Do you believe that you yourself are responsible for your present situation?

Hi Deepak.. its human tendency to point on others for the faults or wrong things and praise themself for good things happening.. I will share my opinion with you honestly now.. Education I praise my parents because they gave me good education so that I get good knowledge and I can stand on my own.. Profession I praise my husband.. he is the one who made my path easy to get inot this profession.. He reffered me to a good company(my current job) so I am happy with it.. Married life I praise myself.. because I am the one who chosen my husband as my life partner.. lol.. Blaming..I dint get any such chances yet..

Hi, DPK. I hold myself liable for all the things I have done in the past that made me who I am in the present.No matter what it was, positive or negative. You see, we are given the freedom to choose and I believe that in every situation we face we are presented with an options.Though, we may have been asking some advise or have been influenced by others, still, it is ourselves who will finally decide. We can consider ourselves lucky if we have the wisdom to choose a wise decision that will make us go into the right places. If we choose to make a foolish decision , then, have the strength to face its bitter consequence. We are the architects of our own fate. Have a remorse free life, my dear.;-)

I honestly do not think that I am responsible for my current jobless situation. I did everything "right" or fairly close to it. I went to school and graduated high-school with a 4.5 GPA. I went on to community college (yes, the cheap option) and graduated with a AA degree. I had no children. Nor did I have a messy marriage OR debt. BUT I got sick. Yes, the back wheel fell off the car of life. I didn't get a simple flat. Now I'm on SSD and frankly, off the road of work, but not out of the world...(waves at MyLot).

Hi deepak, Our life is linked with so many other people, like our parents, siblings etc. and I think those people can more or less have influence in our life and some decisions are based on their agreements too. So it is natural the blames goes to somebody if the person is not strong enough to decide by his/her own. If the question comes to my personal matter I felt that I am the only responsible person for my life. I don’t like to blame anybody because I don’t like if anybody blames me.

I never blame other for what happen to my life although their are possibilities where the outcomes of all the try out and failures have a great influences on the strength of every person. Though, it is though that you are the only responsible for every things that happen and sometimes you become fortunate if you are lucky or simply get your current status is achieved due to your own effort and perseverance. While others becomes antagonistic and blames all their failures from the unfortunate events that they become less confidence and becomes the problem of the society which really happen when one experiences failure then it allow them to swallow their pride and embrace misery. it becomes bad when out of the mundane situation one is unable to bounce up which every one should need to learn to overcome failures then try again until you see the good effects.

I am not the person who like to keep grudging about the present situation. Every time I happened to the difficulties, I will handle it calmly. It is not easy but I have to do it. Every time I make a mistake, I will find reason from myself first. I will admit the mistake and avoid happening again if the same situation happened. I realized that it is insignificant to the issue if we keep grudging as problems are still there, which will not be settled if you did not manage it positively. Senior always advised us that past is the past that we can not date back, future is the future that we can not predict. What we can control is the present time, why did we cherish the time in a positive way to handle the situation? Why did we waste the time on grudging? I won't. It is my honest thinking. Have a nice day.

I have been involved in marriage/family life counselling for many years and I must say it is the "norm" for people to put the blame anywhere and everywhere except on themselves. I have very seldom heard someone say that the problems they are facing are their own fault. When I do hear it, I know the solution isn't so far away. I have been very happily married for almost 50 years. I have five wonderful sons who are happily married, in good secure jobs, and are upstanding citizens in the community. I work long hours in voluntary work in a children's and youth ministry and love every minute of it. I wouldn't change a thing about my life. Am I responsible for my situation? No way! I thank my wonderful husband. I thank my family. Most of all, I thank my Father God. Without their constant companionship, help and encouragement I could not have done what I have. Without the work of my Saviour within my life and His guidance and enabling, I would not be the person I am, so a very definite "No! I am not responsible"

I feel the present situation is purely because of my timid nature. Not keeping anything for me, giving away everything, apart from what I earned, I even took loan and gave to my mother's house but it is not at all recognised. Took care of in-laws and visits of their children and their family. Though working, the entire house work was done by me as my mother-in-law said, should not keep servant, was supportive to husband in all the ways. But I feel no one recognises anything that I did. But my children now after growing up, are remembering what all I have done for them and say it every time and take care of me so well. If I refuse, they say, how much you have done for us? This is nothing they will say. At last now I feel content. It is not that I expect and do anything, but you feel hurt when all your services are not at all cared for by any one.

I guess where we are right now is the sum total of choices that we have made. I had a very dysfunctional up bringing full of emotional abuse and lack of affection and for a long time I blamed my woes on my parents. I wasn’t totally wrong to hold them responsible for my shortcomings but as I got older I came to the realisation that I had to take responsibility for my own life and give to myself what I missed out while growing up and stop blaming and start moving forward. I am the only one who can decide for me and where I go to from here is entirely up to me.

Hi Deepak. I am aware that some things are beyond our control, but yes, for almost everything good or bad I've experienced in my life, if I can be impartial and honest, I can trace those things back to myself...my responsibility in making a decision or not, in choosing this thing instead of that. Karen

I think our present life is the product of our choices in the past.whether good or bad choices,our life depended on our previous choices.I believe that we can redeem ourselves always.we can fix up our bad choices and make it positive in the present.I would rather focus on making good things in the present than beat myself up over a bad choice in the past.

Hi deepak I strongly believe that what ever is our present situation, we are only responsible for that. If we are good and helping in nature, naturally people and atmosphere around us will be good. But if we are quarrelsome and bad tempered and do not bother for others, naturally we should face the consequences

I think that we do have responsibility for our present situation. We have the ability to affect our lives in many ways. If we don't like government we can get out and vote, and we can campaign for changes in laws and politicians. If we don't like our jobs then we can look for another one or seek out educational opportunities in order to change careers. No it's not easy but it can be done if you are motivated. A lot of money issues we create ourselves from bad decisions. So while not everything is our fault we do have a lot more influence over are situations than we sometimes like to admit to.

I used to blame others for the mess in mylife because my upbringing wasnt too wonderful, however ive realised as ive got older that most of the screw ups that have happened have been down to my own poor judgement and the bad descisions ive made in life! Now ive realised this im in the process of patch

I always believe that I am responsible for the present situation[of course I attribute the final state of affairs to God's will, but as far as human interactions are concerned I have had certain unpleasant experiences in life for which I feel that if only I had had more firmness of approach, detachment and less joviality in mingling with people things would have been better. I would only say that people behave the way they do becasue we allow them. Situations get the better of us because we do not resist too strongly[barring Godgiven misfortunes and traumas]. Regarding work too, we "reap what we sow'.

I believe that I am responsible for whatever situation I am in because I am the one who made decisions for myself. I don't think that all people blame or point to others for their mistakes, but I think it is human nature to come up with any excuse to try to justify the situation they are in!

hello deepak! there are somethings in our life that are beyond our control, there are things that we don't choose to happen to us, like being born with the family we have, we can't choose who will be our parents...we don't choose to be born with poor family, we don't choose to be born in the country where we are...but as we aged, we can always do something about it...to get some changes in our lives... now, do i think that i am the one responsible for my present situation...well i think yes. no one can be more responsible with my life but me. although there are some influences from people around me, from the environment i am moving in, but still the last say, the final decisions are always mine... and so i think, what i am, who i am or where i am no, is the result of the decisions that i have made in the past, whether its good or bad still, i don't like to blame anybody...although there are times that we will tend to say this & that but those ere just due to our feelings as human beings...but that as just initial reactions when we are really down... all i know is that i always try to stand up whenever i fall and do my best the next time and learn from my failures... its difficult and time wasting to blame other people for our failure... as a mature individual, we must learn to be always responsible in our acts... have a good day!

Hi Depak, I know what you intend to focus on. Yes I have known myself and I have cut all those 'ifs and buts' and have learnt the reality that I ma responsible for what I ma now and would be in the future. But paradoxically many are there who do not realize this fact and become victims of grumblings and fretting. This is a simple equation that whatsoever result emerges we are there with our own task. And it the assessment if the task is ok or not.

Hi deepak, I am inclined to be satisfied with what I have, and work towards what I want. Therefore, the ifs and buts are there but not that prominent. Blaming others, I dont. If there is some error, I do point it out. But other than that, I believe I make my own destiny, good or bad. Of course, with god's help. :)

I believe I am responsible for my present situation, for the most part. My parents taught me that whatever I do in life, it's my decision/choice, and I need to take responsibility for it, good or bad. Ironically, I used to blame my parents for the way they raised me and the way I thought about myself. But one day in my early adulthood, I figured I either continue blaming them for a past that cannot be changed . . . or be productive in changing my ways for the sake of my future. I chose to shape up and have since stopped blaming my parents.