I was trying to tell my son that there are alot of things in life that we do not

I am not sure if saying that will work. I think children just take is as 'you know it all because you're adult and you minimize me because I'm not', you know, the 'you just don't know' attitude, it's something I never liked in adults. Instead I preferred when I'd smash my head against things and then learn how they should be done. You say ***I told him i have to keep cleaning up the house as other wise it will not get done and no one will be able to get through the front door,i dont want to keep cleaning up behind anyone,but i have to do that even if i do not want to. *** Alright, he's keeping it messy, right? Then, for all this week you will not clean and tidy up. Nohing. You'll touch just about NOTHING. When he'll come back to school and he'll barely be able to walk in and you'll be sitting on the sofa watching tv, maybe he'll pick up his lovely butt and do something. What do you think about it?

It definitely is a part of life to do things that we don't want to do. How many days are there that we don't want to get out of bed but we have to because we have to make sure that the kids are fed and that dinner is made for the husband when he gets off of work. I notice that having to explain this is especially something that is trying to do with my daughter because she is at that age where she wants to defy everything that I say. I can't wait until she realizes that the reason I tell her to do things is for her own good, not just because I want them to be done.

One good example is, daddy has to work to make a living and put food on the table for all of us to eat. He has a boss that he has to listen to and if he doesn't then he'll get fired and won't have a job anymore and with no job, you all won't have anything to eat. Here's another, your electric bill has to be paid every month or you won't have lights.

I think that kids seem to go through phases of not liking or enjoying what school has to offer. I am very lucky to have a excellent school system in my area. I am in the Northwest and our little state may be what they like to call backward and slow in alot of areas but our kids have good teachers that make learning fun.

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If there are a lot of things you would rather be doing with your time then you have become selfish. I love going to work. I love cleaning my house to make it look nice. It might make me tired and there are a few things I could be doing but, I take pride in what I do. I love to help people and this is why I love to get up at 4am and go to work. You should teach your children the value in what they do, not you have to do it just because.

I tell him the same things almost every second day LOL…you know how kids are! My son is 10+ so all of a sudden I see that he’s having a mind of his own and that mind tells him that skipping school is a very good idea indeed!!! So I have to use a lot of pep talk and a lot of threat talk (too) to make him go to school everyday. I put my examples and that of his dad and of his other friends too in proving my point that everybody has to do something or the other regularly…even if they like it or not. That is life *sigh*

You make a good point about issues such as those, however there are those people in the world who expect others to comply with unreasonable things, and use religion, authority, and other things to get them to comply, regardless of the ages of the people they're trying to control. I will understand within reason (and you mentioned some good reasonable things we have to do) but I will not do things just to placate someone else.

Ya can also tell them you could go to jail if they dont go to school and dont care if they are boys they need to start picking up after themselves. as that would help you if they pick up for them selves and help you you just mihght have more time to spend with them!

There are so many things in life that we have to do that we do not want to do. When we are children the main thing is going to school and learning things. When you become an adult than you have so many more things that you have to do like take care of the children, work and earn money, cook for the children and much more.

Hi jugs, There are a lot of things I don't want to do but I have to. This is particularly true in my work. There were things that I have to do because the order came from my superiors, even when in my heart I shouldn't do it as it will affect others, or make others unhappy. But I have no choice but to carry out the task lest I run the risk of losing my superiors' confidence in me and eventually losing my job. At this point I'm not ready to lose my present job and so I have to stick it out here until I find a new and hopefully better one.

Many things which we can not do and many things are there which we should not do. all the things i always try to make my kid understand so that his decisions in his life became more and more matured. i think every parrent should make these things understand to their kids to make them understanding one.

promised to your son something that he likes if he want to go to school everyday. for examples : food, toys, or something he likes so much. I'm sure he want to go to school and you can perform all your house activities.

Well, it sounds like your son is getting to the stage where he is becoming a more indenpendent thinker, this is a great stage as well as a frustrating and annoying one. His brain is thirsting for knowelage and he is questioning the world around him. In my opinion I think it would be best for you to really explain to him why school is inportant other then simply saying children need to learn, yes it may be easy to answer him with short responses, but in the long run it will be helpful for you to open up to him, as it will help him make more responsible desicions in the future for himself. Also should help your relationship with him, when you give him answers that make him feel "because you say so" (if thats what you mean or not) can add tension between the two of you and you might get a reble on your hands that doesn't wanna do what he feels you are making him do. So just be honest and give him an answer from your heart. He will figure some life lessons out on his own, but this is the joy of being a parent, to help mold and shape your child for a better future, so when its time for them to leave they will have the confedence and the maturity to do it.

Doing things we don't really want to do is a part of life. Rather than just teach him that there are things everyone has to do whether they want to or not, why not teach him that there are bad consequences if we don't do those things? Not only a dirty house, but he won't learn to read or write or know enough math to know if he's been cheated or not. If we don't do our taxes, we wind up in jail. If we don't take out the trash, we can come down with all sorts of horrible illnesses... things like that.

Sounds like it is getting to you. He is not big enough to help with the cleaning? Maybe it is time to start teaching him how to delegate...by delegating some of that work to him. Then maybe he would appreciate school more. But hey, I'm weird, because I always WANTED to go to school...maybe to get away from the work at home. Mum would not allow me to bring school work into the house. she said "homework" is the work you do at home. Somehow I managed to get a PhD anyway.

I think that every thing that we must do, effects us later in life. If I get up for work, I get a pay check at the end of the week, and I am able to pay my bills. It is important for our children to understand that although we might not like doing certain things, they must be done whether we like them or not. We just have certain responsibilities in life that we must take care of.

Hi, Jugs. Try to make him see that there is some kind of reward at the end, even if it's hard to see at first. Like, ask him what he wants to be when he grows up, then tell him when he is bigger and he's learned all his lessons, they'll allow him to be what he wants to be, and give him more choices. It's a toughie, but he'll get it eventually!

I clean house at least once a week (even though I do not like doing it). Is your son old enough to help clean house. My sister has four kids (the oldest is 7 and the triplest are 4) and they help clean house. They all pick up their toys and put their blankets on the bed. My oldest nephew takes the small trash cans and emptys them into the big trash can. The other three will dust and sometimes help my mom by taking the clean laundry out of the basket and throw it on the floor.

Its always been our responsibility to teach our kids what to do right & tell them what is wrong so for me while they are growing its better to expose them in the household works. So that they will not be too dependent to us in doing things that they can be capable of doing on their own so that they will not be too dependent to us.