Had enough of the Domestic Violence & we separated!

I am VERY proud to see a woman like yourself with the strength and courage to take herself and child away from such a horrible man. Apart from that, it is great that you are doing everything you can to get help. Such kind of traumatic experiences does leave its mark one way or another. I know because I grew up in a hostile environment. I know you are on the road to recovery and I wish you all the best.

Domestic violence does not go away EVER unless the abuser wants to change but he/she needs to get help first however, that in itself is a rare occasion. Sad but very true. Another thing, most people don't get out in time to live to tell about it. I was almost one of those people for my boyfriend beat me almost daily. The last time he did me in, he broke bones and that was the end of it for I moved out and never looked back. I applaud you greatly for taking charge of your own life and saying NO MORE! Good for you Jenny!! Good for you!! Keep your chin up high because you have family and friends who love you dearly!

Oh dear I'm sorry to hear about this - the fact that this happened to begin with, not that you separated. Speaking from experience both you and your daughter will be much better off not living in that situation. No life won't be a bed of roses, there will be struggles but as you said you are a strong person and will come out even stronger, wiser, and happier. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayer - stand strong you don't deserve that sort of life or treatment.

I really hope you and your daughter will be very happy always. Do take care of yourself, and I'm so sorry for what happened. I can only imagine how emotionally depressed you must have felt, and for you go pull through this; you are a very strong-willed lady. Do take extra care yeah. As long as you are with your daughter, everything will be fine.. don't worry.

Sorry...But tht`s gud tht ur separated......I really feel bad when i hear all this......marriage,love are all important and i dont undrstand tht how people can do DV to his wife....please take care and mke sure tht ur daughter comes out of anxiety n depression....May God bless you.....

You should be very proud of yourself for getting out of that situation! There are so many woman that stay with a man like that for so long that they think they deserve it or end up getting killed. I'm very glad to hear that your daughter is doing better. I have anxiety and it is not a fun thing to live with. How old is she? It's nice to see someone who has been in that situation stand up and speak out. You said that your husband acts like nothing ever happend. Not to be nosey, but did you call the police, take pictures, or ever go to the doctor after any of the incidents? I'm not too knowledgeable in this because I have never been in a relationship like that, but my friend was. She ended up having to take in physical proof to prove she was being abused! I was so angry because the cops wouldn't listen to her. On the other hand, I had to deal with this one woman telling me she was abused for 13 1/2 years during her marriage, but didn't bring it up in the divorce. She had no proof and only started mentioning it 8 years later when her ex got remarried and her son said he loved his new step-mom. That woman was clearly (and proven later on) to be lying. I guess what my question is to you, is in your situation, will the cops only believe you and investigate it if there is proof? And are woman like the one I explained the reason for that?

Jenny I know how strong you can be and will survive this final step. No-one should have to suffer at the hands of their mate. I am so very sorry the situation affected your daughter but I pray that things will improve now for you and your daughter.

Wow Jenny I didn't know this was happening to you. The main thing is thank goodness you're out of there. It must be hard leaving your husband and father of your child but it's not doing you, him or your daughter any good staying around. I have no doubt having to deal with the house and other legalities is gooing to be mega stressful on you but keep reminding yourself that it is better than staying in the relationship. I am glad you are getting counselling and I hope that you regain your confidence and self worth if he took that away from you. From the sounds of it though you seem like a very strong woman so keep your head up and look forward to all the wonderful things that the future has to offer!

wow, you are best to get out. i hope you do well for yourself and hope you take care of yourself and take time to heal. i hope you can talk to others who have been in the same situation as you have been.

Looks like your marriage has broken down beyond repair. You have never shown any signs that you were having problems in your marriage. I thought all is well with you. I am no difference from you but am suffering in silence for fear of being a loner in my twilight years. He too often throw abusive words at me but I pretend not to hear them. My home has been a battlefield since the first year of our marriage. My husband is a great drinker and he gets abusive when he is drunk. It must be very painful to be separated when there is still love in your heart especially at our age. I hope when it is all over you will find happiness again. It is even hard for any women over 50 to separate , the fear of starting over, fear of the unknown, mistrust of men in general.

You must be complimented for your courage to get out of a painful relatioship despite the presence of love. You are also lucky you have your daughter on your side. What an impression about males your daughter would have!?! hope this experience doesn't traumatise her. All the best to weather it alone.

You had decided it well. It is time to build up your self respect and dignity. Love is not enough. His violence disrespects you.

Dear jenny, It's so sad to hear your situation and suffering. And I am glad that you have helped yourself out there by seperating with your hubby, I know it must be a very difficult decision for you to make, you are a tough woman, god bless you. I have seen there are so many families are not so happy, they argue, they fight, they been abused. It's so a pity happened to the marriage which should have been a perfect happiness thing in ourlife. In short, the marriage is so important for all us. Maybe all this are fate, are the destiny. All my best wishes to you. Jack

Hey jenny I am so sorry to hear that. Am glad you were able to the right thing for yourself, even it took a little while. I am fortunate to have a boyfriend who treats me like a princess but I have seen a second person account of this happening. My best friend's ex was a mean guy. She left him with a lot of help and encouragement from us but not before being hurt too much (not physically) in the process. I am sure I don't know how you feel entirely, but I do understand how much courage it takes to do what you did. And please remember that such a person doesn't deserve your love. May God bless you & your daughter and give you peace, you are so entitled to!!

Hope you would be out of this turmoil at the earliest. May God bless you.Be confident.

I'm sorry about what happened to you and your daughter. It's good that you eventually separated from your husband. Something worst than your daughter's depression and anxiety might happen to you if you continue enduring the violence. I hope that your daughter will get better soon. And i hope that you'd find real happiness...God Bless

To be honest, I am glad that you made a decision to stop the violence by separating from your partner. It must have been hard dealing with all the abuse from the one who's supposed to love you for what you are. Continue to go to counseling, and I hope he also will realize the wrongs he has done to you and seek counseling as well. Good luck and stay positive.

jennybianca I am so glad you had the common sense and courage to get out of that scene and it will be so much better for your daughter too. Some women feel trapped and stay too long and they lose their lives from that. I have always wondered what ungodly thing made men treat someone they once professed to love that way.I know from all I have read its a power play and they really think of their wives as belongings not as real people. I think the verbal and emotional abuse is even worse than the physical as wounds on the body heal but the internal wounds last for a long time I am sure. you are to be congratulated for being strong and working to free yourself and your daughter from DV.

Just believe in yourself I know you are strong person.If you believe in God then believe in Him ask for strength & surely will be back to normal soon.