Do You Want to be a Woman behind Your Man Or a Capable Career Woman?
By getbrowser
@getbrowser (1708)
China
November 14, 2009 3:43am CST
Whether in hard hit or in marriage, both men and women should have their own space, and the times when men were regarded as the god has passed away. However, as two persons living together, in key time, they still need to mutually support, care, understand and rely on.
Some women will make you feel depend on each other. For most of the time, they have common appearance and they are not ambitious but to live steadfastly. They will deal with the things that their husbands don't want to handle. They will also give birth to children, support their parents and make the whole family a good state. This kind of women are the best partners for men in the second half of their life. When you come across depravation, they would sit down with you chatting and communicating, who would never scold you.
Some other women are candor, self-independence and large-hearted, and the biggest characteristic of them is to make family stable. Our long life is full of frustrations; this kind of women would like to sacrifice to the family. They will always show their true face to you without playing some tricks behind you.
If you are a woman, what role do you want to play before a man? If you are a woman, what role do you want to play before a man?
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18 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
14 Nov 09
When I was a wife I totally supported my man the best I knew how. He threw me away like I was last week's trash after 20 years. So now, I will never support another man. My other men were the same way. I realize that I chose the wrong partners but I haven't figured out why so men are out of my life forever. I've met nothing but poisonous snakes when it comes to men and I'm better off without them. A woman can sacrifice everything for her man and he'll use her as long as he can then throw her away.
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I agree men are like poisonous snakes spitting venom at women when they have exhausted them.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
i would've preferred to be a capable career woman but circumstances forced me to be in the background. that's okay. any deep thinking and repsected person knows that every great person has another great person backing him up. sometimes it isn't where we are that counts. it's how we find contentment and make the best of where we find ourselves in that makes any humble situation unjustifiable by mere words alone 
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I was sort of like that, except for the children and the parents. Those we did not have, but I was pretty much an equal partner even while having a career and so was he. Then we retired. But I do not believe in sacrificing for the family. I think the family can work together and each person do his or her share. Nobody should have to give up anything. People who do not want children should not have them and people who have them should not want a single life. I do not believe in wasting time with tricks. People should be clear about what they want and not manipulate others. Women who pretend to be weak are not helping anybody and especially not themselves. Men who want weak and inferior women deserve what they get.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
15 Nov 09
hi,getbrowser!
I think both are available for women and no one is better than the other.It depends on which one a woman is willing to choose,and she can take different roles at different stages in her life.
as for me ,I prefer to be capable career woman.mainly because it's hard to afford the spending of one family with one party's salary.besides,women hold salaries are respected more both in family and in society,generally speaking.so,working at home with no earnings and working outside with earnings,I prefer the latter.:)
have a nice day!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
As a husband i want my wife to have her own career cause it's one of social needs and it can make her better, i will just support whatever she wanted to do in her career. And specially nowadays it is better for both husband and wife to work.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 09
Men and women have equal capabilities unlike before where the men go hunting to look for food while the obedient wife stay at home to wait for the husband. Women no longer depend on men to provide meals on the table as women are becoming more and more independent now. I am a strong woman and is accustomed to the individualistic way of life. I work hard to earn my own money and enrich myself. 
I let my man walk in the direction he wants.
I let my man walk in the direction he wants. 
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Nov 09
A stable family life is the ideal. I think men and women both need to do what needs to be done to bring this about. My ex would do chores around the house on rainy days when he couldn't work. Two mature people that come into a relationship need to nurture and be respectful of eachother. It is a two way street. Good communication and a common goal is all important. I think a woman can be a bread winner and a homemaker if she is organized and this is what she wants. The role I want to 'play before a man'(youre so cute!) is being the best woman I could be.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
14 Nov 09
What's wrong with being both? Other than giving birth, if a marriage is strong and equal, both should be willing to do all of these things for each other? We all need love, support and a strong foundation, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. As a woman, I expect to play both rolls, and I also expect the same in return from my husband.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I think that in the best of all worlds, men and women would equally be supportive of one another!
In the absense of a spouse, I prefer to be able to be independent and know that I am capable of taking care of things on my own.
Karen
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Nov 09
Hi GB,
I am a career woman but i am always the woman behind and beside my husband. WE ARE PARTNERS in life. No matter what we will be here for each other. WE may have our own career in life but we find time to make each other feel important and affirmed. I will be a friend to him to take care of him as we grow old...reminishing our younger years, those trials and of course our happy moments together. I want to retire early to have more time for my family. My husband assured me that he will take care of everything just in case i finally decide to quit my job.
@taraelocin (1138)
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14 Nov 09
The honest answer is: both. I am a capable career woman myself. I love my career, love being successful, love proving myself.
At the same time my husband is our main income earner. He asks me to come along to some business dinners as his wife, which I am happy to do to help him.
We support each other, help each other when we are not sure about business issues. So I don't think I have to chose between one and the other.
@hunieby (207)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
I would want to be a capable career woman who can handle both a career and a relationship. I would be there to support my man but at the same time have a life of my own. I can't see myself depending on my man only I have to have my individuality at the same time in order for me to bring out the best in my man and to provide him support.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
14 Nov 09
as a man my wife was both, as i am both as well. i belive that when you are married both men and women need to behind each other and both can have a career. i belive that females should be inpedance
@shuying8710 (260)
• China
14 Nov 09
hello,getbrowser
at present,to live a better life,i have to work and share my salaries to support our life,if my parter can support our life by himself in future,i prefer to be a housewife and take care of our daily life.
@carmelbg (519)
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14 Nov 09
I will always support my husband whenever he needs it. I have my own career and goals and at various times throughout our relationship I have earnt more money than my husband. I would always want to have a good career of my own and would not expect my husband to keep me. I have my own mind and goals and my husband would not expect me to just sit at home if I wanted to go out and earn my own money and fulfil my potential.
