All the things life throws at you
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
December 3, 2009 6:47pm CST
How do you carry on with every day life knowing that your life is getting worse.All you get is one bit of bad news after the other and you never seem to get any good news.I mean you can only pick your self up for soo lond and then feel like you are yet again being dropped.
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@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Jugs
This sounds like you are not doing too well with things around you. I know that you are sick and all but I think there is more to it than that. I am only a PM away if you need to vent about things. I might not have the answers but I am a good listener.
Yes life sometimes is not fair to us and then it jumps right on top of us before we get over the orginial.
Hang in girl and Im sure things will get better.
Keep smiling.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
4 Dec 09
You are welcome..Thanks for the BR. I hope that you are feeling better today. ARe things going smoother for you? I do hope so. Just remember I am only a PM away.
Keep smiling girl.
@littleowl (7157)
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4 Dec 09
The hardest thing to do is take all the knocks etc especially when you think thst everything is alright. The only way I manage to deal with it is thinking posistively about he situation and trying to see why it has happened and for what reason, there is always a positive within a negative and if you can try and think positively then you will find the strength to overcome what life hurls at you, if you feel that only neagative people are forever throwing things at you then try and let it 'ride' over you it is not hard to do this..for me it has taken many years but now I think this way good things happen more so than bad, and then when the bad do happen I find it easier to deal with. positive thinking has a lot to be said for it.
LoLo
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I've had a lot of bad luck, especially recently. I discovered that it is easy to get down and depressed but not so easy to stay positive.I've learned to stay focused on what I have and what is good in my life and thank God every day.
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@derek_a (10874)
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4 Dec 09
Well, when you thing of it, we have to have bad times from time to time, and it never lasts forever even if it does seem to do that. And if things are bad and we can't do anything about it, the only choice we have is to press on and learn from it. I don't believe that we are ever given anything in life that we can't handle. In 10 or 20 years time, we will wonder why we were so upset.. 
- Derek
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@doormouse (4599)
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4 Dec 09
i truely believe that everything happens for a reason,as crappy as it seems now,all this upset and trouble you're having now is happening for a reason
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@mypriv8link (180)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
It sucks to find yourself in that position. Hoping for the best and believing that something better will come along in time always helps. In short, faith and positivism will pull you up and help you through the tough times. It may not be easy, but it gets better after a while. Just grab whatever lessons you can out of every bit of bad news and learn from those. I believe that everything happens in life does happen for some reason even if it is beyond our understanding. We just have to try our best to pull through and believe.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
5 Dec 09
I know the feeling. Stuff tends to happen, and the best thing we can do is just try to handle it as best we can. I am having a crazy crazy week, and the best that i can do is just plan my next move, and prepare for anything. Actually the whole damn month of December is like that...every single year!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
14 Dec 09
I go through this just about every day of my life. It has always been like this and probably always will be. I hate it!!! I just try to stay busy to keep my mind off of it. It is not easy to live through though.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
14 Dec 09
I guess I'm very fortunate that I don't feel this way. I'm very thankful for all life has given me.
And I guess when the tough times hit, I try to lean back on God, because he has never failed me in those moments.
Life on earth is tough. we live in a fallen world and things will never be the way they were meant to be on creation day.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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10 Jan 10
I try to look at it like tomorrow can only get better as well as at least the day is over is another way of looking at it,but sometimes that still do not seem to help much as you are always dreading the next day as well.I think on the terms of that nothing else can go wrong as well.Lets hope this year is alot better than lkast year.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
jugsjugs well first quit with the pity party as there are
a lot of mylotters here who are in worst straits yet, a lot
who are out of work and now so close to Christmas. also a lot
of people have been evicted from apts. or lose their homes, think of that when you feel you are so bad off,I do not have a home, and my son who is my only family is having to move now and that may mean he will not be able to see me,no you are not the only one with troubles.but you could try seeing the good things you
do have like I have to . crying is not going to help either of
us. Maybe you should start counting your blessing and see the cup as half full. and think about not making so darned many discussions while you are at it.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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6 Dec 09
Had i have seen this one earlier then perhaps i would have started a few discussions as in more than 2.I am fed up of waiting for the op on my feet that i could have had done 2 years ago so that i could go out and get a job as well as take my children to and from school,as well as not get people that are being evicted have a go at me as that is the nasty job that my husband do and yes he is on a low wage and yes i get it in the neck from people that he put out of their homes.Some of them are/were my friends.I must also say i have never had a go at anyone on here but sometimes i want to snap back as well.So now you can see i do reply as well as start them as well as do the best responses.The bonus is i can not go far so that rules out another smack in the face for the job he do,as well as all the abuse i get.Someone has to do the job and he tries to help people so i do not mind him getting a low wage if he can help someone.How ever when i come on here i do not expect to get a gobfull either,that is putting it a nice way as i am not on here to judge or critiseze anyone.There are alot of people on here as you can see that start discussions and they are what you called a one liner discussions,so i am sure you can find someone else to feel like crap if you have not already that is.Thanks for tonight.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Dec 09
This time of year many people suffer from some degree of depression. Part of this ailment is emotion and sensitivity. If you think about it things that happen in the summer, sunny months probably don't affect you as severely as they do in the cold and dark months. Be sure you are getting your rest and eating right. Alittle exercise helps too. And they say God only gives you as much as he feels you can handle.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Dec 09
Yes. Besure to eat well and get your rest. Also, eat things with B Clompex in it as that is a mood stabilizer of sorts.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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6 Dec 09
I think you are right i think what with it coming up to christmas as well as the dark dull nights it do not help any of us as there are less people about to who you would see on a normal day and there for there are times where as it make you feel a bit low.
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@Wizzywig (7847)
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4 Dec 09
Well, I think everyone goes through those times - sometimes it seems like your life is effectively over and that you're in a deep, dark pit that you cannot see daylight from, never mind clamber out of. I have developed an inappropriate sense of humour as a coping method against bad times. Also looking around and seeing so many other people whose lives are so much worse and by finding the positive and good things in my own life. My mum is an inspiration to me since, tho she is almost 79 has osteo-arthritis &, in the last few weeks has broken her wrist in two places, had minor surgery and had a stress fracture to her foot, her greatest concern is that she feels she is being "a nuisance" when she needs transport to her hospital appointments and that she is unable to drive her disabled 93 year old friend to get her weekly shopping. I also work on a busy hospital ward and realise that - tho' its hard work - I'm lucky to be physically able to do that work.
I sincerely hope that some good news comes your way soon.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
dear jj,
sometimes we get tangled in a situation like that. and it gets very frustrating. but if you keep a positive outlook, you will find it not very difficult because you feel hope of one day getting out of it.
so the key words are - positive outlook. you think am right?
ann
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi. I've been in that situation a few months ago. During those times, I used to drag myself out of bed. Good thing, I have a very supportive husband and a few loyal friends. They stood by my side and tried their best to understand my situation. Slowly but surely, they were able to help me accept the situation and move forward.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 09
I have had a lot thrown at me for 40 years it is only the last 4 years that I am able to say I am not being knocked down at all times only occasionally now
I have always got up again and I always will get up again
I am going through a knock down at the moment but I am already half way up again
I always say never give up or you will give up on Life and believe me I have been to H*ll and back
I do hope that what ever is getting to you, will soon sort out
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I just continue to put my faith and trust in Christ and know that he is going to bring me through it all. It helps to have friends and family that can listen to your problems, pray with you and sometimes even help if they've been through the same situations.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Dec 09
I am so sorry to hear that things have been going so roughly for you. I hope that things will look brighter for you in the near future. As for me, I've experienced times in my life where things feel just the way that you've described here and then I will experience times in my life that it feels like things couldn't get any better. Life goes in cycles and I will pray that your life will start in a brighter cycle in the near future.
@kaylachan (69670)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Dec 09
I admit its hard on me. I do get overwelmed. Belive it or not, I do suffer from depression. However, I know I have friends who I can talk to, and a loving (and not always supporting) husband (more or less) that tries to be there for me as much as I am there for him.
Today was a prime example of that. And, I just hope he knows how much I wish to support him.
