Lovers didn't contact for five days.
By mybeatrice
@mybeatrice (203)
China
December 10, 2009 8:23am CST
Tonight I watch a US movie which called: He is not that into you, and it says that if a guy does not call you for a long time, like three days or so, he may never call, and that means he may not into you.
And after seeing that, I begin to doubt about my relationship with my boyfriend, my boyfriend and I only meet each other for one or two times per week, and he seldoe called, even in the day time I see his MSN and QQ online, but we seldom talk.
I asked him tonight and told him about that movie, he told me not to take that movie too seriously. The reason why we didn't contact with each other is that we were too busy. And whenever he had spare time, he would keep me accompany.
No matter what he says, I begin feel a little puzzle about our relationship...
4 responses
@curiousplay54 (341)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 09
Hi mybeatrice, just discuss the matter with him, tell him that the both of you need to spend time more often. if you can't see each other at least make it a habit to send mobile text, email, IM or better yet just give a call. both parties need to make an effort to make a relationship work, so don't loose hope. Fight for your love...all the best (^_^)v
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@mybeatrice (203)
• China
12 Dec 09
hello curiousplay, thank you for your advise, I did told him about this, but afterward I do find the it totally not necessary. Since we both busy, and when he invite me out, i always have to say no because when he is available, I may not, and when I availabe, he doesn't have time. I think we meet one to two times a week is okay. I don't like to stick with a person for too long time too, because that would make me feel that I don't have enough private time.
We are good with each other now, that's enough for us.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
11 Dec 09
hello Junmae, thanks for your response.
But i don't talk to him either, and also don't call him that often, but I know I care about him. I think we just feel the same, because we have too many things in common.
@dolly2686 (47)
• India
10 Dec 09
Hi mybeatrice! If we consider someone very close to our heart then they shoudl definitely cross our mind often. Eventhough he is busy with his work if he really cares he would ask about ur lunch or dinner in between buzzing you.Well Dont directly shoot him that feeling down with his behaviour.This sounds odd to him because all are not same in this world. Everyone got their own ways of caring people and also never compare things. But to some extent people do have similar emotions but approaches are always different.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
11 Dec 09
hello dolly thank you. we think about the person we care often. and I also trust him he is really busy to call me or so, maybe it is just an excuse. I seldom call him too, I seldom think of him in the day time during working, I admit that the days when we start hanging out, we call each other often, but after our relationship becomes stable, we don't call each other that often. I think we both know we we in each other's mind, so we don't care to call to show that.
@Amigone (43)
• United States
10 Dec 09
You make time for the people you care about. My boyfriend does not call me either but he makes sure to chat with me daily online which actually works better as I have a lot of work to do at home and it's easier for me to carry on a conversation like that.
I think that it's very telling that you approched him about your feelings and he kinda blew them off. You need to be more direct about how you are feeling in regards to communcation and spending time together. Even if he just chats with you every day or every other day for an hour on line that's SOMETHING.
Although you shouldn't take a movie to seriously, I think that you are questioning the things you are unhappy with and if he cares he will try and help you feel better about it.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
11 Dec 09
Hello Amigone, thanks for your reponse. it is wierd that though we have been together for more than a year and seems that we always good, and he seldom call me and I seldom call him too. Yesterday we talked about this calling issue and he says we care about each other, and since we both busy it is commont that we seldom call. I believe in him because I am the same, when i work, I almost forget everything.
