If you have been lied to, would you end the relationship?
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
November 27, 2009 9:21pm CST
I guess we all have our share of lies, lies we told and been told to by our partners. I know that trust is a foundation of a good relationship but without it or if it is lessened or broken, how would you mend it? Does it mean ending the relationship? When is it enough?
I wanna hear your opinions =(
5 responses
@tina256 (190)
• China
5 Dec 09
hi,i think it is stupid to end the relationship right now .maybe there is some mistake between each other . and have you heard about WHITE LIE. maybe he/she just stand you side ,lied to you. just give him or her a chance ,let the small case go .i think if two all repect each other ,it is no need to care about this lie .
@Qtpienyouri (35)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Love is a funny thing. Love is so Rare that only so many people truly believe in it. This means making the right decisions when it comes to relationships. I always say treat someone as you want to be treated. We all slip every now and than, but at the end of the day we all want to be loved,so dont put yourself in the situaion where you might have to lie or except being lied too. If your being lied to, maybe you deserve someone who will love you unconditional where lies want be a issue. If we go through life excepting bad behaviors from our partners and it is becoming a repeated action..... then maybe it's time to either grow up or move on. I've been there and done that and trust me you get back what you do to others.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
getting back what you do to others, yeah I believe in that. i never lie about something so crucial in our relationship, little white lies, I think not too, maybe I dont remember, but if its something important, I dont. I always tell the truth even if it hurts. Though partners still lie even if you dont really do it. Yes, how do you know real love if you dont get hurt. ANyway, I also believe that life is short to be so sad, so I do whatever makes me happy.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
28 Nov 09
No I would not end a relationship if my partner was to lie to me. I also lie to my partner often. I think that it is okay to sometimes lie to your partner as to not hurt them. Like if I did not like the meal or I didn't fancy the shirt he wore. I also don't want him to be totally honest about my weight gain or that I am not super pretty in the morning. I think that lies are a good way to make you partner happy. You never have to be brutally honest cause that is just brutal.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
28 Nov 09
I agree that it depends on the lie. It's not the same lying about having gone to the doctor because of a stomach ache than lying about dating another girl as the same time that is dating you.
Small lies can be forgiven, but not big ones.
@Torrs13 (217)
• United States
28 Nov 09
If it was a lie about cheating, then I would end the relationship because it is very hard to regain trust after that happens. Relationships take two people to work, so if one person isn't doing their share, it can be detrimental.
Whatever the lie was, obviously some trust was lost. See if you can talk it out. Also, you need to evaluate your relationship and see if this is something you can deal with. It's impossible to have a positive relationship without good trust.
