Sometime i think is it worth making the effort

So you are, in effect, taking the higher ground. You can be confident in knowing that you are actually the better person. No one is perfect, and when they start pointing fingers at you, they need to think of what is being pointed back at them.

That is the same with me. It is a neverending battle when it comes to people stepping on my feelings. I try to not go there with them though. I avoid the confrontation as long as possible but then, when I get my feel, I go off on them and I am done with them. People love to make my life miserable too.

It's always best to look forward and stay positive. A good attitude is always best. I know I don't always feel like being "nice" and I tend to have a sharp tongue so I have to be very conscious of what I say.

That's not very nice when people are going out of their way to make your life miserable! I've met people like that in my life time and they obviously have a problem and need to do some serious growing up! It sounds like you are well disciplined though and are probably taking the best approach, you are not meeting them at their level! That's not to say you should put up with things all the time as you may become stressed with it all. I know for sure that I wouldn't not be able to remain calm at the best of times, I would probably end up grinding my teeth and then would lash out, not the best approach I know but I have been taken advantage of by a lot of people in the past! The good thing is, you have a lot of support here on My Lot and it's good to talk about things as you are doing! I hope that your situation improves. Andrew

if they've annoyed you,why be polite to them,if you've got something to say to them then say it,get it off your chest and hopefully it'll make you feel better

same situation here..i just ignore them..go for what i know is right :D

Sounds like you need to start defending yourself and not let others walk all over you!

yup, thats the way to be. dont let it bug you, dont judge and pick back and visualize it the way you want it to be and there will be no more misery.

Yes, you are right. Misery loves company. A good friend of mines used to always tell me this when I would tell her how mean people treated me in my life.. I try to be nice to people even though I know that they are nasty and mean to me. But, I don't like their attitude at all. It is good to be nice to others. Because in the end they are going to be the ones that are going to be needing you. They also will look stupid and then they will feel ashamed. People like this, I just leave into God's hand. And most of the time, I may pray for this individual too. Killing them with kindness is always the right thing to do with people like this.

people like this are sad, we're dealing with the samething, no matter how hard my daughter tries to get along with our daughter in law, the daughter in law just dont want to try and try to make my daughter feel awful. the thing is dont allow them to make you feel this way at all. these people are sad and only enjoy life to make other feel like hell.

I can tell that you are a very kind and fair person. So many times what we do doesn't seem to be appreciated much - if at all and that can be very discouraging. Please don't give up even if you don't see any fruit right away from your efforts. There is always someone watching you and holding you up as an example. So many times we don't see the fuites of our labors in our own lives, but, we really have no idea whom we may influence for the better. Onward Christian Soldier - as the song says. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

Do whatever you think is right and let people talk.Meanwhile,dont get stressed out and never forget to enjoy what God brings to you.All in all,live on your own,and I hope everything goes well with you.

When the water gets over your neck, you need to pull the plug. I believe in showing love and care only for those who are worth loving and caring for. And yes, I decide who is worth it and not. Some people just can't accept the fact that we're being if not generous just friendly with them. I've seen such people more than my share and I choose to stick with my loved ones. Quit doing good for bad people, they wont acknowledge it and you will always be disappointed. Caring for poor and elderly is much better way of spending your love.

That's maturity and humility. You will be rewarded for doing that. Let them feel how you handle things lightly, maintain being friendly and not affected by whatever they want you to feel like as what you've said making your life miserable. You seemed to be a good person JJ.

Hi, I have a simple life. My principle in life is I will never disturb others - as long as others do not disturb me. The meaning of 'disturb' here means like what you are telling in your discussion - going out of their way to make your life miserable. To me, I must love myself first before I can love others. I am a very sensitive person, and sometimes what people say may hurt me even unintentionally. But I had experienced having neighbors who are jealous of me which I don't understand at all why should she be jealous of me in the first place. And yeah, she made every effort to make my life miserable, and I ended up not talking to her anymore because I just can't pretend to like her. Our friendship ended but I think it is better this way, rather than me eating myself up day by day, and swallowing bitterly all the bad things she said to me open facedly every day. I prefer to stay at home and do whatever I like, rather than going out and gossipping with others in their houses. To me it is a wild attitute, I am not used to going to others houses and gossip around. If you feel you are comfortable with what you are doing now, then it's better if you do the way you are doing it now. Because by doing this, you avoid being the center of attention and therefore less people will envy you and make your life miserable. But on the other hand, if you just keep quiet, some people like bullying and this is also a pain in the a**. Maybe you should just do whatever you want and be yourself. That way you will be happier. However, everything depends on you and you are to decide.

jugsjugs you sound like you are stressed out by people,but look we all have stress in our lives, but we can let it make us almost ill or we can say to heck with it,its all small stuff so I wont let it bother me. it is great that you do not judge but now you need to relax. so you have four children well so do a lot of others on here. I know one lady here who has six and she is as cheerful and happy as you would ever see. you are letting yourself feel sorry for you, and that will get you nowhere. dear one people are not perfect, I do not of course know what these people are doing or not doing that has you so upset but do not let them do that to you.you can choose how to react to stress. Imagine a pretend bubble around you, and these people can bounce stuff off it but nothing will get through so you are safe and happy and relaxed as you have this pretend bubble that bounces stress away from you. good luck.

See that makes you better than they are. You are a good person and you don't let no one tell you any different. Giving up is what some may want or expect you do. Don't give them the chance to say I told you so. Keep that head held high and you know what else you need to do. Keep smiling.

I think you just cant make everybody happy. It is so difficult. Sometimes we out all our efforts to be the best, we try to do all the work perfectly, but still there is nobody to give credit of all your hardwork, in the end it seems that we are fools to try to make others happy. It is better to think about ourselves too. there is no harm in being Little selfish.

Hi. Being polite and having that ready smile even when other people keep on pestering us is a good attitude. But sometimes, others will definitely take advantage on us. I believe it's a matter of personal judgment when or when not to loose control of our patience and temper. Personally, I don't immediately react when other people do something bad to me. But I definitely observe and check the other person's behavior and understand the possible root cause for such actions. Once the behavior becomes abusive or frequently repetitive, I stand on my ground and defend my personal rights. Really, some people should be approached/confronted, punished if possible, and (hopefully) in the learn their lessons for mistreating others.