almost broke up before but that I think was in the beginning of your relationship. Now that you have spent considerable time together, you should test your relation against trust and respect too, not only love. You can always tell him that this guy called up again and that you either did not reply or that you’ve found your soulmate so this person should not longer disturb you. You both should learn to trust and respect each other before going for any serious commitment.

It all depends upon what this other guy means to you. If after his contact you told him that you have met someone else that you love dearly so there is no chance of getting back together, then you have no reason to tell your boyfriend. I would have a question however about your statement, almost broke up once when you communicated with him??? So you have been talking with this guy before. You had a fight over it with your current boyfriend and now you wonder if you should tell him you have been doing it again???? You have me confused. So how much does this other guy mean to you? You work that out in your head and you will have your answer. It sounds like your current boyfriend may have good reason to be concerned about him. You can't have both so you need to decide which one it will be and go there. If you feel like your hiding something maybe you are.

So are you still interested with this other guy or is it already a closed chapter of your life? I believe in transparency in a couple, I know that it will be hard to tell your boyfriend about it but maybe you can start with explaining to him the reason why you are telling these things to him, that you want to be totally honest with him, along with the assurance that you are totally over the other guy (if you are). I think that it would be better that you opened it up to him than for him to find out some other way.

I would definitely tell your boyfriend that you ex-boyfriend has been trying to contact you. If you're not responding to your ex-boyfriend or don't want anything with him then it shouldn't be a problem. It would hurt your boyfriend more if he found out some other ay; plus if he found out from somewhere else it would seem like you were trying to hide something.

I think you should tell your boyfriend. For me, honesty is very important in a relationship, along with trust. put yourself in his shoes. You would not want your boyfriend hiding something like that from you, would you? If after telling him, he gets mad, then maybe it is him who has problems. Maybe he has trust issues because he should not get mad at you for communicating with this guy. He should trust you.

If you're really serious with your relationship to your boyfriend then I don't see any reason why you should still entertain this boy unless you like this boy more than your boyfriend. When you're in a relationship, it demands commitment sincerity, trust and love. If your boyfriend is committed to you and you'll just be unfair if you'll entertaion this boy. So, weigh your feelings and decide who will you take.

I guess your boyfriend deserves to know about your plans since I'm sure there's trouble if he finds out about it later and worse from another person too. Cheers!

if the only thing that could save your relationship is by lying, then lie away, just don't make this a habit, and why did you communicate with other man when you already have one, you draw this problem on yourself, judging from the way your man react i don't think he would stand knowing there's another man standing between him.

If you are really in love with your boyfriend, then what is the problem. Why would you not tell him about this. Do you have plans to work things out with the other guy? If you are in doubt about your feelings for your boyfriend, then that would create a confusion to you. But if you really feel love about your boyfriend, then surely you have no doubts and will inform your boyfriend about this. For a relationship to succeed, there is always trust and confidence and it all starts up with being honest to each other. Best to you always.

That is a problem with most of you girls. Double sided in terms of relationship and in terms of guys. Not contented with one or only one relationship... Since you said you love your boyfriend and you feeling is serious with him. Why? Ar you hiding something with him if you really love that guy? Are you afraid that when he knows about your secret he happen to go out in your relationship? If your boyfriend really loves you. I think he understand the facts if you have a good explanation and justify yourself? If he can't understand you I don't your boyfriend loves you...Have a nice day!

I believe the best thing to do is to tell your boyfriend. At least let him know that you have not responded to him at all. But that you wanted to inform him of what this guy has sent to you. Its better for you to tell him, then for him to find out later and wonder why you never told him and then he will start to wonder why you kept it from him. Especially if you are thinking of marriage, its always good to start being honest in a relationship, because marriage is based upon honesty as well. I hope things work out for you. If he really loves you he will not break up with you over what this guy had sent to you in an email that you never responded to and never plan on responding to. Also, let him know that you do love him and he is the one that you want to be with and not this other guy. I'm sure that he already knows that.

This should be a no brainer. In fact you have already answered your own question. You've been with your current boyfriend for 10 months. You love him. He loves you. It's serious enough for you to discuss marriage. The other guy hasn't seen you in a while because he LOST HIS JOB AND CAR. BIG RED FLAGS HERE. I would reply to this guy ONCE to tell him you're involved with someone you REALLY care about, you wish him a wonderful life and Oh, don't try to contact me again unless I physically run into you on the street. End of story.

If you feel you must said to him why not but if you think that he is embarrass then is not the time because maybe he said to you that he made a break up. It's hard to you to solve that way but remember when you are happy then go?.

I think that you need to tell your boyfriend about this because communication is the key to any relationship. In addition, I think that you need to tell the other guy that you already have a boyfriend and cut him off because it would only be fair to your boyfriend that he trusts you and the other guy so he won't be led on and he can find someone new.