There is no logic

We all make mistakes and the most we can do is learn from them. If you value your happiness, I would not look up to him as your lord and savior. He is a control freak and sounds as if he could get abusive. Do you have any family that you could stay with until you get back on your feet? If not then you may have to stay there and make the best of things until you can get a job and save up some money to move with. Is there any way you could go back to your old job?

Hi, jealousy is not health for any relationship and I would advice you to end the relationship and move on with your life, try to get another job or your old job back and end it with him. He is not worth any sacrifice.

We all usually wish and hope that things will change, especially if you are in love. If you weren't in love, then you wouldn't have even considered going back to your boyfriend. I hope that you are able to move back out and be on your own. good luck.

Just take it as a life lesson learned. The next time you get involved with a guy you will know to find out the agreement/understanding that applies to both parties before taking such drastic steps.

the guy is being self-centered or commonly known as "selfish". Have you heard of that song titled "love can keep us alive"? definitely thats not true....love alone cant feed your hungry stomach nor provide you a decent home. cutting off your communication with friends is also way beyond selfishness.

oh my god!..thats not fair!..why not kill him and laugh at him then while his struggling for his damn selfish breathe!..he is too selfish for you!..you know what its not yet too late,use the things you still have for a help and get out of that crap as soon as possible!..your killing your self by depriving you your rights!..ask help from your friends then find a job and move on!..you don't have a bright future with that guy..don't let him step on you and make you as his slave!.. you still have chance.. things are up to you..!.. show him that you are tough and your not born to be a slave!,,fight against him!..

He sounds like an abuser. Do you have family that you can stay with? I would not go out with him anymore. I just hope you did not do what he wanted. By the way, are the police able to help you? If he starts to beat you up, then you can charge him with abuse.

Sheez.. It's really frustrating when you do your part to help the relationship then you realize that he's just not into it really. Worst is because you have given up your new life that was happy!!!!! I am so sorry that you had to go through all these for someone not worth it. But, if you were able to do it first time around, you could definitely do it again! Show him he's hasn't destroyed your morale.

Sometimes we all want something we know we shouldnt want. The doubt of things actually changing and working is a valid concern. We all give up someting to be with someone else, knowing there is a chance it wont work and we will end up at square one all over again.

you see the problem most people have with their relationship is that the ladies follow their heart in some very obvious cases instead of using their head. We should stop allowing our love to be blind. love is not blind

Good news is... next time you won't take him back. I hope you have healed from this by now and that you are doing ok.

Hello Msshockley, and welcome to MyLot. The best things we can do in matters like this is to remember the lesson. We all make unwise choices and land ourselves in trouble. Determine to begin again, and seek whatever help is available to do so. This is not easy, but I have done it and so have many others. Never ever give up your independence for anyone, especially and unstable control freak. Avoid them! Karen

It was wrong for him to have asked you to do all those things and him not give anything up. You were right to have told him to so the same that he was asking you. You can't just tell someone to do something that you yourself are not willing to do. That is just idiotic!!! Next time think about it really long before going back to an old boyfriend!! You have to make a list. Dont' just let him tell you what you are going to change look at what he is going to change as well. When you started the discussion I already had the idea that he was going to do something like that. He just wanted all for him and none for you. That is wrong.I hope that you get your job back and your apt back too. If you talk to your friends and they are true friends they will be hurt but they will understand you and give you a chance again. Hey you never know they might be the ones that will give you a helping hand. Just talk to them and tell them what you are going through. Give it time because having friends is like having a relationship and they get hurt too for what you do to them. I know that if your friends love you they will listen and understand you and give you a helping hand. Goodluck with your search to happiness.. I hope I gave you some good advice happy mylotting maria s.

whats next, your gonna get pregnant and later on he'll treat you like a trash, for the time being,Go now and look for a Job, from then on you will find a better man who really loves you.

u r so totally stuck!!!!!

Hello! Sad to hear something like that! I would say if you once had decided to be with him, then you shouldn't try again because if you one time left/split up then there was a reason for that and if something like that happened then it could happen again... if he has these kind of rules towards you and he doesn't want to accept your rules, then try to agree on a compromise... say that you will delete all your male contacts but mySpace you will leave...(contacts you can save in a small notebook where he will never look) :) try to find a compromises, talk with him more about problems and lets hope that it will become better!!! Try to be nice till you can take a step back (till you have a plce to live or have made some saving to move...so you don't depend on him!) Be happy!!!!

I think everyone has said it, I just want to add that your mom said it just right. Don't give up on love, because loving makes us alive, but be smart about it and if something bothers you talk about it, and if you can't talk to your partner then talk to a friend and don't give up on those things that make you who you are (friends family, your job, your hobbies). A relationship should be one of sharing and accepting what can not be changed and changing what can be changed on both sides, i.e. its a two-way street. Good luck with your new relationships and may there be many great ones on your path.

I'd say get a job asap and get your feet back on the ground. You want to be independent and not have to lean on him for ANYTHING, otherwise he will take advantage of the "help" he's giving you. Get work, get some money, and get out of there. Go back to where you lived before and back to the way things use to be without him.

Get out. I was in your situation a few years back only he wanted me to lose communication with everyone I know and love, To up and walk away pretending like my life before him never even exsisted. It was the worst experience of my life and I dont know how your boyfriend is but if I did not listen I got the good old hand to the face. He made me feel like I had done something wrong and it took me a long time to realize that it wasnt. Finally I ran and have not seem or heard from him since however I did not run home knowing that he would find me there. Maybe someday I will have enough courage to go home but for know the fear is still there. I do however have full contact with my family and friends yet again and am with a loving caring man who would never ask me to give up anything. Just a forwarning this does not sound like a good situation from someone who has been there. Good luck

much better u find other guy that give his full love which he will not look with other girl..your guy just appear coz the his x gf disappear..that guy was so selfish