i feel like i am being stalked!

Hi Sweetchariot, I'm really glad you've put this topic up as I've never used instant messaging but a few people have urged me to get it. You've now put me right off as I don't like the thought of being instantly accessible. I never keep the mobile in call range if I don't want to hear it and everyone knows to never use the text thingy as I'll just ignore them, but the thought of something beeping at me on the computer as well, no thanks.

Yup, I do have some experiences like that, and until now, just a while ago, chatting me on facebook like "hi" or "Do you have a ym?". But I've already experienced this kind of situations before so the best thing to do is never reply them, not even once, especially if you don't know them, in that case they'll get tired because you keep ignoring them and the act of not replying them not even once is a good thing to do.

Hello friend, Most of the times I sign in I sign in as invisible and I know exactly the kind of people you are talking about. They are like always saying 'hi' and sometimes I am not just in the mood for a chit chat. Although fortunately enough I haven't met anybody else so persistent as this friend of yours.

I hate the instant messaging too. I log in invisible unless I am specifically going onto the computer to chat. Which so far, I never have. LOL I also hate the thing popping up to remind you that someone is on the computer. I really don't care who is on the computer. If I want to talk to them then I will. I don't need a machine to remind me when to talk to my friends. LOL You're right about being stalked. I think the computer is alive and it is watching us!

You are being stalked by a girl, same gender??? Do you feel or have any idea if she is a lesbian or something? I think you should ignore her IMs always. If you are really not comfortable with her then don't reply to her any of her IMs to you. She will get tired of it soon.

Yes, I did have this problem some time ago with someone who was a friend.Because of our friendship, I didn't want to cause any offence but in the end I had to ask my friend if we could just stick to e-mailing each other and thankfully she agreed.

No as I will not allow People to be added that I do not want to be IM'D by You did good blocking the Person as it sounds awful that she is always there and I have to say I would have blocked her straight away specially as she will not listen when you say you are busy

I quit using Yahoo Messenger for just that reason. Now they have the instant messaging in most email accounts like Yahoo and Gmail. I simply set mine at invisible...that way if I want to talk I can and yet, they don't bug me if I don't. [b]~~I AM WHO I AM~~ **STANDING STRONG IN MY BELIEFS**[/b]

i hate those things. they slow down my computer,and when i was on AOL people pestered me all the time while i was trying to work.then there were the random freaks from nowhere you had to block.

I know how you feel. I can think of a few people that are like this. If I don't want to be bothered with when I'm online, then I'll turn on my "away" message for instant messaging. Basically this means that I'm blocking anyone from sending me an instant message.

why not block her from iming you. most instand messaging you can do that

I did have this problem every single time i was online there was thisperson that wanted me to talk to them and when i blocked them they changed their details i added who i thiought was someone else and it turned out to be them again,so now i do not go on there.Easier not to go on there i think as i was getting so angry at one stage.

I have never had this problem, thank God and I hope I never do. Its good that you blocked her cause you dont know if she is a psycho

It almost sounds like she has something more in mind than conversation. I had the same thing happen to me twice which is why I removed all IM from my computer. Some people just don't get it. You tell them your busy and its like you never said anything as they go on and on..It happened to me with guys who very definately had something more in mind than chat. I made the mistake of giving one of these people my email ady and the next thing I knew, he sent me a picture of his "private" parts. Can you believe that?? (It wasn't even all that great! haha) That was the final straw for me so I quit the IM thing and from that day forward was very careful who I gave my email to. Like they say..it takes all kinds but I don't have the time or energy to deal with idiots..and I'm sure you dont either..If I were you I would just be blunt with her and tell her that if you want to talk than you will be in touch, in other words, Dont call me, I'll call you!! Be careful and good luck..

Well what I do, is I don't answer them until I do have time, and that's if I want to! The cell phone and the computer, you have control of it, you can respond if you want to, if you don't, you don't!

I absolutely love Instant Messaging. Thankfully now there is something called being invisible that makes it to where you are still online but nobody can tell you are online. You can still IM people and they can IM you back but it does