Have you or would you get married for love,money or to feel secure
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
November 30, 2009 3:12pm CST
Alot of people get married for a lot of different reasons.I got married to my first as i thought i loved him as well as when i got married to the second husband.
16 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I've only been married one time and I feel like the reason that I got married to my husband was the right reason. I got married to my husband because I love him. Yes, he is able to fulfill other needs in my life like giving our family a secure life and making sure that all of our basic needs are fulfilled, but originally the reason that I said yes to him was because I loved him then and I still love him today. We didn't feel pressured by anyone or anything to get married and I think that has made our relationship stronger.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
I am glad to hear that,where as other people tend to get married for all the wrong reasons.There are people that get pressured into getting married so they do get married and then it ends in divorce and then you have people that get married as they are pregnant and get married for the sake of the child then there are the others that rush into a marriage only to find that it will not work.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Dec 09
I got married for love and I think that marriage with love is more secure than one with money. Besides it lasts longer, but of course the love between each other is supposed to be equal to each other to make it last longer...
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Dec 09
I have known women who did this but I am too much of a romantic and have to have some feeling there before I would go forward. I knew a woman who kept marrying and having kids so she would get more on welfare. I knew a woman who married just to get out of the house. Sometimes we just have to learn what love is before we can stake a claim.
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Dec 09
Things are too easy now days. It used to be that people acted with dignity and men were gentlemen and a woman was treated like a lady and acted like one. Not anymore. And men and women don't even get married anymore much.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
I think you are right there.There are alot of relationships that break up and the people are left soo confused to why it broke up as one of them had got married for the wrong reason.Also alot of people get married as soon as they think they have met the right person as well as they get married soo young.
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@nskhan1983 (92)
• Pakistan
2 Dec 09
I got married to my husband because I couldn't even imagine of leaving him ever in a life time..I wanna be with him forever..even in the life here-after...So, according to my theory, marriage is an eternal bond that binds you and your beloved together forever..I married him both for love and security..security of being each others religiously and officially..money or no money...who cares..
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@TierrasMommy (125)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I would rather marry for the money to feel secure in life since I have terrible health. Also I don't see myself staying with one person for the rest of my life it just gets boring to me and I tend to see marriage as a joke anyway I don't even believe you only have one true love its just crazy but thats my view of how I see things.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
I do think that money causes agruments as either you have some money,no money or alot of money,but money alone will not make a marriage work.I think that alot of people do get married for alot of wrong reasons as they get married too young or they get married for money and when the money runs out that is when the marriage ends normally in a divorce.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
8 Dec 09
Love is the only reason why I would ever get married, and if love from both sides is sincere and true, then security will follow. There is never security where there is no love. As for money, who cares about money? My husband and I don't have much money, and we are in danger of having even less, but either way, we are going to make it work because we love eachother.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
We are the same we do not have much money between us,but there are alot of things that you can still do as a couple even when you do not have much money.However there are alot of people out there that do get married for money alone and when the money has gone so is the marriage.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
16 Dec 09
The first time I got married it was,I thought, for love, and it seemed to be the thing to do at the time. In hindsight, it was not a good idea. The next time I thought I was in love with a good guy but we have had problems too. Money has always been an issue cause we always wanted what we could not afford. The 1st husband friequently lost his job so we didn't have much money.Now we dont have much either although we could but the hubby would rather take the easy way out. If I had to do it again I would choose money and security as an important factor.I would just have to make sure that I chose a "better class" of friends from whom to pick a mate.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
I know what you are saying,as my first husband was always at work,but was also spending more money than he had earnt.The second husband works as well as when he see something he wants he tends to go and get it where as i never do as there are alot of things that we do not use as he buys for the sake of buying where as i would rather have the bill paid for months in advance just incase there is a job problem or we need something urgent.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
1 Dec 09
I never got married for love, money or security. I have only lived with a man for 20+ years and never felt the need to marry. When I was a teenager I had wished for a beautiful wedding to the man I love. Then as I got older I realized a piece of paper was not going to define my life. I did have two girls who are grown now and one has married. The older one doesn't look like she will ever get married either or have kids for that matter. I decided I didn't need to be married to love someone or to prove I loved someone.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Dec 09
I think that there are alot of people just like you who would rather live with a person that they love as they do not see the point of getting married.My mother has been with her partner now for about the same length of time and they both are divorced,but they have said the same as you and their relationship is very strong indeed as well.
@doormouse (4599)
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1 Dec 09
i married my ex husband coz it was easier than leaving him,but now i'm a stronger person i would only ever marry for love
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
30 Nov 09
Knowing a few things now that I am a bit older. And having to go through a lot of financial troubles, specially recently, I would! I would marry for money or financial stability!
Although I couldn't imagine why and how would a rich, young or old lady would want to marry me. But if I am detached, and someone like this came along, then sign me up! 
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I married for love. I was always told that it is important to marry the person you love rather than marry rich and be miserable. If the person you love has no money, but makes you happy then you should marry the one who makes you happy. I love my husband and he is great. I would not trade him in for anything in the world.
@tatutino (107)
• Brazil
9 Dec 09
I want to marry an old rich lady, to make she happy for a little while and then get her money. haahahhahaa... and my grandma is helping me! LOL
Just kiding, but i just want to marry if i really needed, we don't HAVE to marry to live with someone, it just make things harder!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
I think you are right there as alot of people get married only to find out that they do not to get married to live with each other as well as a lot of marriages tend to not to work out until after they have been with each other for sometime.Plus it costs to get married as well as get divorced.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I have never married. Why? Well, because even tho I loved a few guys, I never felt they were committed to the marriage idea. So, while money hasn't been the issue, I did feel that besides love, there needs to be a commitment and security to the institution, and if they aren't willing to put that into the marriage, its better to pass.
