The one who starts to talk is the loser after the couple quarrels?
By lubeimao
@lubeimao (118)
China
November 24, 2009 1:40am CST
It is said that "Quarrel implies intimacy".It is inevitable to have a quarrel between a couple or lovers. The two people may then calm down and start the cold war after the fierce quarrel,who will then break the ice and get it recovered?
Are you a gentleman?He should be the broad-minded cavalier who will tolerate ,forgive and flatter her.
Are you a lady? She should be the gender ,thouhgtful ,considerate one who will understand ,forgive and care for him.
Does it really mean that the one who starts to talk is the loser after the quarrel?
Do you have this kind of experience?Welcome to the discussion.
3 responses
@lizbenetua (637)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
I don't think it is true that the one who starts to talk is the loser particularly in a relationship. The person who starts to talk becomes free, unlike the spouse or partner who does not budge an inch to pave the way for a decent conversation. It frees you from the thought that you did not do anything. And in the scheme of things, reconciliation will not happen if not even one will decide to make the first move.
Men and women act differently when in an argument. Women can talk and talk and talk, or give the cold shoulder treatment while men will have their time out, go on "cave mode" and say " I don't want to talk about it". Nevertheless, both should understand how each one works. Read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by Dr. John Gray.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
25 Nov 09
It seems like it's usually the woman that forgives and starts talking first. I think the men think that means they win but really it just means the women want things like they were. I had a relationship once where we never fought, he would just walk away when things were getting started. That is soo frustrating and I think it's better for the relationship if you fight it out and clear the air instead of holding things in. You just have to be careful when you fight with your significant other that you don't say anything really mean just to hurt them and that you'll regret later.
