Are You Jealous of the Success of Your Classmates?

Not really, but I'm uncomfortable with the differences. I have found some classmates on Facebook and mmm...look at their profiles, they're all graduated, have wonderful jobs (at least on the paper but I doubt they are so wonderful) within their graduation field, great families, most of them is married, some already have kids and all of them have a partner, whether a steady girlfriend or a wife. This doesn't upset me directly, I could care less really, what I care is how they look at me, from their position, I'm the exact opposite. Don't have a degree and work as a secretary, no family, not a husband nor a boyfriend...they cannot read what is behind, of course they don't know what I am really. Because yes I studied as a mechanic and now I'm a secretary, but I'm a damn good one!!! It's not a dream job, I don't have a dream job, but I know I'm good at it, especially being a directional secretary takes a lot more than just photocopying, I secretely like my position there...but can they see that? Of course not, my managers know that, I know that too...but it's not written on facebook, granted. About relationships, here there's that secret rule that if you're single then 'poor pityful you'...also they disregard you if you are single...but right now I'm single by choice, because I don't throw myself into a relationship just to say I have a boyfriend like they do, or because they feel they should have a relationship, I throw myself into a relationship only if I know that relationship will improve my actual situation, I'm not talking about money but emotions, I don't seek whatever relationship, I seek what can give me something I don't have, make me feel a better human than I am now, otherwive, if it's going to get things worse, thanks but I can stay alone. But can they see that? I can, my friends know...but it isn't written on facebook, nor there is any way to write it. Also, except for money, work and family, what else did they do? I was a 21 yrs old woman walking with a cane due to a back injury, within one year from then I was a bodybuilder. Does that mean anything? Can they know that? I like that success...I know I have it, but they'll never know it. I don't like what they can judge from what they read of me on my profile, but I am not jealous of their money, career or family, most of the things they have are things I wouldn't want for me. Maybe we're just different people and making comparisons is difficult.

I'm not jealous of the success of my former classmates at all, in fact I am rather proud of them. They have lives that they are happy with and I too have a life that I am happy with. Granted, I realize that I didn't become the physician that I always dreamed of becoming, but I am very successful in my own way. I have a wonderful husband that loves me more than I ever thought anyone would love me, and I have two children that are the most important thing in my life. Why should I try to find a reason to be jealous of anyone?

Never ever, I am jealous of anyone. I have seen many of them were that time so jealous of me and all my friends, since they're all so pretty! ..We're all equal in college, but then we graduate and immediately some of us get jobs and others get near-six-figure pay. Ah, inequality. I am so happy for all that are working hard and leading a good life. I think in school. it is great to be smart. However, when you are smart, chances are that you must handle jealous classmates, even if they are friends. This is really easy, with the right attitude.

I am never jealous of other's success . I think it is a stupid thing . To be what I want to be .

This happens every now and then. When jealousy bites, I just rethink them in my mind to consider that as a motivation for me to work harder on achieving my goals so that someday, I'll be in the same level with them or even higher.

I'm not. Even when I was in my high school years I wasn't. The reason is I don't wanna compete.

To envy someone's success is not a good attitude. It is a sign of personal insecurity and we should overcome that bad feelings. God is not pleased with a jealous person. Look how Cain killed Abel because he was jealous that the Lord favored Abel's offering more than his. Jealousy can lead to something really bad. I think instead of getting yellow with envy it is better to just be happy for the person and if I feel I am not as successful as him or her I would rather make him an inspiration so that I could also be successful in my own way. I think jealousy can kill a person. I am glad I am not that type. I always am happy when I see people succeeding in their endeavor.

Successful in terms of what? There are many different kinds of success, and it would be different for every person. But if you are just referring to financial success, then I could honestly say that I'm not jealous. I have a stable job, and although I get so tired of working most of the time, I'm still glad that I earn my own money.

I am not envious of anyone's sucess. I learned early in life that we use all the beautiful and nice things we have to cover the horrid things we don't want others to see. You see a person who is rich and beautiful and consider him to be very lucky to have all he needs but there are certain needs and desires thier money cannot buy and when you get to know, you will feel you are a lot better even without any money so I am satisfied with my life and work hard to have a better life

I don't feel jealous because I consider myself successful in my own right. Success is subjective. It all depends on what you think is success. For some, success is having a stable family and a good husband or wife. While others, would say it is more of having a good career and financial standing. I don't feel jealous because I think we all have had success so far. I don't find it difficult to praise them because I'm pretty contented where I am right now.

No, I'm not jealous. I have achieved what I set out to achieve and are very proud of myself. I guess if you haven't been able to achieve your ambitions it is easy to feel jealous.

Frankly speaking,i think about this situation often times Classmate reunion is more likely becoming arena & the game of rich people instead of recalling the valuable passed days..i have graduated for two yrs,the above-mentioned situation did not happen to me until now for the reason is that my classmate never organizes it. if i get to know that some classmates have already bought a limousine or open a company etc,my first response would be admiring. if the guys always fiddling around in the campus make a big success ,i may be a little jealous/ill-affected Anyhow,what i think more is to change such kind of situation by my every effort. Success mainly deponds on ourself,while Jealousness cuts no ice my view of Classmate reunions should be a party to gather together to discuss how to delevop the better career,share some useful info and help someone in bad situation..Show-off no!

Well In my case, I will not be jealous instead, be proud of what they made in their lives because I know in myself that I was able to helped them before, And I will do also my best to get my goals in life. :)

yes sometimes but I get used to it

I must admit that I am jealous of them sometimes. I have one friend who nowlives overseas and she has a wonderful career. Most of my friends are getting married and buying their own homes. I have acheieved nothing except a failed engagement and a career that I don't really want to be involved in forever. I am now studying the course that I really want to do and I am happy within myself so I guess I have to look at the positives. I have made my life so far and I can control what happens in the future. We should all be happy with ourselves and if we are not, then do something to change it!

Not really. There are really only a couple of people from my class that I know of that have gotten really wealthy. The one worked really hard and I am not really shocked at all that he has done well. The other kind of bothers me a little bit because I know he achieved his success in ill gotten ways. I know he was up to no good after high school and while he is probably legitmate now he got is big break in non legitimate ways, so I am not jelous of him but am actually more disgusted by him and feel he does not deserve his success.

I dont think I am jealous and even if I was it wouldnt be to the extent that I wish them ill in life,no I am not like that .I wont lie and say that I dont think that I am deserving of some success and I havent wondered how I wasnt more successful in lif eespecially when I look at how well I was in my earlier years but that has mostly served to make me more motivated to do better adn in so oding achieve my own success.So in summary tehir success serves as motivation for me

frankly speaking,people always jealous the success of others persons who near from him.Don't shame,it's usual and sometimes we should thank the jealous because it can stimulate us taking great progress in ourselves

No, I will never be jealous of my classmates, in fact I'm really happy for them if they succeed in anything. Friends are friends for life so if one of my friends are happy, I'm also very happy and I will keep staying this way as long as I live. I'll only be jealous if a guy gets a more beautiful girlfriend than I do though, which will be pretty rare LoL.

My classmates and i are in the middle stages of success i guess. We have december reunions every year. i don't feel jealous of friends who have reached a certain amount of success, i genuinely feel happy for them but at the back of my mind i am thinking that i should strive harder to be at par with them. i don't feel jealous at all, i just feel pressured. it spurs me to work hard on my own goals.