How to manage the in-laws ?

This is a very interesting topic. It is already part of our lives especially those who are married to be in good terms if not at least civil relationship with the in laws. I usually stop talking and just be a listener to them. I don't want any topic to turned into a debate. As they say "less talk, less mistakes". lol.

hello there... i don't really know if i can be a good help here coz i am one of those lucky ones who have a nice and kind in laws... but, what i have seen to my mom, since sometimes she's having a problem with my grandma (my dad's mom) what she's just doing is to continue being nice to her in law, and don't argue with her. well i guess my mom is good to know the weak point of my grandma...haha and so, when she do things that she know will 'tickle' my grandma, everything turns good between them...hehe so i guess, just continue respecting them and show them that you love and care for them as your own parents...

The only thing to have peaceful family life from inlaws is to live far from them and visit them only once or twice a year so that they would not interfere in you life always.

First its starts with drawing the line of what should be YOURS (you and your partner) and what is theirs. Make sure that the line is respected. . . In the first place there should be no issues left unsettled and resentments not brought into the open and discussed. Even before you got married you should have made the effort to sense those that I've mentioned above.

Same pinch priya. I am also priya. Be as a friend.when they are scolding be deaf and dumb, Difficult I know. Talk nicely dont argue when they are scolding or argueing. Be calm.For clap we need both hands. If we see change in you definitely they also. Dont be silent or talk when they are asking something. Then it will lead other problem. Talk nicely when that type of situation comes.

Hi Priya, I have to agree that this is a very tricky subject. Having in-laws of my own, I definitely know how you feel. How do I manage them? FOr example, I find talking to my husband about his parents (their likes, dislikes, and most importantly their characters and their way of thinking etc) helps as doing so helps me in understanding his parents. I find that I am slowly getting to know them better and thus making me 'slightly' better in avoiding any unnecessary 'situations', if i may put it that way. I am not saying this is a 100 percent perfect method but it is beginning to work for me and I hope this suggestion will help you too:). I am sure things will go well for you and your in-laws. All the best!

Interesting topic. I also feel very afraid when talking to my in laws. They were not against the marriage but we got married in their absence to save my father from dowry and other expanses. This made my parent in laws angry. Now we are on terms with each other but with a good distance.

Hi priyavivek, Managing in laws is very hard.What ever u do they will find faults and mistakes on u.so better we need to tolerate all the idoitic things done by them and should not give much importance to their words.