Can a boy and a girl be friends only and never fall into relationship?
By smartjack
@smartjack (520)
India
December 4, 2009 9:57am CST
Many times I have seen that when a boy and a girl are best friends, they fall in love later. Isn't it possible for them to be best friends always and not fall into relationship. people always have a conclusion that a boy and a girl cant be best friends. They ultimately fall into love and have a relationship. Even I have a best friend, a girl, but i never think of ever falling into a relationship with her. And people always misunderstand her as my girlfriend. But she is not. What do you have to say to this?
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22 responses
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Of course, it is possible to be friends only. I am really close with several guy friends without transcending the line of friendship. I am pretyy comfortable with them and nevel felt taken advantage of. I don't care what other people say when I am close with a guy friend. All I know is we have a real friendship that cannot be found even with a lover.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
2 Jul 10
Hello i am married since 1968, prior to my marriage and after that too, i have tons of female friends, we are just friends, nothing beyond..
Yes a boy and girl can be just friends, nothing beyond, though people may misunderstand..
Thanks for sharing.
Welcome always.
Cheers.
Professor
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
8 May 10
I will say yes to this but I will also say no. Even being friends is a relationship and if you are good friends over time there will be love of a kind between you. If you and your friend spend too much time together one of you may get the idea to be more than friends so it is up to both of you to be mature and maintain the boundaries.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I think that it's more common that a boy and girl who are friends become involved in a relationship, but it is possible that they can remain just friends.
• Kenya
28 Jun 10
There can be a boy girl friendship without an relationship.For example i have more friends who are girls than boys.It is not a must that when a boy and a girl are friends are in a relationship.Many people misunderstand this to judge one to be in a relationship.
@cosmos_genius (217)
• India
5 Dec 09
ya sure it quite possible sure they can be friends and never fall in luv....
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 09
Yes, definitely. We can have platonic relationships even if we are best friends with a person of the opposite gender. Being a best friend, and sharing many things doesn't mean that they'll end up as married couples - it doesn't work that way all the time. For love to bloom, there must be "connection"; there must be mutual sparks. People may misconstrue our relationships believing that we're going steady with our best friend, but that's alright. They have the right to say what they want, but you need to correct them along the way :)
Cheers!
@harshalapugol (44)
• India
5 Dec 09
hi i dont think so a boy and girl cannot be best friends for ever since some ever down the line this feeling of love will come it may have come for you also. there can be good friends in a group but i dont think it is possible between two people
@isis30 (42)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 09
Hmm, this is a tough one. I think it really depends though. But there are so many variables involved. I'll say that boys and girls can have a platonic friendship if they don't find each other attractive. Once some kind of feelings creep in the way, it will be difficult to maintain a "clean" relationship. If either one has feelings for the other, and the other doesn't, then the one with the feelings will in the end get hurt or feel rejected and find the need to end the relationship. But if they both have no feelings whatsoever for the other, then great, they can be friends... But I somehow find that maybe in the start, there aren't any feelings involved, but the longer the friendship goes on, then sooner or later some feelings might get into the equation...
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Yes, of course! A boy and a girl can be strictly friends and never be in an actual relationship. It just depends on how either one views each other as, whether it may be just a friend, or maybe they consider them a little more than a friend. Haha, I know what you mean by people always thinking that if a boy and girl are best friends, that they will always somehow fall in love with each other in the end. I definitely don't think that's true, however of course it's possible, but not 100% of the time. It just depends on how they think of each other. Maybe they aren't each others' type in terms of a long relationship and what they look for in their future partner, but they can get along very well otherwise. I've had friends like that where I feel like I can be really good friends with them but I could never see them for anything more than a good friend. I also have a friend that is a guy and we hang out with each other a lot, but I would never think about falling into a relationship with him either. And just like you, people think that we are going out or that we should be or some crazy idea like that, but forever in my mind and feelings will he only be a friend to me. But yes, I do believe that a boy and a girl who are best friends can stay strictly friends and never be in a relationship with each other. I think a lot of these ideas sprang up from watching too many romance movies xD
@novyvery (21)
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5 Dec 09
I don't think so. boy and girl could not be friends everlasting. They will surely have a deep feeling one another. So that, it would grow the feeling up and be a thing called Love. It's just maybe. But it always happens surrounding me.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
5 Dec 09
Yes, a boy and a girl can only friends and never fall into relationship. Though most people disagree, I firmly believe this. I have a male friend and we've been friends for nearly 10 years, but I've never thought of falling in love with him. I believe there are differences between love and friendship. Loving a person means I care for him unconditionally from the bottom of my heart; while being friends with a person only means we are just friends and nothing more. There is no love in it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Yes it can be done. I know because I have some guy friends that I would never ever dream of being in a relationship with. They are like brothers to me. It'd be weird if it went beyond that. That's not to say that a good friendship can't turn into something deeper but the guys I'm talking about...it would never happen.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
It definitely is possible for a boy and a girl to stay best of friends. I have experienced that a few times already and just wanted to keep the friendship going. I tell them right away that I intend to stay friends and nothing more. Most of them would turn away but some are still my best of friends.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Dec 09
As far as I am concerned,I think the boy and the girl will not fall in love if they get into a very good snese of relationship. They just make their relationship as very good friends. They can not do the things beyond the friendship.So we may be as friends in life. Happy mylot.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
5 Dec 09
Absolutely they can be only friends. Being a male and a female doesn't mean that you have to neccessarily fall in love. Not only there can be the case of one or both of them being homosexual -seriously, why still so many people can't accept that not everyone is heterosexual?-, but if they're heterosexual, there's a big chance of at least one of them not to be attracted to the other one.
Some people just will never be in our eyes a love partner, and that's why friendship exists.
@TierrasMommy (125)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Well this one is a tough one I dont really think girls and boys could be just friends cause well they will eventually be attracted to each other or even have a fling. It can't be helped in my honest opinion and plus alot of people would agree with me eventually. I still say no to the girl and guy can only be just friends after all we have needs.