Why some people get pressured when they turned 30 and yet still single?

I think it depends on the reason why she still single in the 30. If she focus on her job or something else she do,she will not get pressured. But if she dont have something to do,she will pressured.

hi eubilisa' i got married at the age of 23. so i don't feel what it's like to be single at the age of 30. my only advice for those in their 30s and still single is just take your time. don't rush yourself coz' it's even harder to live in regrets. the right man will come along. when??? well, only time will tell...and only GOD knows. and if it doesn't come along, maybe it's not meant to be.

Hello Eubilisa and welcome to Mylot I do not agree that People should be pressured at all no matter what the age It is their Choice and it is obvious that they have not yet met the right Person like you say what happens is they panic and end up with someone they really do not want People should leave other People to live their Life's the way they want to

well, I am 42 and I am still single, I believe that the most important thing is doing what makes you happy in life,so do not worry too much, I know family and society puts so much pressure on other peoples lifes, and not just because of their marital status, you just keep straight to your own believes

Well I am already married... I got married at the age of 22... A bit young but I wasn't pregnant that time... I think most of the girls tend to hurry and/or becoming more depressed when they reach that age unmarried because bearing a child will be harder for them... and worst the chance of having a child or children will be very narrowed... They are in the point of depression, knowing the fact that they are not young anymore… they dislike the idea of getting old alone… (well who wants to be anyway???). Yes they have friends and family but it is still different to have a family of their own… It is like a self fulfillment somehow… Their depression is becoming more intense when they see their friends and the people around her getting married and putting a family of their own…

Like what others commented, age should not be basis in marrying. People must not panic even if they reach 30 or above but remain single. They must choose their life time partner wisely instead because in that age they must have a lot of wisdom and experiences in life compare to the young ones. Well for those people out there who are 30 and above, and keeps worrying for they are still single.. I suggest that they read a book by Joshua Harris entitled Boy Meets Girl. God bless to all.

That is a sad part and i do hate being compare with a lot of teasing when i reach 30. It feel like it the end of the world as the society mostly feel pity to women who reach that age with no relationship or not yet married. The women are always tagged as becoming an old maid or spinster which is very irritating to hear and they always receives lot of teasing which is annoying. They think to be normal one need to get married and avoid being single which is a wrong notion which I am deeply against the so call standard of how the society judges a single women. The are so bias as they believe women who get older lost is appeal to men as most prefer the fresh and young women which add to the insecurities. Then, their is the lost of opportunity most women becomes sad from lot of teasing they tend to retreat on their own world alone just to elude those criticism.

in today's time,pressure to get married is a bit strong.most especially with women.some people are biased when a woman in her 30s isn't married yet.they think that she is not "complete" if she doesn't get married.I believe that marriage and having a family is not really the basis of being a "complete woman".a complete woman is someone who is secure of herself,with or without a man/husband.

I believe that it has something to do with what society dictates. Our traditional system dictates that you have to married at this particular age. If not, some people think that there might be something wrong with you. I was in that situation for a long time. I am already in my 40s and my choice is to be single. In fact, I am pretty much contented with where I am right now than when I was in a relationship. The main concern here, is never to get pressured by what other people think of you. Think of what is best for you and no one else.

I don't believe anyone should try and rush marriage. There's always going to be a lot of social stigma attached to being single if your over certain ages, depending where you live in the world or in particular countries. For example, in Utah, its odd if you're not married by 24 at the latest. I should know, I live here. I'm nearly that age, but I don't believe in trying to rush things. I knew a guy who did that once, and he has already had 3 divorces. I am one of those people who takes things as slow as I can, and rushing things such as love/marriage/etc. will only lead to being miserable. If someone marries at 30 or over, so what? Nowadays, we got people who are having kids in their forties. Its not exactly the fifties, people! You don't gotta rush just because society says so! Society is different in every state! For example, you got the West Coast, where everyone's concerned about how they look outwardly. (i.e., hollywood and wannabe actors/actresses). Than you got the East Coast, which is more concerned about political action and how the world perceives their actions. (New Yorkers and the bloodsuckers in Washington, anybody?) My point is basically that people will always have 'society' saying their idiots, or that they're never going to get anywhere because of something or other. In the case of being married by certain ages, its ridiculous. Most of the reasons we have problems with so many marriages nowadays is because everyone's marrying their high school sweetheart and its just not as it used to be. The reason: fifties had 'courting' like the British, today we got punk rock concerts and people giving a different image than what they actually are. Take things slow if you're wanting to get married. DOn't let family/friends/society tell you that you're a fool, or that you'll be seen as an oddity if you're not married by 30, or 25, or 21, etc. They don't rule your life, you do.

I think it's harder from women who are getting older and still single because society seems to expect women to get married in their twenties and start families. I am almost 30 and still single, and I have no intention of getting married before I turn thirty.

Women specifically, get pressured to be married when they reach 30 because of the difficulty to have a child since most women experience this difficulty when they reach such age. Guys usually are not experiencing this dilemma since they still can impregnate even on their 40s. But finding a suitable companion does not have a deadline. He/She will come at the right time.

30 years and still single is not a crime,why you pressured of that?i thought that's not a big problem,so dont think that is problem,just be proud that you been single now and have no a lot responsible in your life.and proud to it that in your age you are still sexy,cute,gorgeous and beautiful.and just say to people that "i am single and ready to mingle".

I am a 32 year old woman, and yes I have felt that pressure as well. It might be less for me because I don't want children but I have friends who have "settled" so to speak so they could have that family. Usually this turns out in a miserable marriage that hurts the kids. I also have a friend who had invitro done, no boyfriend, no husband, because she wanted kids at 32. She is a great mom, has family support and a good job which helps. She is still single and happy. Media, family, even friends and coworkers.. pressure comes from everywhere but the key is to stay true to yourself and not settle for a relationship just because you are over 30.

I think they're pressured because some people thought that its hard to find a lover at that age. That's what other people are telling but I don't believe them. There are lots of single people at that age so they must not worry because they would find their match too. They just have to wait for their true love to come. And if not, maybe they're just destined to be single but they must not be disappointed. Time will come that they will somebody to love. They must not force themselves to love someone else just to be in a relationship. Just be patient while waiting for the right person.

Hi eubilisa, The reason I thinnk they get pressured is because they know there getting old. Getting old means no family or good looks. They want to hurry up and get a wife or a husband so they can move on to the next chapter in there life. If they have a brother or sister that is younger than them, and they already got engaged, then it might form some jealousy by saying oh no fair, how did you get past me. On the other hand, I dont see anything wrong with being 30 and single. Single is actually good because kids drive you nuts. Theres a lot more bills and bad situations you end up in when rasing a faimly. Thank you for this discussion.

Depends on which country you live in. In some conservative societies marriage has more importance than it should. They still live with very old customs, and the new people is a victim of that. In my opinion you should only marry if you want to and whenever you want to. I've seen many people in desperate mode to marry, and I think that's very sad.

I dont know... maybe the reason why they hurry up because woman in 30's have a hard time getting pregnant. But I dont think that's a pretty good idea, someone will surely end up in something messy or worst. When Im 30 and Im not yet married or in a relationship (gladly i am) I dont think I will hurry. I will still take my time. WHen it comes to having a baby, if the Lord will give it then it will be given. :)