Would you let your mother in law live with you if she didnt want to be alone?

United States
December 3, 2009 4:19pm CST
Lets say you hate your mother or father in-law (they are just really mean to you all the time) but her/him mate has died and she/he does not want to live alone?
8 responses
3r7sweetie
@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Good topic. I never intended to live with my in-laws, especially NOT with my mother-in-law. It would be very hard to do my usual thing with her around. I simply do not want to be pushed around and I don't want anyone else to start messing with my life and my family's life. Even if I don't entirely hate my in-laws, it is still not advisable to have her leave in our house with us. It's ridiculous. It would be a miserable life.
3r7sweetie
@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Yup, you are right. And no matter what you do, there will always be somethings bad that your mother in law will say about you. It's what I hate so much. It seems there is no way to please mother in laws. They always find something bad about their daughters in law.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Never thought of the daily life aspect... like your relationship with your kids/ husband would change. I couldn't be myself if my in laws were at my house. I'd always feel like the house had to be perfect and the meals perfect.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I know right and i have no clue why. You think they would want to be close to us because they want to be close to their sons... it you think about it you'd think there would be great potential to be friends oh well their loss!
happy2512
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Yes, I will let my in law stay with me if they don't like to be alone they are still a family to me. No matter what it takes.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Thats really nice of your putting your family first. I dont think i could do it... your a nicer person than i am!
magentavalentine
@magentavalentine (51)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I would only if I had a large enough house that I could feel some distance.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
My house would have to be like 10 miles long for that! me on one side hers on the other
maezee
@maezee (41988)
• United States
3 Dec 09
This reminds me of the movie "Monster in Law". Is that where you're getting the idea for this discussion, or is a real-life event? *just curious!*. I don't know if I could do it, though. Maybe as a temporary thing, but definitely not long-term just because I would NEED privacy. I go crazy without my privacy. I would maybe look into getting her put in a group home or something to that extent (not to sound mean - but then should be with people her age, and not have to burden her son/daughter-in-law)
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
lol I asked this question because i was thinking of a topic and just watched that move.. so i asked this! Your so right privacy is a biggie for me i need it, i crave it. I could do it maybe for a week or two but after that we'd have to take her home and just visit her more often!
BART78
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
3 Dec 09
no way!...our privacy is important here if they stay with us it will uncomfortable for both us..i don wanna somebody will encroach to our daily deeds..
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Yeah i wouldn't want my mother in law in the next bedroom over from my bedroom. That would be very very uncomfortable!
Fulltank
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Yes, I have no angst against my in-laws. They're good to me and we haven't have any argument about things in my family life. So, she can stay with us. Others think the opposite because of bad relationships with their in-laws.lol.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
good for you for having a good relationship with your in-laws! Not many people can say that! I wish i had a good relationship with mine but they jsut get on my nerves and my father in law is really mean.
lillake
@lillake (1630)
• United States
3 Dec 09
My mother-in-law? No. We are two hard headed, stubborn people with opposing views on everything. It would be clash of the titans in my living room every day.
Jennifer_lee_88
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
4 Dec 09
i'm the same with my mother in law... maybe i could deal with like a week before i'd pull all my hair out!!
avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
2 Mar 10
I am really sorry but would you even think for a second if it had been your mother in place of your mother in law and your husband hated your mother would you not cajole and do everything just so that she can stay with you. Instead of being compassionate when she has lost her mate and needs your affection and love during this period. We should not forget that it was because of her or him that you are the married to this person who is your husband. How much ever a person may hate you but if you are kind the person will surely change. Love is very powerful.