Love and punishment is beneficial
By bhanusb
@bhanusb (5709)
India
November 9, 2009 11:50pm CST
Over love or over control make the children spoiled in future. This is the prevalent conception of parenting. But recently the scientists by their studies came to a conclusion that both love and punishment by the parents is beneficial for their kids. The children being grown up by their parents with deep care and attention they become successful in their greater future life. the British researcher Jen Lexmond said, they made study on nine thousand British families behavior to their children . After analyzing their study they found out that the kids grown up in a balancing condition of affection and rule in future they acquire self control and sympathetic human character.
5 responses
@chinthit (70)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Do you think? Of course the children need both love and rule. Kids need to know where the line is, and the consequences for crossing the line. That is the problem with many kids today. No one taught them that there are consequences when they do something wrong, or someone taught them that they, as kids, did not have to pay those consequences.....
@vandana7 (100988)
• India
11 Nov 09
Wow, that is interesting. :) Well, its time such studies were translated into vernaculars, so that other people could also read them. There are many people I know who over pamper their children, and eventually they turn out to be such rogues. They should get to read such stuff. :)
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Absolutely!! If you love your kids, you discipline them. There is a difference between discipline and abuse, and a good, loving parent will know the difference.
Too many parents feel that discipline is unkind and fear making the kids upset by disciplining them, rather than realizing that discipline is a part of loving the child. It is how we teach them to be good adults... of course, setting an example with the parent's own behavior.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Well of course it is! why do you think its beent he routine in most households for thousands of years.
Children need to be taught about right and wrong. Praise and consequences. Although its much harder to punish than it is to love - both need to be done equally.
It is up to the parents to mold their children... not so much their personalities or every single choice they make - but to teach them lessons, values, responsibilities. If Johnny steals a candy bar and the parents praise him for it, or act as if nothing happens...johnny will steal more candy bars... and when he doesn't get in trouble for that, he'll move to something bigger and bigger... he was never taught it was wrong. He may know its against the law - but if he's never been punished for it...why not?
I don't know why this struck you as something new.... but I'm glad there are still trained individuals that agree with disciplining your kids instead of locking you up for spanking your child.
