Do you prefer love marriage or arranged marriage?

I like love marriages. Why? Because a known devil is better than an unknown devil. I believe both kinds of marriage have their pros and cons. In a love marriage, the initial stages after marriage are fun. You wanted this and you got it. It is a mission accomplished. But then if slowly the love goes away, the relationship breaks. In an arranged marriage, the initial stages are spent just to know each other. If then slowly you start to like each other, then good but otherwise the life is a misery as well. It does not really matter how you marry, all that matters is whether you love and respect your spouse or not. In a love marriage it is present before marriage, so you have to stop it from going away once you get married. You have a lot of expectation from your spouse because you knew him/her. In an arranged marriage you do not expect anything because you know almost nothing about your partner. But will have to spend a lot of time to get to know each other.

Hi Itzmee, I married for love. I can't imagine myself going into arranged marriage. I know it can be worked out and love can be developed but i won't take the risk. I have a happy and successful married life for love marriage!

No I couldn't see myself marrying someone that I was not in love with. That would be crazy to me. I guess it takes a certain type of person to deal with an arranged marriage. I could see it working if you work together and grow to love each other. However, that would not be for me. I think it would be to much more work then a marriage where you are already in love.

I was never married. But for me, I'll prefer to marrying someone who I love and just because my parents tell me so. It would be me to feel that way, and not them. But often times, arranged marriage happens and the child can't do something about it. For the merits and demerits of both life, I guess if you are into arranged marriage, then your parents exactly know what is the best for you. Usually, they know the other family. So they know for sure, that you will have the security. On the other hand, when you are in love marriage, you may not be accepted by your parents for loving him. Sometimes this happens too.

I am currently married out of love. I don't regret anything except if we're having pety quarrels...lol.. but I think thats normal (regreting u get married over quarrels, but not the whole thing)... (pardon me hubby...lol) On the other hand, I am not in favor of arranged marriage, why? 'cause thats not our culture mainly... It's really hard to get along with others under one roof, sharing the same bed, without even knowing him well (as per my opinion)... Some movies portrays this situation (I don't know in real life) and I think its really hard, especially if you pulled out the unlucky string...I mean, partner has mostly negative traits/behavior... but I guess this will best work if both parties like the idea...but if only 1 agrees, I think it will not work well...^___^ God bless you and Good Luck...

i'm single and would prefer love-marriage. i can't say it will be more successful than an arranged-marriage but that's the way i was brought up. my parents' marriage is love-marriage. my grandparents' marriages are love-marriages. all are successful. however, i'm not saying that arranged-marriage won't be successful. i've heard stories of the couple eventually falling in love with each other. so, who knows. but, one thing i'm sure of, and i hope it won't offend anyone, is that if your future is forced upon you, then that's where problems can start.

I think it depends on the people involved. If two people love one another and have the tools to make the marriage work. If it is an arranged marriage and both are able to learn to appreciate and respect eachother then love may grow and they could have a rich marriage. It really depends.

In my country, Itzmee, the US...it is customary to choose ones own spouse. If it is true love and the couple is mature and compatible and respects one another, it can lead to a long and beautiful marriage. But our divorce rate is very high...much higher than in countries where marriages are arranged. Perhaps it is because whoever arranges the marriage knows better than the younger person what is best. Or perhaps it is simply because divorce in some countries is considered unacceptable for whatever reason. I do not think a couple should ever stay married if they are miserable or one is cruel to the other. So whichever way it was done, arranged or chosen, I would prefer by far to be in a marriage that began with love or lead to love with time. Karen

i never think about my marriage,i would be marry at the coming 2010,i select arranged marriage,in fact,i have several experience about my love and this hurt me deeply,so i didnt believe what it is real love,this let me devoted to much,i could not gain anything from my love,this only leave my suffering and spend several years to heal this scar.so i select arranged marriage,my boyfriend treats my very well and take care of me,this make feel better.although i never love him from start,maybe i think that the time can cnange my opion and love him at last.

Hi, in my opinion, love marriage is better than arranged marriage. In a love marriage, you married for love and there is a high tendency that it will last longer than an arranged marriage. However, an arranged marriage may work out but thay is once in a while

i prefer love-developed marriage cause i get to know more my partner before we tie the knot...arrange marrige? i don't have idea..but i guess it depend for two person how deep is there understanding and the rest will fall in its places..

well i think everybody should do love marriage but in arrange way. find the one whom can love for whole life (difficult for mens ;)) and then tell your parents to that i wanna get married to that person and they will arrange it :P

i prefer love marriage...

hi frnds i m unmarried and i prefer love marriage than arrange........ And i think love marriage is better....

Of course I prefer to love marriage. As this is my marriage and I will spend my rest life with the one who I love, rather than the one who others love. So be sure I pay attention to my own feelings at first. I love China

Being from the west it would be unthinkable for me to enter into an arranged marriage because with me having individual choice is the most important thing in life. I could not live in a world where someone else tells me what kind of job to work, who to marry, how many children to have, what religion to follow, how to dress, or any other thing. I have, however, known a few couples who came from countries where arranged marriages were the norm and who had happy marriages with great love and affection for each other. I have also known women whose parents sold them to horrible men for money and who lived miserable lives. I guess it all depends on whether one's parents are wise and good or selfish and cruel. But if a proposed spouse was repulsive to the person being married off, I should think that wise and good parents would allow the person to veto the arrangement.

I'd rather have love marriage. AT least in love marriage, you already have a good foundation for your relationship. unlike in fixed marriages wherein you really didn't have a choice., In love marriages, you choose to be with person. In fixed marriages, you just marry the person simply because that is the person chosen for you to marry.

I support love marriage ,because the present reality of arranged marriages too boring .But there are also more likely to understanding each other after the well-being ,just like television speech of . my work is exporting shoes,clothes from china to worldwide on www.fugems.com .cheap and high quality . And the lovestory of me is also .

Hi there, Mine is love marriage but it did not start like any other relationship but the important thing is, our marriage and love has endured over time and we overcame a lot of trials. Meanwhile, i have a friend and i found out that her parents had a fixed marriage or arranged marriage. But you know what, i got to the family quite well and i can say that their family was one of the happiest families i have known (even happier than mine). If i did not know, i would not have guessed it because her mom and dad were very sweet with each other. Even until the last moments of their dad, they were all still together. Love can be learned, love can be prolonged, love can endure anything.... it's up to you, if you have an open heart for it....

i'm not marry jet but i think the best option is to be a love marriage but if is not it depends in the circupstances that it happend like who is the most benefit and if she or he is a good person that means that if some time you will be able to love her/him or is at least you guys are a good friends which would end up in love.