What is a girlfriend to do?

If you don't mind be asking, what is his hobby?

Your concerns are genuine.A relationship only succeeds when there is contribution from both sides.Although,your boyfriend is to some extent justified in pursuing his hobbies but that does not mean that he should ignore you.I am sure he doesn't do it deliberately.He probably does not realise that it is affecting you adversely.If there's anyone,who can make him understand this is you.At the same time,you should not be too demanding and should let him have his private space.Try and involve yourself in doing something you like.I am sure,he'll realise your importance in his life pretty soon.All the best!!

Hi, Djbrat. I am sorry that you are having a very hard time. You are going to have to sit your husband down and talk to him and tell him how you truly feel. Let him know that you feel pushed to the side and that you would like more of his attention on you. Let him know that you want to spend more time with him because you feel neglected and lonely. The key to solving this is communication. Tell him that you love him and just want to spend more time together like you did when you first met. I hope that he comes around, because it can be a struggle trying to get him to open up to you. I hope that all works out for your best interest at heart.

It sounds like he's not giving you any quality time hardly at all or none at all. One year, five years and then 10 years could go by and he would still not be paying you any attention and just taking you for granted. Maybe he just doesn't have his priority straight. If his hobby is more important then you maybe you should rethink this relationship. I wasted years of my life waiting on a man to change and he never did. Now I'm middle aged and alone. But if this man is supporting you or helping to support you then I suppose it depends on how much financial security matters to you. Then again you need to ask yourself where this relationship is going. Do you want to marry a man who's already married to his job and his hobby leaving very little time left for you. That doesn't sound like a very good marriage. Life is to short. Maybe try planning things for the 2 of you and give him 1/2 weeks advance notice. And face it if he doesn't want to be in your life you need to seriously consider if this is the kind of relationship you really want. The only way I'd want that kind of relationship in this late stage of my life is if the money part was good and I didn't care that much about the man or the him being a part of my life.

I suggest you find somethin else to fill your time with. Find another hobby, go out with friends, do something. :) That way you won't be to worried about him being busy elsewhere. And you will be focusing on your own personal self-growth, that way you'd be able to know more on what you want out of life.

I know what that's like. Ugh. The best thing to do is to tell him how you feel [I know you mentioned you have talked to him about it before]. Tell him how frustrating it is, that when you love him so much he makes no time for you, therefore it hurts you. He has to understand life has to have a balance - there can be time for his job, his hobby, AND your relationship. If he doesn't feel that he can take time from his hobby to be with you, even if it's just for an hour or two, than ask him how important your relationship with him is to him. Perhaps if you put it like that, he'll think a little differently. I hope things work out!

This would not work for me at all. I would not be able to handle it. My ex as loving as he was when he was around me, but that was not very much. He worked a lot and then spent the rest of the time hunting or fishing or out with the guys. If he was around the house it was fixing or tinkering. We never went out or spent time together as a couple or family. After way too many years whining and complaining I left him. I am now with someone who is making time for me as I am with him. We both have things we do for only ourselves but also make time for just each other and with our families. As long as we keep the good comunication open I hope that this will continue on throughout our relationship.

Maybe you can try that hobby with him. So both of you will spend on the activity together. Sometime, it's hard to change a habit. Once an adult, the habit may never change. So you might want to get used to it or pretend to break up with him...just give him a scare and see if he changes lol. But do know that wether it is monney, hobbie, material, or fame, everybody is a slave to something.

first of all its a gud discusion started djbrat....to say about gal frnds they are of two types..first the gals who care for themselves...the second the care shown on us...the second category s now missin a lot yarr......but there are gals in rare..bein a gal friend there should be sum experience shared and the thoughts explanation and the decission makin should be clear...overall they should be ur wellwisher on all the cases....

Well you know what his hobby is...what you can do is get interested in his hobby...when he is giving time to his hobby you can involve yourself with him doing what he like to do...this way you spend time together and he is doing his hobby which you think he deserves...

Share his happiness and sorrow. Be happy in his happiness and soon he will be happy in your happiness and he will share your happiness and sorrow too. It is a give and take policy without any adulteration. Best of luck.

Sounds like its time to join him in this hobby. I know my fiance is hooked on some face book apps. So when he is playing them unwinding after a hard days work. I finish up dinner and clean up then I just go sit next to him by the computer. This way we are together we can still talk and laugh and I still get to give him hugs and kisses which many times is enough to get him away and focus on only me for at least 20mins :)... We use to joke that I was a face book widow that has changed just by me making my appearance known. Good Luck I know its hard to change old habits (sometimes even new) but with a little pursuance and a lot of love and compromising is involved it works. Chin up

I also met the same trouble,at that time, i was also crazy and sad. but the situation is different, your boyfriend spend all of his spare time on his hobby, my husband spent all his spare time on his friend, colleage and neighbor relationship. That is a deep loneliness and let me feel cold and hopeless for our marriage. It is a better way to find some interesting things to do and bring up yourself hobby, study to live out of your love, sometimes love is not all the life. And also let him know he should spend time to stay with you, otherwise he will lose love and live alone. It is important for man to know this point.

i really hate to tell you this. but I think you should really consider doing an action to this, they are right, it's hard to break a habit and you are definitely not the one to change him. Change comes with in. honestly, i been in that situation and a lot of times, I'm still competing with his addiction. I call that hobby addiction because it leaves no space for you or rather for me. So if you can learn and enjoy his "hobby" then do so, so there would be time for you in there. Now if you can't enjoy it, then find something you want to get involve in, and LOVE IT. so you can divert your time as well. Let him taste the same thing he is doing to do. If you can spend more time there and go home late just to make him feel what you feel. then do so. Lastly, if you can't still deal with his naiveness, I strongly suggest that you leave him. you wouldn't want to be 3rd priority in his time (1st-work, 2nd-hobby). If he's like that today, he'll be like that even after you're wearing your wedding ring.

I think you should talk with him what you really feel just like this, people needs to be companied by the lover that for sure which you have the right to have his company. Your house is not his hotel just to sleep and have something to eat. If I were you I'll go crazy as well! As a women we need much more time to be together with our lover than men. Otherwise what happiness we can have even with a very good man just sleep with us? Come on!