I eat my revenge

aayebelle yes you probably are as you are young and he is your'ex for some reason that you know only too well.how can' you love him now after what ever he did that made you make him your ex. I am confused as you are.dump him and find someone you do not need to make jealous as he will love you for who you are. It sounds like the two of you are still playing games with each other.

I think you're both playing games with each other and trying to make each other feel jealous. Maybe that means there really is still something between the two of you, but I'm not sure it's worth pursuing. Just think about what led to the breakup before...have things really changed? If not, why would you think reuniting with your ex-boyfriend would have a better result this time? If you really think there might be some future in the relationship, I think you should come out and put everything out in the open: the hurt feelings, the old frustrations, what your hope could be different in the future, etc. If you do restart the relationship, you should begin with a clean sheet...don't hold things back and carry them into the new relationship.

i have been in this same situation and i'm telling you girl, move on. If both of you continue to play games with each other the "good" relationship you had might be destroyed. It is better to keep distance to preserve all the good memories you had with him. Believe in the common cliche.. What ever belongs to you will come back to you.. :) God Bless ayebelle

You are freaking in love girl. It is ok, to invite and to be invited by your ex, but i think jealousy is not that good, specially he is only your ex and you are only his ex. But if you think that you still have feeling with each other, why not ask each other to start again? Don't you think it is good? But first, What is the reason why you two broke up? If it is not that, big of a problem. Do you think it is better to fix it? You are not fooling your self dear, you are just being played by your feelings. You still love him, not only feelings for him, cause feelings are way too different from love. Everything happens for a reason. Try to guess... Why do you think that scenario come to both of you? What do you think will make both of you happy? "San SM yan? Sama naman minsan" hehe im am just joking... Anyway, try to consult me if you want counseling, i can give it to you for free. I am a counselor, i just do not know the real story that is why i cannot comment much on this. Have a nice day and Think think think! Cheers!

Friend, life is fun, don,nt take it seriously. Enjoy!

Dear, Whatever I am gonna say now may hurt you and many others who have a fascination about the word "love". That was the statuary warning. I think, yes, you are wasting your precious time. You wanna make him jealous? Ok, but here, let me tell you something. Revenge doesn't work one way. The time you will spend to plan your revenge, execute it, and then think about the success or failure of that execution is the time you dedicate to the particular person you are taking revenge on. How can you forget someone if you don't stop spending time like that. Also a revenge will instigate your anger rather than soothing it. Revenge extends the bitter moments and memories that you really want to leave behind. Why do we need to forgive? Most of the times its becoz you want to forget something. In your case, you have to forgive (in real) just to forget him. If you ask me, love is just a habit. If you've once grown a habit to have someone around, you also can develop the counter-habit i.e. the habit of not having someone around. Revenge makes you dependent, that too on the person you wanna forget. Isn't it a defeat? It surely sounds like a defeat to me. Here are the logical steps to wipe someone outta your life, step1: Forgive him for everything he has done to you. Its difficult eh? Well, look at it this way, you are not perfect, so don't expect anyone else to be perfect. Everybody has certain bad side, dark sides. You can't curse someone just because you two have different ways. May be he has treated you real bad. But at least he hasn't murdered you. He left you with a choice. So thank god for that and forgive him. step2:Take the responsibility of whatever happened to you. Realize that you were the major initiator of everything. Realize it now before its too late. You may feel like cursing yourself for falling for that guy in first place. Its ok. Its normal. Step3: Forgive yourself. Its the most difficult and most important step in the whole process. This step is essential to forget everything. You know, when we curse others, somewhere deep inside we are mad at ourselves, and that brings out the curse. When we get busy in finding faults about others, deep inside, we know fully well, thats its really us who are to be blamed for all this. Its ok. Take your time. Proceed with firmness. Its not easy to forgive yourself. But you have done difficult tasks before. So you can do it now. Remember, if that person was imperfect, you also have every right to be the same. So just stop blaming and cursing yourself for what you've done to yourself. How are you supposed to forget someone if you keep thinking about, planning about taking revenge on him? Just pretend that he doesn't even exist. Its not done overnight. Just give it your most sincere effort. You will definitely do it. Like I said, "love" is a habit. Just develop a opposite habit and in time he will just disappear. You wouldn't even know. How long will it take? Well, to be perfectly honest, it depends on your sincerity, imagination. Strength can't be developed in one day. Take your time. Be stronger. If you have faith in God the process will take less time. "Revenge" is a disease, wipe it out. God bless you. Send me some feedback if my experience has helped you in anyway. Take care.

i do the same things with you when I am angry and just cried. I ease my boredom and anger by eating a lots of sweets ranging from chocolates, ice cream, cakes and candies. you are not fooling yourself you just come out at your own good senses since he is your ex. it is only proper to act fairly but so emotional you let yourself be affected. since you already fix with him. i do hope everything goes alright.

It seems like both of you still have feelings for each other. I don't know why the two of you broke up in the first place, but from the description above you still went out with him even though not by yourself. So, why don't you just quit playing games and once and for all, stand where you are. If you both still love each other and want to get back together, then do it. There will be no more trying to make each other jealous, which could hurt. If you want to move on with your life, stop hanging out with him for a while or just don't be where he is presence. Cheers and all the best to you, Ayebelle!

hi ayebelle, To answer your question, yes! maybe you are just fooling yourself! But, I cannot blame you, because that how love is. We sometimes make fool out of ourselves, because we love someone unconditionally. It shows how you still love him, with your story....it seems that you really love him and doesn't care if it's not right anymore. What is right in love anyway?! we sometimes do crazy stuff without even realizing it. But after awhile when it is too much, we realized that it ain't good anymore and we decide what is right for us. The question is, do you think and feel he still loves you? in all honesty? If your answer is yes, then maybe it's fine to be crazy all over him. But if not, you are just wasting your time and feelings for him. But overall, the last say always comes from you...because you are the one who REALLY knows him and knows what your heart says. Happy Lotting!

Unfortunately it is likely youa re fooling yourself. You ex didn't have enough consideration for you to not ask you for this numbers number. It could mean he is trying to make you jealous, it could also mean he is over you sorry.

I can fully understand the way you feel, i think it seems normal for you and your ex boyfriend. As i see it, after you two broke up, it is difficult to become friends. You'd better stay away from him before you don't love him any more. The best way for you is to forget him gradually, then iust being yourself.

Well, depending on how the relationship ended can happen that still both sides have a little or residual anger and will play this kind of games. It would be better for you both to talk, and just set clear that you're not a couple anymore and that you are going on with your lifes. It's a little hard to accept at first but in the end is the best thing to do.

From you story and your added comments,I can see you are seriously love this guy. You are the one who knows him including his feeling on you .You can give him chance to fall in love with you but before this never too crazy on him.If you ignore anything he did on you ,it will only hurt yourself.