What do you think of the theory that "powerful" men are programmed to cheat?

There are many different reasons why relationships do not work out. One of them is because of unfaithfulness. Not the other way around. I was reading some other articles here on the topic, and it seems the popular view is that people are unfaithful because the relationship is not working. Wrong. It is not working because of the unfaithfulness, even just thinking about it, and the guilt that is attached to it. Now, I am not saying it is ok to be unfaithful and you should have a guiltless affair. But what I am saying is that it's in our nature. Think about it this way. In evolution, an animal's soul purpose in life is to survive. Now it is not just a matter of the animal's individual survival, but the survival of the whole pack. Ok? Not only that, but the pack needs to evolve and be able to change and become bigger and stronger. So how do they do that? Well, one way is that they have an alpha male and female. The alpha is the strongest, the one that will be the main reproducer for the next generation. It's all about mixing genes to produce a better generation. Back to people. Men produce millions and millions of sperm every day of their lives. Why so much? Especially when women only produce one egg, once a month. And that's only for a few years of her life. So if we compare it to my example of gene mixing in animals, you have a few conclusions. Men have millions of sperm...it only takes one to fertilize an egg. So why so many? In actuality, of all those millions of sperm, there are only a few that are meant to reach the egg, like a quarterback in a football team. So again, so many? What are all those other sperm for? They are like warrior sperm. They are the pons to ward off the enemies so the quarterback sperm can reach the goal. I started to use a football analogy, so I'll stick with it. What about the other team? Well, exactly. Why would we need a full team, if we're not up against another? Keeping in mind the idea of evolution and gene mixing for the better next generation, since women can only produce one egg, only once a month, and only during the years that she's fertile, she needs to choose wisely who she sleeps with. For one, she's obviously going to be seeking out the alpha males. But how do you know who the alpha male is? And in a civilization like ours, it could take quite awhile to figure out whether the guy you're talking to is an alpha. Hell, especially with online dating, it's pretty random. So even if you do find an alpha guy, how dominant is he? Who are you comparing him to? And how can you be sure he's the best? Take football again, how do you know you're team's the best? You take another team that say their the best and you have them compete. So that's why women and men cheat. It's in their nature

Hi Karen, I think wise men are already powerful or, they will be "powerful" someday. They don't need to cheat to be one. They don't prefer cheating either. But men who are weak and ignorant will certainly take the shortcut to be "powerful" i.e. by cheating individuals and by cheating the mass. This method is of course, quick and effective, but I am not sure if it is permanent, or the person concerned can hold that position for a considerably long time. Another very thoughtful discussion from Karen... I really appreciate it... Take care... God bless you

without cheating they can't get their profile or the profile of nation.

Hi Karen, I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that generally speaking a lot of them would be totally unattractive to anyone if they weren't successful and powerful so it all goes to their heads and they finally have a chance to sow the oats that usually happens to with the young, but then they were too dull and unattractive to attract anyone so probably ended up with a very dull woman in the first place who also had no sparkle, so then look for a newer model to fit in with their new stature. Your own Donald Trump is a prime example, I actually like the chap but lets face it he's hardly Mr Attractive with that hair do and paunch, but he's always got the glam type on his arm. Do you think he still would have if he was a road sweeper. The same goes with politicians, at least the UK variety. However there are some who wield power who I do think become attractive with it such as Andrew Neil, but that's brains and charisma as well as power. Another good example would be Vladimir Putin whose power makes him an attractive figure despite the fact that he appears to be very short, his power gives him stature. Cheating or adultery is much more the norm though in Europe where men have their mistresses and their wives have their lovers, so it really isn't such a big thing. Whilst in America there seems to be a double standard for this, Clinton made the world press for months and months with his cupboard saga but you never heard about JFK being hounded over Marilyn.

The reason I believe that powerful men tend to cheat is because they are always tempted. A lot of women especially those with ambission always seek out these men to get what something from them. One of Tiger Wood's misstress released a voicemail from him and even when she was asked to be discrete about the affair to his wife, she released it to the whole world. It takes a principled man not to fall for the wimps and caprices of such girls.

Hi there Peaceful, it's been a long time... "Powerful" men = programmed to cheat? Nah, I think not. Shallow, faithless, narcissistic men - maybe. I think a truly strong man (or woman, for that matter) sticks to his morals, values and the sanctity of marriage. The animal urge to procreate is best left to either the animals, or to man within his committed relationship only. It saddens me to hear and watch the shameless adulterous antics of the so called rich, famous, or powerful. Because you are in a position of power, then this somehow justifies cheating? There is no good excuse for cheating, there just isn't.

hi Karen you know God gave men brains to think with, and they are in ones head,not in ones other little head. A powerful man I would think could still resist wrong urges and be faithful to his wife if he just used the brains and conscience God gave to him. I think they may use the theory as an excuse as some powerful men do not cheat and stay true to the woman they married. My view is that they can resist any urge if they love and care for their mate And respect themselves too.

I think it sounds like a bunch of b/s that was probably made up by some cheating man. I never cheated on either of my husbands but am pretty sure my 2nd one cheated on me. I don't think it's right to cheat, i don't care who u are.

I dont think that its powerfull men per say ,I think its a case of all men .Maybe these men have the financial capacity to do so and maybe more inflated egos and sense of self but it is not restricted to only powerfull men and I would say men in general.Granted many men would love to use this as and excuse because it would seem as if the urge to cheat is out of their control

Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, I think it is an psychological and un-satisfied situation, wherea person with lot of wealth also is caught stealing. It is just to satisfy one's ego. Genetically, men may have more power, but women too are not less , so they command on men. A scientist, who developed Atom/Hydrozen bomb, may be partially blamed for his wisdom to make it, but user has to be blamed upto brim. A wise person can find out better ways for safe cheating and come out inflying colors. Further, it is how one's childhood has been handled, if there was a bit negligence where child felt un-secured, such things will happen at later stage in life. Wishing you a very happy Chrismas and New Year-2010. May God bless You and have a great time.

Well, I've seen in my own life that men are more prone to cheating in a relationship than a woman is. I guess that in and of itself can be attributed to the levels of testosterone in the human body. That said, to a certain degree I can see why men that are in positions of power would have more ability to cheat as well because they constantly have women falling at their feet throughout their lives. Plus, it is ingrained into a man's mind that they have to reproduce and what better way is there to reproduce than to have many different partners.

Hi Karen! I haven't heard of that theory yet, but i believe in it. Because most of powerful men are in higher position in society and they tend to cheat because they want more money and power. Here in our country, all of the politicians and powerful personalities are the one who rob the wealth of my country and they uses there power to get whatever they want. I think that's the rule of life, people who are powerful are never contented on what they have and get more out of it.

i know nothing of that theory its the first i am seeing or hearing it but truthfully in my own knowledge,a real powerfull man can never be programmed to do what he doesn't want to do,if he is truly powerfull then he is in control of all programming.if he can be programmed easily just by urges alone then he is not powerfull he is very weak,and needs to have a more deeper training on what powerfull is,

high position comes with huge responsibility, these people have to realize that others are always looking at their every single action. in such case it is not cheating any more but abusing of power. these people need high level of integrity as well so that they are able to overcome such temptation. no one can bury their evil deeds forever, sooner or later someone would find it out. if these people still abuse their power even after thinking through of all these then i would say that they do their job because of greed which links with money, higher position and greater reputation. such job should be done with an attitude of leading others to a higher level.

Any person (man or woman) who has set their sight on their own power and glory will not only cheat, but they will also lie and steal. That is human nature and is not limited to the powerful. The average person, when they see a minuscule bit of power they can exercise, will also cheat. It's just done on a different scale. Women are just as good at this as men. djbtol

Oh my. What choice of words. I mean, the word "programmed". Programing implies a programmer, which has got to make me want to ask, who is doing this programming. Programming also implies that the individual has no choice. Lets think about that for a minute. If they really don't have a choice (and programming implies that), then it isn't really their fault. People who cheat DO have a choice, and as such, are not "programmed" to do it. What I thin is valid is that people who are powerful tend to be tempted more, and attract other people to the, which again may temp them more. That's different than "programmed". This way of looking at it shows that they may have a harder time ressiting, because their power goes to their heads, but they still have a choice and are responsible for theit actions.

Hello,Karen! I do not think that way, the so-called "strong" man,they are good at deception,are due to environmental,organizations and the general public for their trust and connivance ,of course,their own human weaknesses of a common shape.Their own weaknesses,they were not "powerful" period ,there is just not obvious or are hidden Bale himself.

I find it very interesting that researchers have come up with just another excuse for men and woman to be unfaithful. Of all the other important matters they have to waste time on celebrities unfaithfulness. Maybe they should research what happened to common sense instead. LOL My brother is no celebrity and he will never be faithful to who ever it is, sad to say. I believe they can and should resist... and if they cant then they have no business being involved in a serious relationship with anyone. Why get involved if you know your gonna hurt the other person your involved with? That to me is plan greed. Then again having marital affairs is greed because the guilty person is looking at their own selfish desires not that of their partner.

I don't know if all "powerful" mean are prone to cheating, but I do think that a lot of them chose to reach a that certain status. I mean, I think there's something that drove them to achieve status and power, but I don't know if that power involves being able to get any woman desired, or whatnot.

I think It depends on the individual and how strong their sense of commitment is towards their significant other ..seeing as men/women in any occupation may be tempted to cheat. Also not all men in positions of power will have a higher level of testosterone.. I think wether you cheat or not depends on your values and morals and sense of commitment.