choose love or reality?

If you love each other I don't see any point why you end up your relationship. Sometimes parents are the hindrance for a relationship. I think your parents think if you and your boyfriend going to get married he can't support you and your family because he is poor. Your still young to think about marriage you need to enjoy your relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend for now. If that relationship going to get serious then consider marriage.

thank you very much. we love each other but marriage is vague for both of us. maybe i should enjoy the time we being together and do not think future, but i am 24 years old, i must think about my marrige. it is really a tough problem. i can give him up for my parents, in that case, i think i will be sad. if i continue to get together with him, i will hurt my parents. of course, now i still do not tell my parents. thank you again.

thank you for your advice. both of them are really very important to me, so i am in dillema. all the same, you give me some reminds.

If you believe he is the one You should Go on with him , Also you should explain it to your parents... They shouldnt Like force you to marry some person they want .. Its your life & whom which you gona build your own home with So Its your choice. He did nothing to deserve a break up than loving you ? If you believe that he could build your life then in ma belief I dnt think you should break up ...

hahah like a tongue twister. thank you my friend.

i envy you that you have a wonderful family and live a happy life. yes , you are right , do not judge a person so early. thank you my dear friend.

that will be necessary, thanks a lot my dear friend.

yea, that is my first idea. heheh thank you my friend.

yea, love is powerful. thanks my friend.

my dear friend, he is the same age as mine. you are right, we should both give us more time to prove or improve. you remind me that. thank you very much.

thank you very much for your kind reply. and i hope you and your boyfriend can be together happily forever.

yea, simple reply but useful, thank you my dear mrjburt164

this is what i do now . thanks my friend. i just wait and see.

lol, maybe this is a good question for myself. thank you my friend.

very reasonable reply. this is a way to solve the problem. thank you my dear friend.

this is an extreme way to takle the problem. lol. thank you my friend.

lynnzheng, Your action will beget consequence to your own action and this relationship. If you are clear about your own definition of how you see this friendship, being a good friend is merely being a good friend. But if you are always within the grey area, you are just making things difficult for yourself and him as you will probably resort to hot-cold treatment to ease the intention. That per se creates misery for the both of you. It is not the perimeters that the world has set for what defines a friendship or relationship, rather, it's your self understanding that will enlighten you on the underlying rationale. Everything MUST come from within - if the acceptance is not genuine from your inner self, the top-to-down demands issued by your mind will not be assimilated into motivation to change your circumstances. Basically you are only trying to dissolve this crisis through artificial pressure, but if it ever hits your breaking point, you will probably implode, especially when you are caught simultaneously in a low emotional state. Learn to know yourself. Speak to someone else you are comfortable with (probably not within your social circle and boyfriend if you fear words might go around) and release some of these closet thoughts. You might actually feel better and discover more about yourself and learn to make better judgment. However, one can only hope to dissolve a karmic relationship through cultivated wisdom and higher realization. Thus the understanding of the essence of Love truly transcends all state because Love per se is pristine - just that our decision in life often draw us towards complication. Sometimes, we live in false dreams; gazing at the surrealistic serial dramas, yet we consciously know at the back of our head that this is not exactly something possible. But we still hold onto a deluded possibility that things might just happen for the weirdest of reasons. Even so, will that bring you real fulfillment? Or more pain and suffering? You got to internalize these questions inside and appease your forbidden love from rebelling. A child will not willingly eat her veggies unless her mother forced it upon her. But there is only so much a mother can do to make her child eat those greens. It would be a whole lot easier if the child understand the importance of eating vegetables and have her accept it as part of her diet from a young age. You are the child. Think about it.

thank you first my dear friend. he has not get married. he is not rich but has responsbility which i mean that although now he is not rich, he work hard everyday for future. my parents disgree because we live in different palces and very far from each other and i graduate from university but he does not and so on. i am looking forward to your further advices. thank you again.

dear doryvien, you just say out the point, thank you very much. i should consider this from all aspectives. thanks again

dear mohitseth, thanks a lot for your advice. actually we have lots of differences such as educational background, group background even love background. we just know each other for several months which means i should know more about him and then make a decision. you know if i give him up now i will be very sad. So i did not tell my parents, i do not know this is right or wrong? thank you again.

thank you for your kind reply and i will consider that seriously.

thank you my friend. yes, the only right of decision is in my hand.

lol, haha you are so humorous my dear friend, in some degree, you are right.