Why is it that i can only relax with some friends,but not with other friends

There are casual friends and close friends. Sometimes we don't have the same type of relationships with them. We naturally feel comfortable around some friends but are guarded around others. It's a tough balancing act sometimes.

I have to say I have had a few friends like this in the past.I tend to distance myself from these kinds of people. I like to be able to say what I want to people without fear that they will get funny about stuff. I don't usually say things in a spiteful way, I am usually just having fun or giving advice and don't mean to cause offence. Real friends know that I am like that and would not get arsey about it. I don't like to feel like I have to be careful all the time I want to relax and enjoy myself with friends.

that would be hard. I always felt comfortable with all my friends.

It’s interesting how we can feel different with different people. There are some individuals that I have just taken to and I feel very comfortable with that person as soon as I meet them; others take a little more hard work or I just feel that I don’t like them although I would love to know why. I suspect that there must be certain chemistry between folks and some take to each other and others don’t. I have taken an instant dislike to someone for no apparent reason before too and that is the only way I can explain it.

you shouldn't feel like that with friends,you shouldn't have to watch what you say to friends,if that's how you feel then they're not true friends,you should feel comfortable around them,not on edge

Hi. I could perfectly understand your dilemma. In my case, I've known who among my friends could be trusted with confidential information and who among them could not. I have never trusted any new acquaintances. It takes time for me to establish trust and confidence with other people.

I have found that I am having a lot of those same issues with some of the people around me, some relatives, some friends i have issues with, others i can totally ralx with. I feel more relaxed talking to my favourite bus driver than I do talking to certain family members. Lol That's just life.

I never have had alot of friends. I never could relax around any of them because they always made me feel out of place anyway. They were never my true friend to begin with.

There are some people whom we can never be complete comfortable with. And those who sometimes make us feel jittery. It is just because for some reason we feel we cannot trust them all the time that they make us feel uneasy.

Some friends can be easily offended by things while others can be untrustworthy. That is the way that I see it as to why I can't say everything around the same friend as I would do with another. I share private information with friends that I can trust and not the ones I feel that are disloyal. I say certain things around friends whom I know won't take it personal. For the ones that do, I will make sure nit to say anything around them at all.

i know you felling very well, yes, especially in sadness,some people's good suggestion would be acceptable by us under this situation, but some friend's speaking would be very hard to be heard. it seems like the noise,but in fact, they give us the meaning is same. so that i agree with you that relax with some friendss, but not with other friends. good luck and have a nice day!

I know exactly what you mean..I have a friend that I see or talk to quite often, and to this day, I don't know why I call her a friend, because I don't trust her one single minute. I know darn well that she is repeating things to other people, making things up to fit her own needs, and is such a phoney it makes me want to gag! The truth is, there is a side to her that is very likeable, but when the other side comes out, it's horrid.

Hiya jugs, I once worked in a Telephone Exchange and I sat next to someone different every day and they all told me their Stories or if not I could hear them telling the other Person next to them. So I decided not to say anything about anyone as there 200 Women working with me. I clammed up and just kept up normal conversation. But I knew a load of secrets though and never told them to anyone.

hi jugsjugs...i understand what you are talking about. in my case, i have so many friends around me but i can only trust a few because not all friends are trustworthy. you can have many friends but only few will consider as your true friends. we in ourselves can tell whom we can trust and it's a basic instinct.

Oh, I know what you mean exactly. I have friends for shopping, friends for hanging out at the stores with, friends just hanging out at home and other friends who I could just have fun cooking with. I guess there are different people in our lives, and it's because of the personality differences which makes some more agreeable to go with at some places, while others who you think won't fit. I honestly cannot relax with my college friends compared to my high school buddies. Yes, we are friends and we're quite close, but I just don't do well with their preferences of hang-outs as compared to that of my high school buds.

I think it is a trust thing you really don't know who to trust anymore or who is your real friend or who is not?It seems to take a long time to figure this out and it is a shame after many years thinking they were really your close friend and find out nuch later down the road they were really just using you the whole time and on top of that a liar and can't be trusted!Sad but True!

I feel relax around my friends and can talk about anything. Now I do have some acquaintances who I talk to but as they are not close friends I do watch what I say around these people.

because you love the only your close friends that solve

Hey thats human nature.We have many friends in life but the good ones are very few.The good friends are those with whom your frequency matches,you feel comfortable in there presence and you can open your heart infront of them.SO though one can have many friends in our life but the good ones are those who really matter.

because you are not comfortable with other people as they are not yet close to you in terms of true friendship with lesser time to spend.