is it a choice to be single or not?

Hi,amy,it's a sensitive point and any 2 persons have not the same opinion on this.As per me living as single is a really hell,as much i can tell you,as i know the security feeling,affections,blood relations,functions,taking care on each other..seems like heaven,if we think it.A person waiting for us at home gives us a feeling which we can't measure in anything. For all getting this heaven one should have mutual understanding,trust,belief,respecting each other's thoughts.. Why the question of hurting arises,i think the wrong is in either of them, if it happens one time,if it going repeat every time means... The pictures you uploaded are very much related to this discussion and nice.

I don't think being a single is a choice. Because it is depend on the person hold that criteria. Being a single is not a good option in my opinion. Because life will not be completed without someone to love in our life...have a nice day!

I'm single and I love it. I do date and I have been married twice. I did have a live-in boyfriend for years also. Now I just enjoy having my own life. I wuld never live with a man again but I am not opposed to being in a relationship. I do have a special man in my life but I would not live with him. I've been on my own for so long now that I guess it would just be pretty impossible for someone to live with me.

Everyone is true to his point. But if you don't have expectations then how could you live? It's so sad that she spends her life in the fear of getting hurt through relationship but why don't she think of the opposite and expect that. It's only fate. Does she know something about her fate? Staying single or not? I think it's better to live in love of someone instead of being lonely. Everyone needs someone in this life to be taken care of. I think women are more strong in staying single and carry on their life smoothly than a man.

it is a choice and you are responsible for its consequences whether it end up as sweet or worst. that life after all their is bad and good encounter.

LOL, the picture made ma laugh. Well, I think it depends on who youre asking. Some people are contented being single and don't want to be tied down. I have a relative like that. She's had relationships before but she says she's happy with her family and doesn't feel the need to have intimate relations because she is fulfilled as she is. She also had many suitors but none did take her fancy, obviously.

Sometimes it is, but sometimes it is not. Some people do find their soul mates, and others never do. Some people just settle with people that they do not love because they feel that it is safe, when in fact, they might never be happy with that man.

I think it is a matter of choice. I have aunts and uncles who prefer to be single all this time. Some of them did not even have any serious relationship before that hurt them that you might consider cause the preference to be single. It is really there decision. Though most of the people who remain single did have some bad experiences with their love life. But if you want to, you can always stand and love again. But then again, its a matter of choice to remain single.

Hi amyson, For me...I think it's both. There are women who doesn't look for a partner even though they are worth to have one. And some are like your Aunt and my Aunt, your Aunt had many suitors yet because of heartache she chose to be single. But my Aunt...I think she had some but she's quite a snob and I don't know the english "masungit" she ends up single. I said both because I had neighbor, she's still single at her age and she's quite a man hater. I think that's one reason she stays single.

Well I would say that for some people it is and for some people it isn't. There are probably plenty of people out there that have a hard time finding a girlfriend or boyfriend but then there are other people that may have had a perfect partner for quite a while but they break up with them because they want to play the field or date other people or something.

It is a choice and when a girl feel that she already in a right age to get married it is best to try to find a partner than remain single whether you like it not. it is better than never and regret later for not being able to try as it is hard to find an ideal man who would satisfy your every needs and desires. i think love develop with time even under pressure it is better to try than to end up being single, alone and homeless feeling abandon with a lot of self pity full of regrets fro lost love and beauty.

it certainly isn't a natural chemical thing that's happening within our body so, definitely, being single is a choice. you said so yourself that your aunt chose to be single .

I am single by choice, at the moment, but I would eventually like someone in my life. I am not good in relationships (due to personal issues) and would like to get my problems straightened out before I become involved with someone. I do believe in soulmates. I'm a romantic and still believe that the one person for me is out there and someday he will come into my life. If I'm still single at 40, however, I might rethink that philosophy :)

Hmm. That's a bit complicated. Sometimes it is your choice, other times it might not be. For example, if you find your ideal partner, but aren't interested in a relationship, then you are choosing to be single. But if you find someone who is exactly what you want, but they don't feel the same about you and let you go, then it isn't your choice, it would be the other person's.

It is a personal choice in which I feel I shouldn't interfere with. I always respect whatever choice a person makes in her or his life, as long as it is reasonable and makes the person happy in the end. What I have been observing in my community, many old maidens are not still married not because they chose to, but they can't find a suitable soulmate. For example I have a cousin who is already 41 years of age but she is still not married. Now she said she is content with her life and she didn't want to busy her life finding someone to marry because she said if there is somebody out there, the man will find her and she shouldn't do anything about it. She said love and marriage is already fated by God and it will happen naturally. But I can sense that deep in her heart she didn't mean what she said. Her mother told me that there were some men who were interested in her but all the men are not matching up to her standard (that's what I think because she's an accountant but her mother always think she should marry someone who earns at least the same as she is). I strongly feel if she doesn't have to follow her mother's expectation, she is already married by now but she chose to be single because she's afraid she won't be happy if her mother is not happy with her choice.

hi amyson! hahaha that photo of an old lady made me laugh on my seat! ahaha.. I'm sorry! Okay, I am single and...uhmmm not really old but getting there! lol.. As per your question, for me it can be a choice and destiny too. Right now, I choose not to be in a relationship for I have many things to do..I think I am also giving myself time to enjoy being single because, I have been in a relationship that is not succesful. I am happy now but, it doesn't mean that I wanted to be single all my life. But on the other hand...if I am destined to be single forever then I can accept it. (Oh no! I might accept it..haha) Because I really don't know what lies ahead. I mean, I cannot say that I have to fall in love with someone in certain time...only God knows.. Nice topic you got there! Happy mylotting!

For some people is is a choice. But I think for most people it isn't. They just didn't find the right person. Quite a few of my friends are single and it's not because they want to be. But they are looking for Mr. Perfect and won't settle for someone real. I'm not sure there is a single soulmate for everyone, but I think there is someone for everyone who could be a soulmate, if that makes any sense!

Sometimes it is wrong timing with guy or girl. It all about preferences and one person will allow or not allowed and whether other will respect that and still be able to get along. Sometimes it choice based on how they were raised groing up if there was something terrible that may have jaded there view on relationship. Then we have TV and cable telling us other things about being single whether it is cool or not. Traditions play a big role and values and religion. What was valued in my father or mother time is not valued now etc.. Thanks and have a great day Sincerley Unique16

Being single is a choice, my aunt has a lot suitors before during her young age, but she choose of being single. i know and i believe that everyone of has has a soulmate but it depends on you if you want to get married or stay single. it's your choice!!!!

Whether or not soulmates or fate are true, being single is still a choice... it just simply means that you feel this even deeper love for yourself and choose to share that love to others without having to go into a relationship. No one becomes single just because... it because they chose so. Some would say that "I'm single because ever since I was a teenager, guys would find me gross..." so, there... there's always a reason behind, subconsciously leading the person into the choice of becoming single.