what do you think about this? To me, this is ridiculous!!!!

I have heard of such things but it is usually when the husband and wife are seperated and he's just trying to make things harder on the wife. It's crazy that he's done this. I do think that both should be on the same page when it comes to the discipline of the child. I can't imagine why he would want to bring child welfare in on that situation. I would just invite them right on in and really make the husband feel like a big dummy for doing that.

If that is the kind of husband that I will have, I will leave him alone in the house and will just opt to live my life alone. I don't need that kind of husband. How can I manage to make love to a husband who can't even support me in child's discipline! I suppose your friend spanked the child because she wants correct the child. It is biblical to spank the child and I am just sad America has forgotten what God himself commanded. The law against spanking children really make me sick. Of course when we spank our children we don't abuse them but rather we want teach them that any wrong things done deserve punishment and correction. Foolishness is bound in the heart of the child but the rod of correction shall take it away from him. What if the rod of correction is being prohibited to be used? What kind of youth are we going to produce? Now if even my own husband can't be supportive of my actions in correcting my child, then I'd rather not live with him anymore. A mother can't ever desire to hurt her very child. It pains us to hurt our children but if we need to, then we should and that is not just to inflict pain on him but for the purpose of correcting his wrong deeds and molding him into a better person. It really makes me mad hearing a husband who is the same as that of your friend's. My goodness, if indeed he finds the spanking too grave, then why can't she just talk to her wife so that they can resolve whatever problem they have! Why will he report his wife and desire that she be investigated and perhaps penalized or jailed? What a stupid husband she got! You know what friend? I hate broken marriages and I simply dislike separation, but really... I can't last a day living with such kind of husband. If I were your friend, I will leave him!

That was a stupid act on his part. Involving social services in the issue is a decision that will certainly be regretted. They do not advise, they move in and take your kids. Discipline of children is one of those things that many parents may not agree about. Marriage 101 - learn how to talk about differences and find a place of compromise that both can live with. djbtol

That is just a terrible situation. However, it does make me think that maybe the wife and husband had talked about it several times, otherwise why else would he call so abruptly without even mentioning it to his wife? Unless he wasn't clear headed and thought it'd be best to call on her, I don't know. It's sad but I hope it gets resolved, to me it seems like that is the worst thing you can do to anyone unless you have to as a last resort! Especially to a wife, or if it was the wife who had done it, to the husband. This is the stuff that divorces are made of, sadly enough. It wouldn't surprise me if least of all they had a huge falling out. It's definitely something that the father should have thought about before calling Social Services. Spanking is bad, and shouldn't be done, but I think it'd impact the children far more if their mommy was suddenly not allowed to see them, or their daddy left them!

I wonder what really happened here. I want to know if she really hit her child as hard? I also wonder if she has ever abused her child. The husband could at least let her know that she was going to call DSS on her. This is a messed up situation! I did not hear anything like that. I do know that men will threaten you with the smalles thing. I hope that she will get to tell her side of the story and I hope that after she explains herself that she is innocent.

Wow that is not a good sign of a healthy relationship... It seems to me that they don't talk and as if their lines are not open... I agree wit you, what the husband just did was not a good action... If he disagree with how his wife disciplining their child, I think he should have talk to her first and discuss things out... They are couples and they should help each other. They should not pull each other's down. I don't understand why the husband did that without talking to his wife first...

I never heard same story as this...I would blame the husband for this, he should talk to his wife and resolve whatever issues they have in terms of disciplining their kids.. Such a selfish act I would say, I mean now the wife has a record already where in fact her goal their is only to discipline the kids which is not bad as a parent!

I have to say there must either be some serious underlying issues between them OR she really did go over the top when she disciplined her child! Without being there at the time its hard to know but no matter what I think he must surely have some concerns to report his own wife!!!

There must be more problems under the surface, parents don't do that unless they are trying to get back at one another.

Well, I never heard a husband reported his wife to authorities for spanking neither a wife reported her husband for that matter. I often heard neighbors report to authorities for some child abuse of another neighbor but the case is too much. what I mean is the child is really in serious condition. But for a husband to report to authorities because his wife discipline the kids? that is too much.. That is too much i would say good bye to him...

Boy, if they not divorced now they sure will be soon.

I have worked for the state as a foster mother, and have had more than fifty foster children over my adult lifetime, and have adopted three of them. I think it was terrible for this father to do this unless the mother had really and truly hurt the child. If you could ever look into the terror filled eyes of a child who has been removed from their home by Child Protective Services and placed into a foster home with strangers, you would never consider calling and reporting someone without true, life threatening cause. Many people, because of what I do, will ask me 'Don't you think I should call and report them?' They think I will agree. But I tell them I would rather see a child get a too rough spanking by their parents than taken away, because the trauma of being removed from their home will be many times worse than being over spanked. I'm not talking about real beating where the child is left black and blue all over and the parents do this all the time. But people should not think of punishing the parents when they think of doing this, they should think of what it's going to do to the child if CPS decides to remove them while they investigate.

This is the first time I am hearing this and it is really ridiculous. The husband is a very terrible person for him to have done that and if I were the wife, I would consider leaving him because it is too bad. She has face the SS and explain her actions and hope nothing bad happens to her.

Maybe the wife has gone to far in disciplining the child & that made the husband feel so bad about it & that's the reason why he reported to the social service. She must face the consequences of the fault she made for child abuse is a very heavy ground.

bebs some women do abuse their children and they do not look like monsters either.they lose their temper and just hit or spank way too hard, and more women than men are guilty of this; i really do not even like spanking.it rarely does that much good and causes a lot of hate for the parents when the kids outgrow the whoppings. He just might have seen her go too far and tried to stop her and she just freaked out instead. you do not really know but her supposed side of it. most people do not go to children's protective services unless they feel they have a reason to go there. Maybe he had tried to get with her on a discipline plan and she just took the easy way if that was how she was punished as a kid. i would stay out of a husband and wife dispute if it were me.

Hey Bebs! That is a very serious offense to be charged with child abuse! There must be more going on between the husband and the wife for him to make that kind of a call to social services! In some states they can take the child from the home! There must be some other problems in their marriage for him to acuse his wife of something that serious! You don't just make a call to social services without carefully considering what you are doing! And it had to be more to it then just her spanking a child! And why wouldn't he discuss this with her instead of bringing a goverment agency into it where they both could end up having their child taken away from them? This father is not too smart!

I think that I would want to know what is meant by spanking. Sometimes a sharp slap on the thigh or on the back of he hand with a young child would stop them in their tracks. But I am talking about a just a sharp slap not enough to leave marks or a bruised or anything. Myself and my husband both agreed never to discipline our children by spanking them - and we never did because both of us were abused in this manner. But I sometimes wished to have given just one slap! I am being honest but I never did it. They had to sit on a chair in a room by themselves for a period until they calmed down. All of these things should be discussed wit parents between themselves. Personally, I think that there is a lot going on in this marriage that you did not know and the husband in reacting to this spanking may have been reacting to many other hidden things. Problems within his marriage in his relationship to his wife etc. This is the only reason why I can think that he would have called Social services. There is something else going on. It sounds like this marriage is almost over. This is just my opinion because otherwise, he could have warned her first about spanking and spoke of calling in the Social Services.

Wow that is pretty crazy. They must have had some other issues, he must have been angry with her for some other reason, because people just don't do that. It must have been some sort of revenge, or like someone else said, he must have said something to her about the spanking several times with no response for him to call social services. I think that is pretty goofy. But, if she truly did nothing wrong, social services will see that and everything will be fine. But I surely think that your friend and her husband need some counselling!!

I find it odd that the husband would just report her. I would not consider that a life partner. They must present a united front with consistent agreed upon punishment methods. However, it seems the problem isn't the method but that the husband has such disregard for his spouse that he would call social services on her. I would be looking for a divorce lawyer.

that is just plain ridiculous!!!you said your friend is just giving her child some discipline right?i mean spanking a child once is not that harsh,sometimes you have to give them the iron hand.however,beating a child black and blue is another case,if you know what i mean.to the husband,i think he's just too emotional about it that time to see his kid being hurt so at some point i understand him but what he did is unfair to the wife.how old is the kid by the way?well,if it's too young to be spanked,i think i can sympathize with the husband more than the wife.