Are there always arguments near or at Christmas?

Well these arguments during Christmas may be due to holiday stres. There is always an argument as to how to serve the ham on the table in our house during Christmas Eve. There is also an argument as to what time we should go to mass in this special day. But all in all the mood is festive and these petty arguments are soon forgotten the moment we give and open our gifts to each other.

I want to eat much at christmas,

In some families that happens to be the case, but not so in others. I am dealing with a bit of a situation with one branch of my family that has lead to my husband and I deciding to spend Christmas elsewhere, this year. We are going to take a mini vacation, check into a nice hotel in Toronto, and just enjoy the holiday on our own. No family, no drama. :)

In my life time I have noticed that there are two things that happen during this time of year. Either people argue or somebody gets sick. Never fails.

I think that is normal during Holiday because everyone is seemed pressured. Everyone is busy doing the preparation, invitation, calling their friends. Arguments will happen when everything had planned gone wrong. It is part of it I guess. Even at home there is something like that, but when Christmas come arguments is gone and everyone is happy except me.

I think people argue a lot more during the holidays because they're more stressed about making things perfect and they spend more money than they usually do on food, decorations, gifts etc.

We don't have a lot of Christmas related arguments. Where dinner is, and what we will do, has been set in patterns since before we were born. When my husband and I started doing Christmas together, we rotated between my family's dinner and his family's, which is the same thing his cousins and my cousins do. While I could live without seeing one of his cousins, it doesn't bother me enough to argue about it.

In our house there isnt, we have Christmas here. This year we are doing it different. We normally have everyone here for Thanksgiving and Chirstmas. This year we are still doing Thanksgiving but Christmas day will be for the ones that just live at home. We will be gathering all here the night before Christmas to exchange presents and visit instead of Christmas day. It was just to hard for me with all the cooking, cleaning ect., and I want to be able to enjoy the season too. There wasnt a fight over the change thou. We just told the kids and that was that.

For our family it is not just at or near Christmas that the arguments would come about. I come from a very large family and the times when we would see arguments are whenever most of my aunts and uncles are together. So, both fortunately and unfortunately, they don't all get together very often anymore. The most recent argument that I've experienced between them was in August when my cousin had a baby shower and that argument was around the fact that my aunt spent way too much money on a gift for my cousin's baby (not her daughter) and my oldest aunt felt like that made everyone else look bad. I guess the arguments are just something that comes along with having a parent that was one of ten kids.

We don't celebrate Christmas so we just get popcorn and watch the rest of the family squabbling amongst themselves! I do wonder why people get stressed out and insist the must see certain people on Christmas day - casually forgetting that when people are married they have two families to please, etc.

yes indeed what a murphy's law myth. Come the holidays someone always has some stubborn reason to start up an argument and nearly ruin the holidays. Why is that? I always ask, maybe you have an answer?

My husband is always starting an argument about anything when there are special occasions not just on christmas or new year but also on my birthday!!! I don't understand him but he is always like that... Sometimes I am thinking if he doesn't want me to be happy on those especial occasions. He will really start a fight. Arguments that are non sense! But it really affects me because it hurts to think that we should be happy or I should be treated special a bit on my birthday because it is my day somehow...

I personally hate arguing anytime of year. it does seem as though the holiday season does bring out the worse in some. It maybe due to finances it may be due to wanting everything perfect for guest, ect... I know on many occasions I have wanted to voice my opinion loud and clear but I take a step back remember what the season is truly about. Its not if the house is perfect its not that you spent 100's of dollars on gifts its not that you spent more time with one than another. Its not the trees and lights. Its about life... giving love.. enjoying the world around you, finding good in all mankind. When we all can realize that,and not just at the holidays (but more so) the world will be such a better place for us all.

I don't think that as argument,as you see,they just want to make the Christmas more happy,and as a result of this,they discuss.

I've noticed that too and that's why I was so happy to finally move away when I married my husband. We had most of 15 years of peace and trust me, I know I want it back and will eventually but not right now with my parents needing me. My middle brother and I don't talk unless we HAVE to. Next Sunday we'll be seeing each other for dinner for our mom's birthday so we're going to be civil but not overly friendly. I'm waiting for his apology to me after he talked to me the way he did. Until then, he can stay on his side of the fence and I'll stay on mine. Neither of us are so childish that we can't be in the same place and not act like adults, we just don't have to associate with each other, is all.

I think that the holiday season is a lot more stressful than any other time of year. People are having to find money for gifts or are upset because they can't afford gifts. Arranging for everyone in the family to be at the get together can be difficult. Especially when the family is strewn about whether it be different states, different counties, or even different countries.

Christmas time always bring fond memories to me. Yes you are right...some arguments ensued when this season is fast approaching. But in our family it's all about what food to prepared in Christmas eve. Other members have different foods in their mind,and arguments may occur. But it's always been fun.

No, we do not argue around Christmas. We have been going to my son for Christmas for the last 7 years now. I ask them what they want me to bring for the dinner and then we have a nice dinner and open our presents after dinner.

Hi Jugs, ...this can happen in offices when all the employees want other things to do and happen during the christmas party as appose to the management idea of celebrating it with their employees. misunderstanding often takes place over the choices of food, motiff, program, participation, contribution, schedule, etc. personally, i never experienced this with my husband. we brainstorm and agree on how we will celebrate christmas and where to celebrate it. Of course with the kids!

I don't have such problem with my family for Christmas because we almost do the same thing every year. There is nothing special or surprised to me. My boy friend will not arrange anything. He depends on me a lot. Therefore we don't argue for any arrangement.