What is your way of dealing with grief?
By getbiswa2000
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
India
November 30, 2009 1:09am CST
Grief is one of the most important feelings we have in our life. We all know it. We all have felt it at some point of time. The frequency of its occurrence in one's life differs. What does it depend on? What is in it that leaves us totally stupefied? Why is it so crude in its behavior and what possible consequences it has? We all have our personal experiences and interpretation of grief. What I wanna know is the means that one takes to over come this disaster. Whatever may be the cause, there must be certain methods, strategies that you can always rely on to battle this demon. Some people meditate, some employ other means to get detached from the situation, and some just cry and cry until grief looses its strength and subsides, some drinks or womanize. The way differs greatly on individual perception and philosophy of life.
What is your strategy?
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3 responses
@saivenkaat802003 (4823)
• India
11 Jan 10
Grief bounds from where it falls,not with hollowness, but with weight: Shakespeare
As of me, even if my heart is filled with joy or sorrow, i don't show much of emotions or reactions,to the event causing anyone of the above two.
On rare cases, i will share it with my close friend, other than that every feeling goes buried in me.
Take care friend and have a good time.
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@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
12 Jan 10
Hello,
My friend, I think we have some similarities on that. Yes, I too try to pay less attention to my grief. But I really don't prefer to bury it. Rather, I try to get face to face with it, try to look at it with an indifferent point of view. I try to come to a positive conclusion, because I think there is a positive part in everything, even the darkest moments of our lives.
I try to swallow my own pain because I think that makes me stronger. My potential to endure things gets even better.
Thanks for the response
God bless you
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
11 Jan 10
Hello,
I completely agree with you dear. But I couldn't cry when I lost someone who meant a lot to me. Days after days went by, but not a single drop fell from my eyes. May be I didn't know how to cry. I didn't have the habit to react that way. But I was feeling like I was dying inside. It was a totally awful feeling that I had that time. It was a disaster. But now as a year has passed, I feel like that incident was really necessary. That made me strong beyond measure. It gave me the ability to find positive aspects from even the worst thing.
Thanks for such a wonderful response.
God bless you
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Hi getbiswa,
Time is a physician that heals every grief.~Diphilus
Every human being goes through pain, sufferings and heartaches. But through time, everything comes to pass, and after going through it, we feel stronger, wiser, ready to face yet another battle. Personally when I'm grieving I keep myself busy, refuse to feel lonely and alone, I surround myself with the people I love as I know, eventually I'll get over it and live again...Welcome to myLot!
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
30 Nov 09
Thanks doryvien,
You can call me "biswa". Thats my name. Yes, I highly agree with what you've just said. Bitter moments always makes you more matured than you were before. Keeping yourself busy is a really valuable piece of solution. Time lets us forget everything, even the deepest bereavements. But methods and strategies becomes necessary when you can't leave the entire thing on time. There, you make your own conscious effort in winning the battle. I would like to stress on these words you've used, "I refused to feel...". These are the words of a really strong man. Its difficult to refuse though. But this attitude is admirable. "You may want me to be sorry, you may want to see me sorry, you may even think that I am sorry, but I simply disagree with you on that." Marvelous response buddy...
take care....
God bless you...
