Shoul I continue to live with my son ?
By Godmother
@Godmother (476)
Indonesia
November 9, 2009 9:04am CST
I have been divorced and stayed single for 16 years now. My son is currently 23 years old and his plan is to marry in another 3 years. He has started his own business and is doing quite well. He is planning to buy a big house, and in our discussions, he pictures me to live with him forever. Should I do this ?
Please tell me what you think ?
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Have you talked to your son's fiance to know how she fells about having her mother-in-law living with her. I have found that two women living in a house hold is not easy or causes a lot of trouble because we women want to be in control of the house and have our own ways of doing things. Any way talk to your future daughter-in-law before making a decision. She should have more say then your son.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I though he was already engaged. Since that is the case then why not go ahead and live with him. The only problem I see there then is how will the girls he might want to date perceive him? but now days a lot of young people are still living with their parents. Or as in my case grandparents.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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10 Nov 09
Your right deebomb I should have thought of that. I think the three need to sit down and have a talk together
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 09
The point is, he doesn't even have a girlfriend now (he's just planning to have one and marry in 3 years). But he's planning to buy the house next year already. Maybe I should talk to him first and suggest to buy one with separate quarters, so we can all have our privacy ? But I will surely do as your advice once he gets engaged with someone.
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@Skyeblue25 (545)
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9 Nov 09
I think it may work if you have a very close bond with your son and his fiancee, but when they are newly married I personally would want to give them some space. Maybe finding a place close to my son so I could still be there for him when he needed me.
I think you need to sit down and talk to him and find out what he wants. Maybe he feels he may upset you if he doesn't include you?
On the other hand he may well want you to be there. Its really something you need to sit down and have a serious discussion with your son about.
@Skyeblue25 (545)
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9 Nov 09
Hope I helped a little. I mean there is no right or wrong answer to your question, as it all depends on what you and your son are happy with in the long term.
