Big life changes

@valerie37 (1002)
Christiansburg, Virginia
November 11, 2009 9:50pm CST
Wow. I'm back here again after not posting anything for like 3 months. I am going through some big life changes right now. My husband and I are for now are seperated. I am staying at mom's and looking for jobs here close to where she lives. Plus looking for an onlne job to help me get back on my feet faster
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I am sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I hope you find something so you can get back on your feet. Good luck to you.
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@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
12 Nov 09
Thanks. I think the one thing I'm happy about is that Kayla can't fully understand what is happening with me and her dad. I haven't talked to you in awhile. How have you been?
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I am glad that she doesn't understand completely. Things have been kind of crazy here. Bryan had his surgery in March, he ended up with infection and they had to take out his baclofen pump. He is stiff as a board now. We are still on antibiotics and they are waiting for his back to fuse, so they can take the rods back out. Is Kayla still in that facility you told me about? What did you tell me it was called, may I ask?
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@sallysue (326)
• Canada
12 Nov 09
With so many changes in your life it must be very difficult, good luck on the path that you are embarking on and I hope it will bring you great successes.
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@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
12 Nov 09
It is difficult. I'm just taking things as they come, though.
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• India
12 Nov 09
Welcome back! Its good that you have put the past behind you and are now looking to more on…the mylot community is always here to help and support and cheer your up as best as we can.
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@derek_a (10873)
12 Nov 09
I am sorry to hear about your split up and can easily identify with it as I split up many years ago. At first it felt strange and there was this sense of loss, but after a while, I realized that the experience was teaching me a lot about life and helping me to be a stronger person. I believe that every experience has learning potential even if I don't recognize it at the time. - Derek
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@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 09
hi valeri.. welcome back. sorry to hear about u an your husband. but i am sure you strong and well enough to handle this especially with the support of your family and friends.... god bless and take care.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Nov 09
hi valerie37 welcome back.sorry you had to seperate. I do hope you have' better luck than my son finding a job. he has been out of work for 11 months and is getting really perturbed he does get unemployment insurance but he 'wants his job back as computer programmer. we are in the US California to be exact. Hope you can find something worthwhile onthe net.I wish I could also find something that really pays. goodluck and God bless. hatley here.
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@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
12 Nov 09
Thanks Hatley. I'm just praying that I will find some job even if it's just part time.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Good to see you on myLot again. So sorry to hear you and your hubby are separated. Hopefully you can work things out. I do a few things online but really don't make much money. Like doing the fun things. You can check my profile to see if you have any interest in one of the little jobs I do during the day.
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@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
12 Nov 09
Wow--that is a lot of changes and although I have missed chatting with you, I do realize that everyone needs to do what they have to do. Sounds like you have your priorities straight and I wish you the best and hope things go well for you. I, myself have been looking for a good online job for awhile now, they are very hard to come by. I hope you keep in touch and good luck. Starting over is difficult, I have been there but with supportive people such as our parents, families and friends it is a whole lot easier.
@ycanteye (778)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Hope things work out for you.
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@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
12 Nov 09
Thanks. I'm just taking things one day at a time
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I hope that things are going well for you now. My husband and I were separated for nearly 9 months when he decided that he wanted me back. We are back together now and I hope we can continue to improve things. But after all this time of soul searching, crying and praying I have learned that no matter what I will be ok. God is with me and I know that he is watching and I will be ok no matter what else happens. Good luck.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I feel your pain. My husband and I have now been separated 8 months. I'm living with my older daughter and her family and sometimes with my other daughter and her family. It is tough cause I dont have a car and no job. All my plans keep falling apart. I am looking forward to the day I can be on my own and not have to depend on others. I just hope that I can see my life change for the better soon and enjoy the years I have left and I hope that I can remain independant and not a burden. I'm hoping for some fun. Beware of those online jobs, they can be scams. Fo to Tory Johnson's web site "Women for Hire". She has been on Good Morning America frequently and has seminars all over the country. She has a list of some good companies which hire virtual workers.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
12 Nov 09
Welcome back, Valerie...nice to have you back in the fold! Those are HUGE life-altering changes you have/are going thru, and hopefully they were made, in order for a positive outcome! Sad, that you & hubby have parted ways, but once again hopefully that is a good thing, too! Finding work will be a big challenge, and I truly wish you the best of luck! We, here in Canada, are facing very high unemployment, so finding work is very difficult! Be happy...think positive..and go forward! Best of luck, valerie...and Cheers!
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
12 Nov 09
Hello valerie. Welcome back to mylot. I am sorry that you both have to separate for some reason, but I do wish you to find a job soon to help support yourself with good luck. I am sure that you can easily find some online jobs very easily as we have so many mylot friends, who are doing some online jobs and can recommend you some. Good luck, friend.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
12 Nov 09
valerie37, Must be tough on you and for this to happen at these challenging times. I just hope that the road ahead will smooth up. Take care and have a nice day.
@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
12 Nov 09
Thanks. And yes it is tough
• Singapore
12 Nov 09
“women should be tough, tender, laugh as much as possible and live long lives” Maya Angelou
@AmbiePam (93883)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I'm very sorry to hear that you are separated from your husband. I hope things work out how you want them to.
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Welcome back. Seems like you have a lot on your plate at the moment. I hope everything starts looking up for you.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Sorry to hear about the separation. I hope that life will be better in the coming days. Good luck and welcome back to Mylot. Like you do I have limited time logging in to mylot.
@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Welcome back. Sorry to hear your troubles. Remember life gives us what we can handle. Take care of yourself and things will come together when the time is right. Ainge
• United States
13 Nov 09
Glad to see you back at myLot. Sorry to hear about the separation and looking for work. Best wishes on finding a job and resolving issues with hubby one way or the other. Take care and please keep us updated.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
13 Nov 09
welcome back to mylot,i'm sorry to hear that you and you hubby were seperated, i guess you are well now,as you mom's around you,hope you will be finding a new job soon, so that you mind would be changed to the job, you would be find you new life isn't too bad. take care of yourself.good luck and have a nice day!