How to tell parents that their child is not smart at school?

There is no better way of saying that to a parent than saying it as it is in a nice way. I don't see why the parent should get angry. Children are different and learn at different paces, some children need extra tutoring at home and a parent should be willing to devote a little time to thier child.

I hope she did not give you that child's name that kind of information should not be spread around and I hope she did not use the words, "Not smart" to describe a child. It is best for her to tell the child's parents the areas that the child needs improve and ask them to work at home a bit more in these areas with their child. Perhaps this teacher is not a good teacher and it is because of her the kids are not learning properly. She needs to ask herself what she can do to help these children learn, not how to tell the child's parents that their child is not smart. If a teacher ever said something like that to me about one of my children she would be sorry. Best to just point out areas where the child needs help and not label the children.

I have a cousin who is a teacher and she was able to face a parent when she substituted to one regular teacher at this certain school. She failed their child and the parent have confronted my cousin. My cousin was able to defend her side and she said that no matter what she did she really can't save their child. Probably you just have to tell them that they need to help their child for she needs to do an extra effort in order to catch up with the school work. And she could also tell the parent that it is very effective if they interact with their child, it could be a new way of bonding with their child also.

I wouldn't tell a parent their child is not smart in school, if you word it that way. Parents are sensitive and protective when it comes to their kids. If the child is lacking in certain things, I would say that he or she could do better and I would also try to encourage the parent to take a more active role by ensuring the kid studies more. I think if you say negative things about someone's kid, you will almost always get a tongue lashing. So, that's how I'd do it. Realistically, not all kids will come as front runners in their class. That doesn't mean they're not smart. They could have other talents and abilities.

If I were the teacher, I will tell the parents the truth. Ii is the only way to help the children.

I am a teacher and its really hard dealing with the parents whose kids are not smart maybe she just can tell the parents to have the kid enrolled in tutorial class so that they can cope up with the lessons or maybe they have a family problem at home that made the kid act that way. She should have try to find teh main reason for that.

For a start I would not use the words not smart, as I do not believe in not smart, basically I would tell the Parents that their Child needs to put a bit more behind their work as they are not doing to well, but with a bit of work I would be sure that the Child will catch up and do fine The Parents need to know as it is them that has to help and support their Child, if they take offence at the Teachers words then they have a guilty concision, a Child need helps at times and if no one helps then this happens But that is how I would put it to the Parent

Dear friend, I may just discuss the situation with the parents if they are willing to solve their child defects. Moreover I hope it would be better for child to get a better guidence and if his parents too support it. Hence I may just dicuss with parents and find a clear solutions for the benefit of the child. May be an appointment with the parents would be made.

I have a child that has some behavioral and learning issues. The way her teachers will tell me if she is having trouble in something is just that "She is having some trouble with this". They may also suggest to me a site that I can use at home to help her and we will just work together until she gets it.

Why is it so important in regards to the intelligence of a child.as long as they can grow up to have enough wits by them to get by in this society with the necessary social living skills.dont need to be genius..I have a 9 year old and to me its not very important that she grows up with an above average IQ or straigh As in exams,we do our best to guide them in their formative years but the emphasis on smart may put uncall for pressure and stress the kid out,we all have a role and will find a niche in live when we grow up ,values ,compassion,and real common sense are the foundations more important to me than academic excellence,but if they have it ,even better,or just average ,no matter ,we will still be proud of them,and if a parent demands more than the child can cope with,poor kid,grow up bitter or insecure.. It horrifies me sometimes whenever i read about accounts of teens taking their own lives because they didnt do well enough in their academics and terrified of dissapointing their parents.very common of late. This instance the teacher should just use a tactful approach and rather use the smart word,maybe just tell the parents the child has their own timing of things.Damge to self esteem of the child takes priority over worry of hurting parents feelings.

as a teacher its my obligation too, to inform the parents of the kids of how there kids doin at school especially the parents entrust there kids to the teacher if the kids are in the school...so your teacher friend should not hesitate to call the attentions of the parents and tell the parents how there kids manner and doin in school that the parents can aware there kids problems ..either they hire a tutor for there kids...

School is not really about being smart, it's mostly about listening, understanding and developping. If you have problems with those three points which is normal you should encourage the parents with understanding the courses and help them do the homeworks. I don't belive that someone isn't smart enought. Do you ? But of course there are some extreme cases when some persons are intellectual deficience.

A good wone my friend to pour in the thoughts. I dont beleive in fundas like in-born talent or intellectual by birth. You would hav heard philosphers saying 'A man could turn into a criminal, scientist, ..physco..what not by the way he is brought up and the environment that sorrounds him. I If the child is not smart enough, it means that she is not nurtured properly in home or either the teacher lack skills to make a child attentive. I dont think there is anything to be blamed on childs part. The right thing to be analysed here is why she tends to lose interest and if at all if shows signs on other traits .. make him/her to persue on that and stop blaming someone whom doesnt concentrate on studies. After all there are lots in life. There are n number of people who have reached pinnacles even without knowing how to read.. and infact great scientist who have unleased their minds in criminal motto.

It seems your child made a lot of friends at school that's why his/her study were reduce to minimal. Your kid were smart, can easily make friends. I hope his grade would also grow significantly.

Anyway, she should tell the truth, but trying to get rid of criticizing or hurting the pupils. She can say that some pupils have to work harder, and need more support from the family. In fact, science has shown that every child is born with a good intelligence, but the social evironment, the education and the nouritious regimen have different influences on each one. Thus it's necessary to change these factors.

It is better to call a spade a spade as early as possible. To break the news to the parents that their ward is not smart enough as quickly as possible is advisable before matters get out of hand and the parents start blaming the teachers for the poor grades of their children. I have seen my wife, who is a teacher do just that. She calls the parents separately for each such child and tells them the problems their child is having.Most parents understand though are disappointed, but some need more counseling before they are ready to accept the problem.

I don't have any experience for this, but I think if we tell the parents that their children are not smart, they will be angry, because they don't know what you think.so we need to tell something bendly to the parents.

I would instead of saying something like "your child is slow" I would recommend ways to improve the child's grade by saying, maybe he could use some extra classes to practice and maybe help him/her doing her homework. Maybe control the child's homework to make sure he is doing the sufficient practicing at home. I don't believe in "slow" kids... just lazy kids.