Ugly Duckling

Beauty is only skin deep. I have come across good looking guys but they have terrible personalities. The nicer guys tend to be the ones that don't look as good. Their beauty is on the inside. Your friend needs to decide for herself and not to be influenced by any one else. If she was happy with the guy, then she should have stayed with him. By listening to other people she is now unhappy. I know that because I have been a victim of one person influencing my friend. Now because my friend listened to this person, my friend and I are no longer friends. It really upsets me because I know what this other person had said to my friend is not the truth. But my friend was so much in love with this other person, he believes her over me and there is nothing I can do.

I think that is absolutely ridiculous. I have been with my boyfriend for years and I find him incredibly attractive. A few of my friends don't really but thats perfectly fine with me. Some of the guys my friends date I don't find attractive, but its not MY date so why would it matter? Basing decisions of off friends opinions alone, first off, is ridiculous. Secondly, if she finds him attractive then she should be with him. And if not then she is incredibly shallow.

Hi dear! :-) It is not understandable that you friend dumped her boy friend because her friends told her that her boy friend looks ugly. You see inner beauty is invariably more important than outer beauty and if one is beautiful from inside, s/he could be a very good friend/partner rather than the one, who is only beautiful from outside. Have a great day! Keep Smiling! Cheers! Deepak

As the saying goes, beauty depends upon the eyes of the beholder, why the one in love care other's attitude? If i fall in love with someone, i will not change the love according to his/her physical appearance.Because the most important thing he/she attract me is the person ,his/her character,ability,hobbies...physical appearance is just one aspect. And in other hand, even he/she looks beautiful, but with the time goes by, he/she will not beautiful as before.Will you pumped again? I think it is fool to break up according the physical appearance.Why you fall in love with someone and later find he/she is not beautiful?

the old addage that you do not love someone because they are beautiful but they are beautiful because you love them applies here. If she let her friends talk her out of her being with him because of his looks then she is more the fool for listenting. When people do things like that they are generally jealous.

"It is not in the eyes to see but for the heart to feel", a common phrase most people say about love yet less is to materialize this. I pity your friend for her demeanor if indeed she missed the guy. She has chosen to deny her affection because her faith in the promise of love is weak. Love as we all should realize is not measured by anything except the gravity of happiness we feel along with that person nor it is paralleled by the physical aspect. We only have chances and choices in life. Most often our chance is given once and we decide swiftly that we most the time chose the wrong one. If there is still another chance, be glad and never waste time to lose it again.

If you let physical appearance be more important than what the person is like inside, their personality, you are very foolish. You may have met your soul mate but if they don't look like you think they should you back away. Looks are so unimportant. And to let your friends decide who you go with is far worse. You are the biggest fool after all. They have no invested interest in him or you and you loose. Your friend sold herself to her friends. She let them decide who she should or should not love. They lost nothing. She lost the person she loves and if he knows why, she hurt him beyond words. Shame on her.

No, I would not dump him because of how he looks. I have dated many men in my life that was not all that appealing to the eye. And people would remind me that he is ugly and what not. But, I still stay with him. Sometimes, looks does not matter when you like or love someone. I would still be with this person regardless of someone else's opinion. Besides, it is my decision, not theirs. He is the one that I will be making happy, not them.

Looks shouldn't matter that much. I mean, we all become wrinkly and disgusting when we're old...what really matters is their character. As long as the guy doesn't look like Sasquatch, I could care less...but I wouldn't even consider dating someone who was hot but acted like a jerk

Your friend should not let others tell her she should not be with her boyfriend just because they do not think he is good looking. If she has a good time with him and he treats her well and they enjoy each others company that is what should count not his looks.

Well, if I'm going to go out with someone I should choose a person that I like. Why should anyone care about if their friends will find that person attractive or not? He or she is going out with you and not with them, so you should only care about that

Look doesn't really matter for as long as you love someone. And I wouldn't risk my happiness by throwing away my love because of other's opinion..

It is ridiculous that someone dumps a boyfriend or a girlfriend because of pressure. If "Look" is the only criteria, why go into a relationship at the first place. When you say that you like a person, you like him or her as a whole; look is just a part of it. Your friend seems to be shaky person whose mind keep changing based on others opinion. This a also an ugliness of personality, probably more ugly than the physical look.

It's unfortunate that she lets her friends control her life....She should not. If the person you are with has a good heart, this is what it is really all about. Looks should be secondary and not top priority... The heart always wins over looks everytime... Hopefully your friend will soon understand this...

No. I have had people judge the looks of those I dated before. My idea of beautiful is much different from most. I would simply tell my friend that I don't feel the same way and to kindly grow up as we aren't little highschool children anymore.

I am just wondering why did she allow her friends to overrule her regard for the guy, even if he was ugly? I am sorry to say this, but I don't think they are her friends to begin with. That is very childish, being discriminated against just because you look different. And to begin with, she chose the guy, not them. Bottomline, why did she allow it to happen? She is to blame for this, nothing else. She should have been smart enough....