Would You Allow Your Partner to Sleep with Someone Else?

I personally couldn't do it, but I think if couples want to do this, then they need to be very open and honest about their opinions. It may sound like a good idea at the time, but I fear the woman would feel terrible and not good enough and probably feel pressured to just go ahead and sleep with him. I realize that men have needs and I would definitely care about that, because that can get very frustrating, but if they really love you, I think they should be okay with it if you weren't going to allow them to sleep with someone else. They can always relief themselves on their own, just saying :)

for me pillow08, I will let that man go, if he can't wait then whats the point of staying. I wish every women are financially independent and not depend on the spouse for support...allowing your husband to sleep with another person is not respecting your own marriage.

Of course I am not the conceited type and I vehemently denied or disagree even it is just a plan or the relationship have not yet prospered. As it in instances as you mention the relationship is lasted for more than many years I think i am not obligatory to give in to his desires unless I like it with full endearing passion and we both love to do it with less contradiction. Though, in just doing the deeds does not justify that I really need to sacrifices, if he could wait then it is better than give in it is the way to test each other loyalty. Though, the partner may be tempted to sleep with someone which I have no control over it as most of the times I could not follow or investigate every move or follow whatever places he go then he truly admit it to me. I may forget and forgive him but if he does it many times then the relationship is over no need for explanation anymore....

Oh,It's so crazy.IN china ,for a woman,It's a shame.I will never allow my future husband.For me ,It's so terror.My ideal life :have a love me husband ,several chilaren.Maybe there are many helpless in reality,I believe there must have very loyal man in the world.I can find him. HAPPY LIFE.my friend...

Hi pillow08, My sister-in-law's case is just the same as your friend's. It has been like that for over 14 years. Her husband sleeps on sofa in the dinning room. Sister-in-law and his son in one room. They have 2 children. The man goes to a place in China to meet his woman and children there every weekend and during holidays. I do not know how my sister-in-law bears with it. Moreover, she has never said a word to anyone of us in the family. It is just like an open secret. However, she cannot sleep well for all these years. We believe that as a traditional Chinese woman, she spends all her effort to maintain the family, so that her children can meet their father quite often. She works, too. She is the main financial support of her family as her husband, being a sales manager in an insurance company, does not have stable salary, and needs to give some to the second family in China. I believe woman's love usually is so great when dealing with family in the Chinese society. I do not know what to say. I do not know if it is right or wrong. People choose their ways of living differently. I would only hope that they are happy. Have a nice day! agonyaunt69 (5:22pm 9 Dec 2009, Hong Kong time)

OK! I have a couple of things to say to all this! First of all, I would NEVER let my guy to sleep with someone else! I hate cheating, i don't believe in it! and sometimes I think I'm the only person left in this world who thinks like that!... anyways... If the guy really wants to be with you, he should be able to wait for you to be ready to "give" yourself to him! If not, then he should go find something else! But then again, I don't see myself being in a relationship with a guy for YEARS and not "give" myself to him! a couple of weeks, a month maybe... but YEARS????????????!!!!!!!!!!!! I personnaly don't think it's normal to be in a serious relationship for YEARS and not give yourself to you guy (unless you're just too young). Oherwise, I think you should consider finding what the problem is!! As far as the friend - mon - and - dad story... If the mom doesnt love the dad anymore, but depends on him financially and doesnt mind him sleeping around, and if he doesn't mind doing this either, I don't see the problem... People find different ways of living together and supporting/helping each other out... as long as both of them are ok with this, I don't think it's weird ot abnormal! But still... I do believe that people deserve a chance of true love! So when the mom get financially independent (and she should!) they should both get separated and go looking for their "soul mates". Cuz living with someone you truely love is more fullfilling than being with someone you don't care for, just because it suits you!

If I was in any kind of relationship I would not want my man sleeping with another woman. If he needs relief there is self love, not another woman.

Whoa! No way. Why would I want to be in a unhealthy relationship like that lol. If there's no respect for the commitment anymore, then why bother staying. That kind of relationship will only ruin my life. Life is short and I just want to be happy. Torturing myself like that is just wasting my time. Is not only about the commitment but also about your self respect. If you let others treats you like that, the how would you expect people to respect you. Oh not to mention sleeping around is STD's best friend. I wouldn't risk myself to it, just because I'm so "kindhearted" to let my man sleeps around. lol. Interesting topic!

I think I couldn't do it,but I know some one likes this.The wife lost the woman's ability and she let her husband sleep with someone else.I think the woman is very painful abou her decision but she still love her man ,and don't want to leave him.

Honestly, I don't want to allow my partner to sleep with someone else. I admit that I can't avoid thinking about my partner's doings. I don't allow my partner unless with same gender.

dear I will never allow, or accept this type of realationships. Tks/Regards Prabha

No, No, No. If the guy loves me and really wants me, He should wait till i'm ready. yeah, guys have their "needs". Same as women do. But do women get all their needs from their men? Not all, especially after marriage. Most often than not, a lot of the excitement fades off when they got everything they wanted from women. So from the moment i'm asking him to wait till the day, before he says I do. he should really know if he loves the girl enough to wait till then and be faithful. I believe there is no right minded and loyal woman will let his man, sleep around with other women. that is just too painful, knowing that he enjoys and seek the body of other woman other than you