Stay Up Up Up...
By Khushi309
@Khushi309 (139)
India
December 10, 2009 5:05am CST
My friend and I got into this crazy habit last year. We would talk on the phone until late at night, chat, sms, etc. But now i cannot seem to be able to keep awake. I don't know why. As it gets to 12, 12:30, I fall asleep, and this hurts my friend. I don't know how to make up for it, I tried staying up, but I just can't seem to be able to... even the phone vibrating will not wake me up, such a deep sleep i fall into. It would not help me during the day either, as the next day I have to get up early and get to class. Last year my classes were in the afternoon, so if I got up late it was okay. My friend stays up all night, brooding because I would fall asleep. i have known my friend to have stayed up 3 days in a row! I hate it when this happens, but what to do?
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11 responses
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
11 Dec 09
It is going to be difficult to stay awake because you have to wake up earlier now unlike last year. Your friend is naturally very active at night but you are not, this is because people are wired differently. Tell your friends that you have to sleep early so that you can wake up early for your classes. Tell him to try to understand your situation and you will make it up to him when you no longer have morning classes
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I am having the same problem i used to stay up till 1 or 2 and not have any problems but now my eyes start closing even while instant messaging and i dont know how to prevent it. Is it possible after a couple years of depriving my body of sleep it just needs the rest. Thats what im guessing , the body has defenses built in to stop us from hurting our selves. Waking up has always been an issue for me i am not an early moring person.
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
12 Dec 09
yes, maybe we should look into that. but i wasn't exactly depriving my body from sleep, i just slept late and woke up late. basically, there wasn't much difference in the amount of sleep i got...
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I think that you shouldn't feel guilty of not being able to stay awake and speak with your friend. Maybe the best thing is to tell your friend what is going on and just be honest with them. They should be understanding especially since you have classes during the morning hours instead of having classes in the afternoon hours, so now you can't stay up as late as you used to.
@greatsasuke (472)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Don't worry about it. Your friend should understand that you have to get up early the next day for class. Tell your friend if you can start your conversations at an earlier hour because of your new schedule. Maybe you can stay up longer on the weekend with your friend and chat. Another idea would be to switch your phone off after a certain time, so your friend knows that you are asleep and not to call anymore. In the end if they are a real friend they will understand that it is nothing personal and that he/she should respect your wishes.
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
12 Dec 09
i guess you are right in saying i should try to make up for the lost time in some way. maybe talk more on the weekends. thanks for the advice...
@letssstalk (285)
• India
10 Dec 09
HI KUshi
Infact i am in the same situation , me and my fiance from past 8 month enjoy gossiping on the phone late night daily, sometime it goes upto 5-6am , but from last few weeks he seems not interested talk late night which hurts me lot, i love to talk with him max time, but his this attitude some time make me sad, i knew i have to understand his problem but i cant . i guss i am addicted talking late night with him .
Sorry kushi i dont have suggestion for YOU ..
take care
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
12 Dec 09
i know what you mean. i m interested in talking max time too, but what if you just can't stay up? i go to sleep mid reply, can you believe that? imagine how exhausted i must be to do that...
@jessica67 (21)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Everyone's sleep patterns change throughout their lives. Everyone needs sleep to function and be healthy. And each person's requirements are different. Listen to your body and follow it's lead. Try not to let your friends influence what is healthy for you as an individual. If you are in school, you need good sleep to succeed. Yes, I know I sound like a mom, but I am! Take care of yourself.
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
12 Dec 09
thank you. i m glad somebody understands what i am going through, knowing what i should do, and what is expected of me, i m in conflict. how to pick one?
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Hi, Khushi309. It is a good idea if your friend would let you get some rest. I mean, you have class to go to the next day and you need your rest so that you can do well in school. Your friend should not expect for you to stay up all night talking on the phone. You will have to take the time to explain this to your friend. If they can't understand that then they are really not your friend. Remember a real friend will want you to get all of your rest so that you can feel like yourself! It is selfish for this friend to want you to devote all of your time with them. That is very unfair!
@ashok8923 (2)
• India
11 Dec 09
I think your friend should understand your problem. It is not possible for you/anyone to devote your whole night to talk to someone, whether he is your friend or a relative. Moreover, your body is not allowing you to remain awake late in the night. If you don't respect your body, you can't respect your soul, your friends, etc. If your friend does not understand your problem, he can't be your friend. However, your mail only mentioned about his sufferings of three days in a row, which means, he already understand your problem. Keep happy and healthy (bodily & mentally) friendship with him.
-Ashok-
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Just because your friend can stay up, doesn't mean that you have to. Your friend should respect the fact that you have to sleep.
@kondaus (8)
• India
10 Dec 09
i suggest you to meet your friend directly once have a cup of coffee and speak politely,and tell him about your problems in a cool way.he will definitely understand your problems,you are telling he is your friend he will definitely understand your problems,because a friend in need is a friend in need,please meet him personally and share ur feelings,it will definitely help u.
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
12 Dec 09
i have tried to explain things but you just that the person sitting across you is not gonna listen to what you are saying, and brush it off as excuses...
@fsll518 (304)
• China
11 Dec 09
I think you and your friends must be in a differnt time zone... that's always difficult. If you really feel good about each other, then why not be together in person?
Friendship is valuable, but have to understand your health is also priceless!
It can be problematic if you get insomnia because of staying up too late.
There are many ways to have communication, offline message or e-mail... etc. All can be good to keep in touch :)
