I don't know how to deal with this unhappy life i am living

Hello, I am sorry to hear that you feel this way. When was the last time you can say that you were truly happy? What were the things or people in your life at that time. I know that you may of probably heard this before but they say if we are grateful for what we have, we should in turn recieve more of what we want. Try and find a hobbie that makes you feel like you. Its very important to surround yourself with postive things and people. I hope this helps a little.

Sorry to hear you that agony friend. Life is really that way. Even if your rich or poor you suffer like that. Don't lost your hope in that situation you have. Don't think negative that you can't be happy. It is not helpful for you if you think like that. Think positive to make you happy...

zhanjian1987, Will you be happier if you quit without a job? I find that we are what we deem and make ourselves to believe, if you look at matters with a pessimistic and depressing way, we will just be miserable and depress. I'd say make the best with where you are and what you have. Be more positive with your attitude and interpretation of things. Be a solution than a problem to people around you and the office. I cannot teach you to win a war when you are not convince that you can win battles yourself along the way. As the saying goes: "Where there's a will, there's a way" and you just have to stick your neck out and work out solutions for your current work problem and most of all health problems. Stop taking the backseat, approach your supervisor or manager to voice out your work problems. Start looking for another job if you need to quit. Make time for exercise and eat proper meals to tackle your health problems. Once you are sick, consult a doctor at the first instance. Have proper rests during your rest times. Last but not least, be particular with your social choice - try and be in the company of successful and healthy friends so that you can learn and be as successful as them. There's just no point being in the company of depressing people who will only bring you down then cheer you up. Take care.

i am sorry to read these words guy. you are a chinese i guess. am i right? life is indeed not colorful. its color is only for that rich people or their offspring. now you can go to internet and post on mylot that means you are not that poor. you are far away from starvation and cold. so don't be so worry about yourself unless you can't use computer and internet. if you are really in china, you can't change many things in of the social enviroment you live in. if you are not in china... well, you are lucky enough, at least more lucky than me.

your not the only one experiencing it as the recession affected all the economy in different parts of the world. you're lucky as you have work while others need to apply or make their own opportunity to have a livelihood. though, being lonely is a normal feeling if you have a lot of friends over there you could spend some time to have fun. you're finally get it over as you are not alone with this thinking and feeling. being bored i too experience it many times and i like to make a change in an instant but could not do as their are many barriers. thus, if you see other people are less unfortunate to you, may realize later that your situation is much better compare to their life. they have more problems than you do compare to them.hope this helps.

YOU HAVE ALL THE REASONS TO BE HAVE. PLEASE EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT TO BE HAPPY. What made you feel that? are you depress? try to have a break and make personal inventory. Look at yourself how all the parts of your body functions, having a house, food, clothes, education, family, friend, so many things that you can focus on to smile and be happy. Enough with being negaholic. If you choose to see how life is so hard yesterday and today...start seeing yourself as somebody TOUGH ENOUGH to battle the hardships in life. You have the choice over being happy and living a miserable life. Be the driver of your life, be on top of everything and never ever let problems pull you down...!

I am so sorry you feel this way But..... only you can make it happen, believe me I know what I am talking about I have had a bad Childhood a bad 21 year Marriage.... but I never gave up, I fought all the way You are giving up...don't You don't like your Job, I have been there and for now till you find something better do the Job the best you can, but.... keep looking for a new Job till you have found something just grin and bear this one Smile, whether you feel like it or not, smile, as People will not approach you if they see you are sad and unhappy, no matter what life throws your Way, when outside smile, do not let People see There are so many People about where you think they are happy, when really a lot of them hide behind a Smile, Like I used to As for your Cold take Vitamins to boost your immune System, eat Healthy The feeling of being lonely will go away when you allow it to and accept that only you can do something to brighten your Life Find Hobbies, make Friends, do not moan to them how unhappy you are, let them be there for you to help you along the Path And last of all try to get the Motivation, no matter how hard it is, instead of thinking about how unhappy you are, think of People who are a lot worse of, think how lucky you are that you have a job, while others have not, think ahead and how you can change things for you and take the action Only you can do this no one else can help you, but if you give up you have given up on Life and honestly you have a Life it just needs to be taken in hand by you Believe me I have been through a lot I will not say what, but it was a lot and survived it all I am sure you can to I know I am sounding harsh here and I really do not mean to, I just want you to see that you are the main Person that has to fight this I do feel for you, I do know it is awful feeling like that but I had to learn the only way to survive is by taking my Life into hand and fight Good Luck to you and I really hope that you will overcome this my thoughts are with you

This is very sad. The world wide economic recession made it difficult for lots of people in lots of countries. It would not be a good idea to quit your job. Maybe it is possible to do a course, that will lead you to a btter job. If you are getting sick often, it is possible that you are not eating well. Try and have more fresh fruit and vegetables in your diet. Also take a vit c supplement or something similar. You need to get out and socialise. Do you have a family? Can you get with them more? Maybe there is a group at work that socialises? Just to do a few things to improve your self esteem would help. Good Luck.

Employment isn't the greatest anywhere. Since you are right to not quit your job and become the person on the bottom of the barrel and the first to be let go if they have to reduce staff. Most here are thankful to have any kind of job, I know I am. As there are people who are worse off than you. People loosing their cars, their homes their everything and having to impose on relatives so they have somewhere to go. I know what made my life a lil better too was having someone special in my life. Are you dating anyone? Married? Anyone else you can confide in about your feelings? I think everyone goes thru a period in their lives where they are unhappy with almost everything. You'll get thru it, it'll just take some time and lots of positive thinking about WHAT YOU DO HAVE not what you don't.

I would be thankful I had a job and also I would be thankful I had a place to live. There are so many homeless and people looking for work. I would never lose hope about life. No matter how bad you think life is for yourself.

...Hi zhankian1987, If you are easily catching colds, you have a weak immune system which you need to work on building up. Vitamin C and Omega-3 oil should help you, both should be available over the counter. Try to eat more vegetables, and less carbohydrates. Before you get out of bed, because your job is so stressful, you should exercise to get ready for your day, leg lifts, sit ups, arm swings, right there in the bed. Your body will respond and will be more ready to deal with your hectic days. Then you need to take charge of your life, it is up to you to do the things that make your life happier for yourself. If you can't change jobs, then change your attitude about the job. See it as a means to an end until a possible better time when there will be something else you can do to support yourself. The Omega-3 oil also helps with moodiness. Next you have to sit down and decide what would make you happy, put down at least three things, decide which one is most important, next and last. Then work on making them happen. Life is short, but we must have the courage to assess where we are and where we want to go. You have been given the gift of life, you have a purpose here, get your happiness factor together, then search for what your purpose in life is, and do it. Maybe you are supposed to help young people who need encouragement, or to volunteer at a homeless shelter or kitchen. You are needed, if you give of yourself, you will receive satisfaction and will not worry so much about being happy, you will be content hopefully. Take care and fight for your right to be a happier person.

if u set your life out on a goal to pursue then maintain the focus of this goal and your happiness will return but if u have no goals and your only living for each day and what it brings then the sadness will remain,having an aim in life is what motivates u and keep u in the line to succeed seeing it becoming a reality everday while pushing forward to it will keep u happy,but please always remember that we live in a positive and negative world u can't have one without the other,some days will be good some days will be bad,just relax when the bad times arrive the good is not very far away from coming,and that is called balance of the energies

Hi Zhanjian, I'm really sorry to hear that you're depressed and sad. That's never fun. All I can say is that if you really feel sad and lonely and depressed then maybe you need to talk to somone about it. Maybe find a psychiatrist to talk to. It really does help just to get your feelings out and they can offer you a lot of advise that may help also. Good luck, and I hope you start feeling better. :-)

Hi zhanjian, You have a job. You have money to make a living and pay for your daily needs. You probably even have your own house or even a car. What is there to be unhappy about? There are more people living on the streets begging for money with no food on their stomachs on a daily basis, while you have eveything you need. NO you are not having an unhappy life, you're just having an unhappy work life. Everybody has gone through the same career strees, I also did. To solve my problem, I never stopped looking for a job that I truly liked, something of my real interest. I used to be a computer programmer but I hated it, I like to do something more creative so I got a job in graphic design. It has a lower pay but I'm enjoying it and having less stress. You could do the same but if you are really having a hard time finding a new job, why don't you engage in other after work activities something you would enjoy? Like take up photography classes or join a hiking club. Or go bowling or play basketball or go clubbing with your friends every friday night just to have something to look forward to every week. Or just take a looongg vacation on a beach or out of the country either by yourself or a group of friends. Do you have a girlfriend or a wife? You sound like you don't because if you do she doesn't seem to inspire you at all. Maybe it's time you found the love of your life. Go on a date either find someone online or ask your office crush or just meet some random strangers in a bar. I hope you get the idea. Release that stress! Just try at least one new something out and update me after with a happier you. SMile :)