Would you invite an ex to your wedding?

@veronizm (907)
Philippines
December 7, 2009 3:08am CST
If our relationshiop ended that badly then obviously I can't invite him to my wedding. I mean, wouldn't that be too awkward? Not only for me and him but for my other guests too. And not to mention the groom! But what if you and your ex ended in good terms? Can you invite him to your wedding? Personally, I don't know the answer to this. I mean, it's so easy to say "Yes of course, we ended up in good terms, I don't think it would be awkward at all". But I think it would still be very weird, right? Especially if you and your ex had a long and intimate relationship before you broke up. Also, there are a lot of other people's feelings to consider here, not only yours but your ex's and your groom's as well. So what's your take on this? Do you have the guts to invite your ex to your wedding? Happy Lotting!
5 responses
cianoy
@cianoy (513)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
I've always wondered about that. On one hand, I was really close to this person in the past; that should merit an invitation. One the other hand, it will promote some weird feelings during the wedding. Why would I do that? So I still really don't know the answer.
veronizm
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hi cianoy! I know what you mean. I'm not quite sure about the answer too. As I mentioned it's so easy to say it's not gonna be awkward if we are friends but then again how would I really know exactly what I'd feel and the ex would feel when the wedding will come.
cianoy
@cianoy (513)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Maybe the best answer is not about feelings, but about cost. You spend less if you invite less people. Therefore the answer is, don't invite! Hehehe
celticeagle
@celticeagle (171912)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
I have had four ex's. My first is not with us anymore. My second I have lost contact with. Not out of either of us wanting it that way. Just don't know where he is. My third is a louse and I don't care to go there. My fourth was a louse, infact we were sort of louses together for awhile. He called me one day and wanted to see if we could salvage a freindship out of all the grief we caused eachother. We have become friends. I would invite him. He is my friend. Everyone would be okay with it too. Happy lotting to you too!
celticeagle
@celticeagle (171912)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Dec 09
Yes, that it would. Not complicated at all.
veronizm
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Hi celticeagle! I'm sorry to hear about your first ex. Anyway, it's good that you and your 4th ex became good friends and you can invite him to your wedding and that everyone would be okay with it too. That makes the situation not complicated :)
syankee525
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
7 Dec 09
yeah it depends how we are getting along or not. if it was a bad break up and then i would say no. but if it was a good break up and we are still at least friends then maybe.. but yeah it would be weird for sure
veronizm
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Yeah, I guess if both of you became really good friends after the break up then it wouldn't be too awkward. But weird, yeah.
werdan88
@werdan88 (272)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Yes. why not? However, it is up to her to decide if she would like to come or not. :)
Grace V. Henry
@curiousplay54 (340)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 09
i will NOT invite my ex to my happy day. that will only ruin everything...
veronizm
@veronizm (907)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Hi curiousplay! Yeah, that's what I thought so too. Imagine the awkwardness! And what if the ex still has feelings for you? It would be like a soap-opera story for sure, LOL!