An EX wanted to get me back!!! but his married already.... OHHHH Nooooo..

Your ex is now married so I think it would be wise for you to stay away from him. He got married to someone else and so he was trying to move on with his life. He is thinking about you and that is not good for his wife. I think that you could send him a letter saying why you split up with him and that you want him to get on with his life. You should mention that you don't wish to hear from him again. Maybe in time you could become his friend but for now he is hoping for more than friendship. Good luck.

Since your ex is already married, leave him alone.Do not be the third party to break his wife's heart. Moreover you don't love him anymore. Don't ever see him again, he may sweet-talk you and if you are vulnerable you may fall for him again for old time sake. I repeat do not break his wife's heart. Be a good child of God.

You have to ignore his calls and any communications from him because he is already married. it's just enough telling him that you don't love him anymore and if he still keeps on calling you, then just ignore, he will just getting tired.

Oh no, please stay away from him. Just give yourself a little bit longer to really forget him out from your system. He clearly has a problem with his current relationship or is his wife pregnant?? I have known someone like this before... So, before you've become attached with him again, it's best for you to really focus on what you are doing now, that is 'trying to move on'... If you think you can handle him as a friend, you can always talk to him on the phone, but if you start seeing him, your relationship with him will be misunderstood.

hi there! i can't help but wonder what's going on with your ex, chasing you that way when he's already married. well for me, it'd really be safe for now to just to stay away from him and ignore his attempts at communicating with you. although it wouldn't hurt to be friends again, you'd have to consider what his intentions are and that, most importantly, the fact that he is married. don't fall prey to his woes cause it might cause a whole new case of trouble and that would hurt.

Hi feodda! I can't find any reason why you're ex is trying to have you back aside from past time. Maybe he is just trying his luck if you can still be together. Having a wife means he love the new girl in her life. If he truly loves you before , he shouldn't have had a third party. It's time for you to prove him wrong since you said you don't love him anymore. I suggest you stop yourself from seeing him. yan

You are wise not to entertain your ex pleas. Maybe he realized that he made a mistake for two timing you. Don't give him chances as he is a married man now and if you allow him to come back to you, you are going to break his wife's heart which I think you don't wish it to happen. Just tell him the truth that you no longer love him and that you belong to someone else as he is. He should not be hunting you now when he is already a committed man.

[b]Oh, Feodda...please tell me you aren't serious! HE'S MARRIED! Does that mean anything to you? Because it obviously doesn't mean anything to him! "Let's just be friends" are some of the most dangerous words spoken between people who were formerly "involved." If you had my experience, you would run, not walk, away! NOW. Maggiepie IMPEACH HIM![/b]

Do you have children together? If so there is no way you can keep him totally out of your life, but if not just tell him you cannot stand the pain. Look at his record, he not only put you through pain but now is going to do the same to his new wife, who needs someone like that? He will never change no matter how much he says he will, this is a totally selfish man who cares nothing for anyone but himself.

For you to say OHHHH, Nooooo (as written on the title of this discussion) is a good start, I just hope you have the conviction to stick to this decision, because it is the soundest decision to make under the circumstance. Going out with a married man will put your reputation in a bad light, and if he is an ex - it makes things even more complicated. If he betrayed your trust back then, and he's about to do it with his wife now, I would be scared even just to go near him.

No way, you should not see him, not for any reason especially now that he is married if not you could cause him to cheat on his wife. Try to be strong. If he really cared, he would not have hurt you or tried to make things work out with you

Hi feodda, dont go after such a confused immature guy! The guy doesnt understand the words "commitment", or "marriage". He needs to go to school. :) Forget him. U seem to be a sane person. Find a saner, more mature person, who would cherish u, and not behave immaturely like this one did. So would he leave u for his wife, after all he would have regrets then as well, isn't it? The very fact he wants to return shows u r a gr8 person. Revel in that, and move one. :)

Hello, you don't need to get back to him again you can just be a friend.

I had similar problem but was with an ex who had split from his fiance cos it wasnt me... and I'm in realtionship and wanted just friendship... but seeing he was ringing me when drunk or lonely during the nights... EVAN when i was with fella!! I had to let him go for good as it would carry on forever, never getting over me and friednship never being as it was.... He didnt blame me. He wanted to see me in my wedding dress and imagine that it was him whow as stood next to me.. but he was the one who broke it off cos he couldn't give me children or want to get married again... For the second time! But as far as I was concerned, was too young to settle down that much!! Just enjoyed the realtionship at the time!! He was dragging it up all the time!! I still wonder if he has finally got over me... he hasn't found me on FB that I know of... Might have just hasnt messaged me or anything! So best to tell him that if he is to carry on in life and show how much you care about him... you have to let him go to move on... And to get on with your own life!!

Even if you have control now or before doesn't matter. What's the use of meeting him when he is married. You have to be practical in life and face realities. Move on so you won't be confused in the future. Good luck! and God bless!

Dont talk to him. Just say goodbye and tell him not to bother you anymore. If you answer him he might think youre still in love with him.

why confuse yourself? if you don't love him, then stop all the connections you have with him. besides, he's already married.

If your ex is marriage now. It's better not to see him again for not fall on the hole again. You said that your not yet recover from the pain that he created. Why do you troubled yourself for that matter? How if those words is a kind of fool because he's wife is away from home then want something to fill his hunger and think about you. Because he feel lonely as of this days...? Don't accept his invitation and see for yourself first before doing any action to meet him. Just note about your pain and don't consider something for not fell on the trap...

I think you are old enough to know what you should do. You are right, you have more control now. It has no sense if you find time to see him. I think you shouldn't also think of being friends with him. Just be civil with your relationship with him meaning you can entertain his call once in a while but not every time. The more you give him your time and attention, the more he will have the confidence to pursue you. He might think that you still like/love him because you keep on responding to his call/plea. Hope you can make the right decision on this.

In my opinion, you should keep away from him and give him no chances any more. Spilt water can't be gathered up. Now that he has gotten married, so, it is not wise to be back and enter his life. Even if he was sorry for everything he done to you, you shouldn't give him any chances to start a new life with him, which is impossible and is unfair to his current wife. For you, I think the best way for you to deal with such a situation is to try to forget all the past time with him. If he continues pestering you, just pay no attention to his action and start your whole new life.