Who is more loyal in a relationship? man? or woman? why?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
December 7, 2009 11:31am CST
In other words who cheats more? man? or woman?
In my opinion man cheats on their partners much more than women, it is an Universal phenomenon.
Why do men cheat more?
They don't have that sincere thought of being chaste.
They are financially independent, so they can manage if their partners leave them after being caught.
They hope that women would forgive....
(oh God, I am always supporting women, feel guilty about it, heheh)
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@ChenYun1985 (55)
• China
8 Dec 09
Man, of course...
When a man is 10 years old,he like young and pretty lady.
When a man is 20 years old,he like young and pretty lady.
when a man is 40 years old,he like young and pretty lady.
when a man is 60 years old,he like young and pretty lady.
What a loyal and perpetual love!
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@aprilten (1966)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Thank you so much for being so honest and for supporting us women. I guess it's obvious what my answer is. I still don't understand why men, not all, cheat on their partners. What do those other women have that their partners don't. Is it the beautiful face and body, the youth, what? How come we women no matter how fat, old and ugly our partner turned out to be, we still remain loyal to our partners. Well, as they say men are men. Whatever that means...
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@nathanmani1946 (49)
• India
8 Dec 09
Woman is the most loyal than man.,sice they will care more for their family. Man doesnot have more loyal than woman because they have their own expances like drinking, spending time in clubs which the kadies doesnot like . So it is necessary for a man to be unloyal to their family, but woman donot have any expentidure which leads to be loyal.
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@roger_nautilus (335)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Well, I think it actually depends on the person. Some women are not satisfied with only one man; and, some men are not always loyal with their woman.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Dec 09
It is true bairuv, but what the majority do, that is the discussion here, thanks.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
hello dear brother,
Well,what can i say?...you have stated a very good reason why men are more cheater than women.
I guess,there is no enough evidence that men are cheater than woman(no static report regarding this matter).
Literally,men are open and bold for being cheaters in the society.
But,when we say "LOYALTY" is doesn't confined with cheating physically or having physical contact/affairs,having s*x and other relationship that involves physical contacts.
The society condemned women who cheats or have had other relationship with other man,that is why,some women hide their relationship.
One things to be considered too,cheating is not only about physical contacts,but also with mind and heart.Women who can never do any physical contact with other man are also capable of cheating...like pretending she loves her husband...but deep inside her mind,heart and thoughts...she loves another man.
That is one kind of cheating that a woman can do...to save her moral values and respect his husband civilly.
So,we can never tell who's loyal or who's cheater in a relationship dear brother.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Dec 09
So you are concluding that women also cheat equally like men? Or do they cheat on more by their minds?
You are shooting goals on same side like me..
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
it's not a conclusion dear brother,it's reality.
I have come to know about this reality when i met one friend here in the net saying that,...she never loves her husband(an arranged marriage),but since she had to obey her parents(cultures and tradition is a big part)she had no choice but to marry the man(she loves another man)
So,in her mind...she's imagining the man she loves every time her husband make love to her.I understand her situation...and i admire her courage of martyrdom.
Remember how i run away from my supposedly marriage?(an arranged one...how stubborn i am)
@themdno (402)
• United States
7 Dec 09
I think men and women cheat about the same amount, but I think men are just much stupider when it comes to hiding it. A woman wont get caught nearly as often as a man.
Also, I think women are better liars. I think men lie more, but I think women are better liars. So, if a man starts to figure out that his woman is cheating, she lies until he cant figure it out.
When a man cheats, and the woman starts to figure it out, he'll give some obvious lie, and she'll figure it out right away.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
8 Dec 09
Oh, I see. So women are able to not only cheat on us but also to hide them smartly.
@vandana7 (100638)
• India
8 Dec 09
Hi vijayanths, I think physically, women are more loyal. It is very difficult for them to extract time from their household chores, office timings, and children's responsibility, apart from maintaining social relationship with friends and relatives. There are other social issues involved that do deter women more than the man. So it is physical inability to stray I guess. :) Mentally, I think women are more beauty conscious, more aware of aesthetics so ..... :)
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
8 Dec 09
oh, this is an interesting new news to me, may be it is like that in your country.
@villanueva2009 (3)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Men cheat more compared to women. In our family circle alone, womanizer runs in our blood. I really hate them. My father, 2 brothers, 2 male cousins are womanizer but never a single woman in our family cheated!
they cheat more is not actually because they are financially independent but i know that is one factor.
accdg to my womanizer family members nothing will lose if they made an affair or they cheat but if woman cheat on their partners they are dirty. but they don't know they lose the trust we have from them and that can never be put back again. and your're right,men can manage their partners after being caught because they are physically capable,strong! so that is why they are so arrogant, feeling great when they cheat on their partners!
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
8 Dec 09
I think India and Phil have many things in common, villanueva2009.
@villanueva2009 (3)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
the fact also that we are considering here the deep root from our history "patriarchal society", though girl power is now common.. we can't still wipe out easily the deep rooted thinking from history, even in animal kingdom. animal instinct also is a factor.
@moonshadow1087 (15)
•
8 Dec 09
I think it depends on how you deal with your relationship/marriage. Some men cheat because of some incapabilities of women or maybe they don't fully understand the nature of their partner, that is why they tend to seek another partner hoping they would find what they are looking for. For women although they knew the flaws of their partner they tend not to go for another relationship immediately because women thinks about considering and understanding the incapabilities of some men, and try tolerating them hoping that they would change, and also women prioritize their children and their responsibilities more than anything.
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
7 Dec 09
I feel that relationships are built on faith and one should see that this faith they have in each other should be honoured. I dont think that men are cheats at least this is my view which i have formed about my husband. There are surely ups and downs in life but being there and mending ways to cover up past faults has been his policy and all this has only added my trust in him.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Dec 09
Hi, Limcy, we must have faith on our partners. This is very important but blind faith is not advisable either.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
15 Dec 09
I would say it's equal. Women cheat on their men in a much more subtle way. They never do it in a noticing way. Some women do it boldly and make themselves visible. But most women, if they seek solace in another man other than their partners, they do it in a very very safe way. They first see to it that the situation is totally in favour of them, and also that nobody would get to know... and then go ahead with their intentions like a sly fox.
But men are not like that, they just go ahead and cheat on their wives and get caught. You can't generalize on this ratio. It's equal, or you maybe surprised if the ratio was more in the woman's side. Women are far more fickle compared to men, but men are are far more lusty. Women tend to cheat on their partners due to insecurity in relationships, and lack of feeling loved and taken care of. But men cheat on their partners due to lust and lack of control on their senses.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 09
Women are normally the victim in relationships because they feel responsible for the children more than men. That is the reason most women remain faithful in a marriage. Women who are single or who are barren do not worry much about being faithful as they do not have dependents. This is the reason women normally do not stray when married, Vijayanth.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
As you've said man are more cheater than woman. And you know that it is universal. Well I have known a man who does not cheat with his wife and that is my husband. As of now he will not cheated! hehehe! But i have other man that i know he is not a cheater as of now too! And he is my friend. It is really hurt to us women if we are cheated by our partner. We put our trust to them and then after, they cheated us. Specially in friends. I always put my trust to them but after a while they make me like a rag to put inside the thrash can. Leaving like i don't know you. Yhanks anyway into your topic I voiced out my feelings!
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Dec 09
yes, mods, nice to voice out feelings here friend.
All husbands appear as one woman man to the wives and vice versa. World is a drama stage where we all act.
@beabenitez (153)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
were talking here about more loyal...in general it is a woman who is more loyal in a relationship...though woman is also capable of cheating but we may say, they are a lesser evil...