Discipline

My kids are older now my youngest is 15 years old and she gets grounded for doing things she shouldn't do. When my kids were younger they have had there time outs a lot going through there ages. I have made my kids sit and I have taken things away from them. Have I ever spanked my child when they were old yes I have but never abused my children. Now a days you spank your child on the bottom its abuse. So I feel bad for the ones that do spank there children now a days because they get in trouble for it. There is a thing if you leave marks on a child like welts or anything like that,that to me is abuse. But time outs is what I have done most of the time when raising my kids.

We discipline pretty much the same way you do. Our son always gets a timeout for his age in minutes and the same thing for my daughter. However, since my daughter is older then him, she sometimes will also get priviledges taken away (no tv, playing outside). It all depends on what she got in trouble for.

I dont have children but I appreciate that children need discipline so that they will grow into meaningfull citizens of any country and that is how I will operate when I have my children.I believe in the admonition given in the bible which is not save the rod and spoil the child.Mind you, that is not to say that I will be amdinistering caning with every opportunity I can get,it all depends on the crime .I will alway try to make the punishment fit the crime.There will be instances when I need to administer a beating and I wont hesitate to do so because I use to get beating when I was younger and I think that I turned out well.Then there may be times when I will just talk to the child and show them the error of their actions and consequences.Then there may be times when I take away certain privileges like watching television.Finally there may be time when I send them to their rooms.Like I said it all depends on the crime and aslo their age .I mean you cant expect to be beating a fifteen year old who is much bigger than you,apart from the obviuos difficulty in doing that,there is also a need for more diplomacy at that point

Hi dorannmwin,Yes,children needs discipline.I have six children,and they have different characteristics.What i am doing is talk to them always,reminding them the dos and dont's for them to follow.In God's grace till now they are good and they always follow what we said to them.Thanks,Good day!

my eldest son is almost 8 and i don't really know how to discipline him when does something brattish. he's the kind that goes sulking or crying when he couldn't do what he wants. the last time i talked with him like he's an adult and we sort of compromised. i just wish i always had the patience to talk to him everytime :) my 4-year-old son is i think even harder to discipline. he's got this habit to always ask why especially when you're trying to discipline him. and he always has an answer to your answer, sometimes its amusing. but when you're in the middle of grounding him i don't think i should smile but there it was i can't help it. he can be charming even when he's crying, haha! i think i'll have to be a better mom so i can guide them better.

I have a 4 and a 6 year old. They both get time outs for the amount of their age in minutes. This seems to work on my son, but not my daughter (she's the 6 yo). Now what usually works with her is like you said: take her snack away for the week, no leapster or TV, no outside time, etc. If you find anything else that may possibly work, please let me know. She is a headstrong little girl and that seems to be losing its effect on her to. Time out is something that will always work on my son I think. You should have seen his face the week after his birthday when he found out it was 4 minutes instead of 3 like it use to be. LOL I don't think he wants a birthday anymore!

I won't go in to detail as every child is different, every parent is different and besides, I have found that giving advice, especialy specific parental advice can sometimes be a liability. But.... I didn't have an overwhelming amount of rules for them to go by. but, the rules that were there were firm, undebatable, simple and clearly understood. Dicipline for violating these rules was swift, consistant and certain, though it might vary some depending on the infraction.

This is very interesting as I am a first time father myself. Based from what I have experienced with my parents in disciplining me is quite authoritarian i will do other way because of what I experienced before. I have plan to be gentle as possible hopefully I can't resort to any harmful way to discipline my child. Ill be more diplomatic in way explain what is wrong or right.

Methods of discipline changed as our kids got older. For one thing, the older they get the better stuff they have you can take away from them. Wait until you have the thrill of taking a car or cell phone, it will make you feel better about that frog pond you had to clean out of the washing machine when they were 7..ooops that was me, sorry. The one thing that never changed was I meant what I said and they knew it. I was consistent all the way through. I didn't ground alot because if they were grounded I was too. I'm careful of giving advice because everyone has their own way of doing things and I would never want to step on toes, if it were me grounding would mean one of those things at the age of 6, not all of them, for one thing what if you have to nail her again before the day is over, you've already played all your best cards. But she is only 6, it might not be that she isn't listening, she might have just forgotten. When my son was 6 I remeber telling him that he couldn't go outside until he had made his bed, he was shocked when he informed me that I hadn't told him he had to do it everyday. ( He's an honor senior now, we worried about him for awhile) I would pick the one thing she likes the most..for mine it was going outside..(sometimes I left that for last just so I could get them out of my sight for 60 minutes)....and stick with it . Sounds to me like you're a pretty good mom. At least you are one of the ones actually disciplining in the first place. I am amazed at what some people are okay with when it comes to what they allow their kids to do. But that is a whole different discussion.

Hello Dorannwwin, Yes, as my children got older the discipline did change to there maturity level as they aged etc... I have two young ladies ages 20 and 17. I raised since I got divorced in 1995 and was seperated in 1992. My youngest was 1 year old and my odlest was 3 years old. mY oldest was a fast learner and knew how to push the limits and what she could or could not get away with. If she got caught she knew the consequences and accpeted them etc... but was right back to pushing herself and very competive to be first in everything. My youngest was slower in elarning and maturity comes later for her and she loves people. She did not like to compete. She was my peacemaker in the family when I had arguments with her sister. She knew just how to break us apart or make us think before we got natsy etc.. which happens. I worked two jobs so I was there when I could. Thanks and have a great day Sincerley Unique16