Bossing Ppl Around...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
November 11, 2009 6:45am CST
I’m wondering how many ppl do things a certain way here on MyLot b/c other ppl here tell you what you need to do? Do you post, respond, rate, comment in a specific way to please others? Do you hold back your real feelings b/c you don’t want to tick anyone off?
I’ve noticed a hot rising lately in this…Ppl telling other ppl how to do their MyLotting, how to post-respond-comment-rate, how to do their siggys, how many discussions to start and so on. It really becomes irritating after a while. It seems like everyday someone has something they need to dictate to everyone else. Ppl need to mind their own business and let everyone do their MyLotting their own way…I could see if the person was violating guidelines and someone pointed it out but all this “you need to do this”, “you need to do that” is crap.
Take the other day for example, my Nephew was over and we were talking about Thanksgiving coming and he calls it Turkey Day. We were online and I decided to put Happy Turkey Day on a few posts…he and I thought it was hilarious…I knew it would stump ppl but we were having fun. You wouldn’t believe the number of ppl that told me that I couldn’t put that on there till it was actually Thanksgiving Day! Says who?
I’ve also had ppl comment on a discussion, then find out who the discussion was actually about and come back and sugar-coat their response so that they don’t offend the person. That’s silly…
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@lynnzheng (89)
• China
12 Nov 09
lol, i just wanna say that happiness is everyone's right. no one can deprive of it. just do what you wanna do. be happy everyday.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
15 Nov 09
[b]Sounds too much like work, to me. 
When I post, I say what I mean & mean what I say. No phony faces. That way, I don't have to keep track of what I said to whom.
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
When I post, I say what I mean & mean what I say. No phony faces. That way, I don't have to keep track of what I said to whom.
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]2 people like this
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Nov 09
You know I agree people need to mind their own business....but it is still the same gripe your complaining about...telling others what to do. Lol. Not sure if you notic ed that or not in your discussion. Lol... I just find that to funny. But serious I get what you mean. I feel as long as someone is not hurting someone else, than who really cares what they do. The "Thanksgiving Day" comment was to funny. The real funny thing about that is when Canada has theirs before America has theirs. It tends to confuse people. If you are having fun...just flow with it. Thats what I try to to.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
12 Nov 09
twoey68,
Well, this is just part and parcel when there are differences in perceptions, prerogatives, interpretation and state of mind.
I have not met anyone bossy yet but I suppose it will be due time for me as the time will come. I hope that I could be light hearted then to avoid a heated exchange.
So until then, Happy Turkey Day there.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I haven't had anybody to boss me around on mylot yet but I won't put up with it. I have had a few people to point out to me when I was violating a guideline and one or two of them actually got ugly with me about it. I have forgiven them for it since but they could have been a little more tactful about it. I haven't added them to my friends list, though. I have an older sister who is always bossing me. I mean, I love her very much and I'm sure she doesn't mean any harm but she's all the time saying "you need to do this" or "you need to do that". I have tried talking to her about it but it doesn't do any good. I know just how you feel because I don't like anybody bossing me, either. That's why I never have married, lol! Actually, that's one reason why I never have married. I don't see anything wrong with calling Thanksgiving "Turkey Day". After all, that's what it is. I've heard of other people calling it "Turkey Day" and they've done it before the day got here, too. You're absolutely right. People need to mind their own business. Kathy.
! Actually, that's one reason why I never have married. I don't see anything wrong with calling Thanksgiving "Turkey Day". After all, that's what it is. I've heard of other people calling it "Turkey Day" and they've done it before the day got here, too. You're absolutely right. People need to mind their own business. Kathy.
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Thus, in a weird way, the greatest conundrum of human civilization is brought about... The magnificence of free speech coinciding with haters and idiots... What're people to do?
@CraftyCorner (5600)
• United States
11 Nov 09
There are some people who are over bossy, some people who are over-sensitive. How do you tell if you are one or the other? That is a very good question, and then you add the difficulties of expressing emotion in print, a notoriously difficult business, you've got a problem...
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OK, as for someone getting their feathers in a bunch over someone else wishing them "happy turkey day" needs to lighten up. OK, I could understand a miff maybe if someone was wishing "happy turkey day" in August. (You get that with Christmas cheer six months early already sheesh!)
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Then there are those who get the religious bee in the bonnet about Thanksgiving being called "turkey day". No blasphemy is or was intended in this little cherry business.
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If you want your knickers to twist in the most uncomfortable of ways, there are plenty of thoughts to occupy yourself with. There is an economy in the spin cycle, a war somewhere to fret over, worms and viruses for those who run the Windows Operating System, last but not least, lots of spam of the edible and non edible varieties.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
15 Nov 09
Hi twoey...in life, I am basically a non-confrontational person, find it saps a lot of energy, mental energy that I can use doing a lot more productive things. And that goes hand in hand, with good manners and hopefully I always expound them! To each, his own....and I always remember my Father's little saying "this world is like a fruitcake, if there weren't a few NUTS in it...it just wouldn't be right." I think the one real weakness in my philosophy is that I can easily be hurt! Cheers!
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
12 Nov 09
In my life, I've definitely encountered bossy people and it's very annoying. I enjoy my peace and quiet and when people start to order things around, it can get really frustrating. You are right; it will be wonderful if there aren't too many busybodies people around; in my life, especially. I would appreciate so2x much..
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Nov 09
hi twoey I have noticed lately a few do post how we should do certan things as though they alone had the only right way to make disucssions or responses or
comments. I thought that mylot left that up to our own discretion. then one
poster said rather snippily mylotters you must always put commans on your tags, she said listen up, and that really irritated me,who is she the correction police on my lot? We can all read and okay maybe sometimes we forget the bloody comma, but to make a discussion telling us to listen up like she was the boss here, come
on now. You are so right, we need to quit telling others what to do ,and do our own mylotting. I only suggest things to newbies who want to know how to increase their earnings ,not to the general mylot group. As for putting Happy Turkey day why not, whats wrong with that? We need to quit policing each other and tend to our own business instead.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Nov 09
typo alert should be discussions not disuc how can I be so clumsy, guess I haVE Dislectic fingers this early morning. sorry I do know how to spell, really I do.!!!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Nov 09
i NEVER DID LIKE TO BE BOSSED BY ANYONE & i'm going to change at this late date. I can't imagine people doing that. I say what i think, always have & always will. I don;'t think anyone on here as the right to boss anybody around. HAPPY TURKEY DAY, LOL.
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@celticeagle (168367)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Nov 09
I haven't had anyone on Mylot tell me what to do. I have learned from reading the guidlines and from experience and asking questions. I think you folks know me pretty well on here. I have said some things to some of you( you know who you are) and either it is appreciated or not taken real well. I have never been one to hold back unless I would hurt their feelings and there was no reason to do so. I am just outspoken and if I feel something is wrong I state it. I feel life is too short not to. I do try to say things in a comedic way when I don't want to hurt someones feeling to hit them the wrong way but I feel I need to bring it up to them. Happy Turkey Day lady!!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
11 Nov 09
LOL I actually find it funny, you know. I don't like bossing people around and I don't like to be bossed around either.
I can take suggestions but I don't like it if someone is being bossy. Earlier, I had someone tell me that I should say this girl should leave her abusive boyfriend. Otherwise I'd be to blame.
Some people here are just...well, I dont know. Weird. I do hold back with my comments sometimes especially if the person is a defensive type who doesn't know when to shut up. Those types of people are pointless to talk to. Other than that, I don't hold back.
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@BarBaraPrz (47683)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Nov 09
We must travel in different circles because I haven't noticed. (I haven't noticed much, it seems, when it comes to myLot.)
And as for Turkey Day, some years ago there was a marketing ploy here in Ontario where they started promoting "Turkey Tuesday" in order to increase consumption of healthy meat. I think it was during the mad cow scare. So, happy Turkey Day back at ya! (We had Thanksgiving last month, so you're late!)
@BarBaraPrz (47683)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Nov 09
Hey, I just noticed something... we're ALL pink here today.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
19 Nov 09
People can be set in their ways. They like what works for them, and think that other people should do things the same. The reality is, what works for one person, isn't going to work for everyone, so insisting someone does things a certain way is never a good idea, that's how misunderstandings begin.
The way I use mylot suits me. I come on when I have a spare moment, respond to the discussions I feel I have something worthwhile to contribute, start my own discussions if I am in the right frame of mind for it, and rate as I see fit. Though, if I don't like something, I don't rate it.
Everyone is different and we should accept that in others and accept that there is no right way of doing anything, but the way that works best for the individual.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 Nov 09
Bossy people are everywhere, on and offline! Even my daughter who is only eight is having problems with one her little bossy friends! I do my own thing and I don’t receive too much unwanted advice and when I do I say 'thank you very much' and keep doing what I want! 
@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
11 Dec 09
As for me I do not like to boss anyone around. I respect what that person wants to do with his or her personal time. but I supose I can suguar coat somethings some of the time in order to avoid conflict.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
12 Nov 09
You and that Turkey day! I was thinking "what the heck? Is there some other holiday I don't know about in another country that has to do with turkeys?"
